How did no one speak up??? That's horrible! People at my school (I'm also a current medical student) would be raising hell if that happened here. November 09, 2020 at 12:05AM

Hi Sam, lt sounds like what you don't understand is the difference between libido and sexual attraction. The info that you're missing is that (most) asexuals do have a libido, it's just not "directed" at someone. So, the only sexual feeling that they have is their libido, which can be either high or low (just like a straight/gay/bi/pan person's can). I know it's hard to picture, but it might help to try and think of a time when your libido spiked (e.g. due to pms or ovulation) while you were home alone. You were just minding your own business, not thinking about sex, there were no guys around, no one to attract you, yet you still felt slightly aroused. We might differ here because you then probably thought of some guy who you're attracted to, but the point is that your libido wasn't triggered by seeing someone you find attractive or actively thinking about sex, it was just there of its own accord, because of your hormones. As others have mention

Yeah, there are chapters in various states! It's not that big, and I'm not sure what the other chapters are like lol. Honestly i just joined, and I've never been in any other frats so that's really all I can say about it lol November 09, 2020 at 12:00AM

I think you nailed it with your last paragraph 😊 November 08, 2020 at 11:57PM

I feel like something similar happened in the anime "One Piece" the main character, Luffy is ace, confirmed by the creator. He was put on an island of only females, and their leader kinda thought he'd be seduced or something by her naked body, but he just stared and asked why she was naked. November 08, 2020 at 11:56PM

But you want it ~ November 08, 2020 at 11:55PM

ace doesnt exist? we're five percent of the population! November 08, 2020 at 11:51PM

Yeah, and you know I’m sure it’ll be better when I grow up, I am only 15 yknow? November 08, 2020 at 11:51PM

No definitely not Air Force. So yeah I’m in a trade school, however not for the reason of avoiding sex culture November 08, 2020 at 11:48PM

A trade? Unless you're in the Air Force. November 08, 2020 at 11:48PM

What would you define a flight school as? November 08, 2020 at 11:46PM

Really great song that one. November 08, 2020 at 11:45PM

You'll just have to work very hard at it. Initiate even when you don't feel like it. Figure out if there's a type of porn or something you like that can get you in the mood. Understand that your sex life is not going to look like others and make peace with that. And side note - it won't cure your depression. In fact, forcing yourself to do things you don't really want to may make it worse. November 08, 2020 at 11:36PM

Frats and sororities, for the most part, are just groups for the assholes who peaked in high school and cliques for rich kids to make them feel superior to everyone else (a bit redundant from the first thing I said). A lot of them certainly aren’t LGBTQ+ friendly (given that conservative white kids make up most frats/sororities), and that’s one of the many reasons why I will never join a sorority and stay away from Greek life in general. My cousin joined a frat last year and he has been growing into a giant asshole since then (who’s partying in the middle of covid, to boot). He only talks about getting wasted with his “boys”, hooking up with all the white girls he sees, and how (insert celebrity here) is a brother of his frat. It’s depressing to see what he has become, especially since he used to be a nice kid. November 08, 2020 at 11:33PM

Congrats. I had the same thing happen when my pan friends explained their sexuality I was like ' yeah that's how it works, you meet someone get to know them than move into a relationship ' but I still don't get it somehow lol November 08, 2020 at 11:31PM

The mf cant even get the sexualities right. If you were ace and didnt have a romantic preference I'm 98% sure you'd be panromantic, not bisexual November 08, 2020 at 11:27PM

That seems awesome! Are they like a national frat with ones at other schools? November 08, 2020 at 11:24PM

Oh just things like I'm heteroromantic, and I'm not huge on hugging/touching November 08, 2020 at 11:24PM

I'm always fascinated by the ads I get. The algorhitm sometimes spams me with dating app, lube and phone ads ("hello, fellow young person"), or offers me a wide variety of career education programs, then pregnancy and baby stuff in combination with suburban mom fashion and cleaning products, and sometimes it's retirement fund and private clinic ads. I've "tweaked" facebook to show me linen and laptop ads almost exclusively, but otherwise I have ad personalisation turned off on all devices because the algorhitm amuses me. November 08, 2020 at 11:22PM

Thanks! I mean I wish I could have a normal relationship but I feel like the chances are low with how I am November 08, 2020 at 11:19PM

Nothing is really official. Just buy whatever flag you like. November 08, 2020 at 11:19PM

I felt this as another person with OCD who's looking for help. So much of the treatment for orientation-related obsessions is geared towards convincing people who are afraid they're gay that they're straight, which doesn't apply to me at all. It's usually quite the opposite of helpful. I don't know if I have any real advice, just wanted to let you know you're far from the only one going through this, and I know how tough it is. November 08, 2020 at 11:18PM