So. Stinkin'. Cute! September 02, 2020 at 11:54PM

I might be aro-ace, but since I could also be repressed or schizoid, I don't want that to effect the message of my post, which I feel is still applicable to the aro-ace community, whether or not I end up being part of it or not. I don't want to invalidate or offend, and I don't want it to seem like I am making being aro-ace out to be a mental disorder or defective state. Not all aro-ace people have traumas or psychological issues like me that might that lead to them not wanting relationships. September 02, 2020 at 11:53PM

Oh, your definitely not alone. September 02, 2020 at 11:48PM

Thanks September 02, 2020 at 11:48PM

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. :C This has happened to me many, many times, since I was 12 or 13. Even if you weren't asexual and just weren't interested for any reason whatsoever, you would get the same response. It has even happened to me a few times IRL, with classmates in college. Sometimes I've gotten yelled at. I'm often told that I'm a waste of their time. I'm a lot more guarded when men talk to me. I understand being friendly but I'm very sensitive about where my boundaries are and very firm as soon as those boundaries are crossed. September 02, 2020 at 11:48PM

Where'd you get it? September 02, 2020 at 11:47PM

I’m also 13 and ace, things can always change but if you feel ace, be ace September 02, 2020 at 11:46PM

I guess this is just something that varies from person to person, because I'm also aroace but I feel neutral to my biological sex. It just kinda exists and I wouldn't be bothered if I was born male or female, but I don't feel like my gender identity or biologic sex plays a part in my romantic or sexual orientation. Like me being neutral to gender and stuff bares no impact on my lack of romantic/sexual attraction, they exist separately in my mind even if they all come together to make who I am if that makes any sense? But while I am indifferent to my own genitals I will say I'm not comfortable near someone else's genitals. September 02, 2020 at 11:45PM

Yeah I think it's safe to say the LGBT community has alot of problems. September 02, 2020 at 11:43PM

It feels like we’re in a tiny bubble on the side of the big LGBTQ+ bubble. September 02, 2020 at 11:40PM

You know those like rubber band bracelets, well I am into those so what I did was I said I need a ring for those so I can size it and i edited out all of the ace stuff and they let me get it September 02, 2020 at 11:40PM

Acetastic objects (ace + fantastic = acetastic) September 02, 2020 at 11:35PM

Alright I’ll look into that! Honestly I’m not looking for a micro label at all I just didn’t know if I was the only one who felt like this lol. Thanks for the input! September 02, 2020 at 11:32PM

Yeah, that sums it up pretty well for me too. I wish I was sexless and wondered if I maybe was non-binary or agender, but identifying as such will not make my genitals disappear, in the end these labels help with self-discovery, gender identity but will not change how others will perceive me and especially my body. I can't tell OP how close this is linked to me being asexual, but I only started to question my gender and the inherent sexualization of my body after discovering I was ace. September 02, 2020 at 11:27PM

when i stumbled across this sub i thought r/asexuality was about the science term... September 02, 2020 at 11:21PM

I feel the same. I feel like we are our own group. Theres the straight people, the lgbt people, then us- the asexual people. Idk why, it just makes more sense to me September 02, 2020 at 11:18PM

Oh lord, this was my entire childhood. September 02, 2020 at 11:18PM

Sounds like maybe aegosexual/romantic then. They like the idea of sex or relationships, but not when it involves them personally. September 02, 2020 at 11:13PM

Well, I'm 39, so guess I'm a really, really late bloomer... September 02, 2020 at 11:13PM

What I mean is like when I think about, I totally want to date/have sex and I’m all for the idea of it until I’m around people and then I’m like “yeah nevermind.” Like I’ve never looked at a person in real life and felt any attraction, however, I’ve had plenty of thoughts alone about wanting to be with someone (also this might sound weird, but in a certain sense I’ve been “attracted” to fictional characters, not actual attraction but like I thought they were hot. Idk but thanks for the input. September 02, 2020 at 11:10PM

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ETA; we have discussed this many times prior to the wedding and the fact that I am not comfortable with him going to a strip club for various reasons. He was well aware of this fact but chose to do so anyway. It’s made worse by the fact that it was his idea to begin with. Throw away for obvious reasons. My husband and I got married Aug 22. Now, in the past 13 years (Together since 12/13) there have been some ups&downs on both our parts. For the last year, we’ve struggled with him watching obscene amounts of porn while neglecting our relationship in the bedroom. We’ve since talked things through&it has gotten better. My confidence is still at an all time low though. The night before our wedding we went our separate ways. He went with his groomsmen, I went with my bridesmaids. We had all discussed plans beforehand&everyone agreed we didn’t want a wild night out. I had even told my husband that they were free to go out if they wanted, I just preferred he not go to a strip

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