So my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months now (all together we've been together for around 2 years, we are always on and off) and she's been telling me she hates her parents and they make her feel depressed and now I think she's scared of love because of her parents so she pushes anyone away tht loves her. I could use some help on what I should do. Thanks. Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:28PM So my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months now (all together we've been together for around 2 years, we are always on and off) and she's been telling me she hates her parents and they make her feel depressed and now I think she's scared of love because of her parents so she pushes anyone away tht loves her. I could use some help on what I should do. Thanks.

Should I show my face to prove? It really sucks out there people. Even when I overlook how someone looks and base interest solely on their description it's like even those people shoot me down. My wording isn't off or anything. I don't just write "Hi" or come off as desperate as if I'm doing everything I can to please the other person. I really don't. I wouldn't say I'm boring either so wtf is going on? Is my face, height, and body really having that much of a negative impact on any chance of a love life? Am I going to die alone (22M, 5'8", ≈190 lb)?? It's like once I got interested in the opposite gender and once I started to notice how good everyone else was doing it's like my self-esteem has been shot to shit ever since. This is also kinda why I find the "love yourself first"-stuff to be bullshit. Literally every insecurity of mine is based on ny lack of human touch and loneliness, I'm fine otherwise I think. ...

My bf (22) and I (21f) have been together for 7 months. I don’t know if I can see myself ever marrying him. Part of me doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. I’ve been feeling this way for 2 weeks. Maybe I need more time to myself? He’s a great guy, truly good but part of me doesn’t feel safe with him because one time he was struggling mentally and financially and he suffers from trauma from his abusive childhood. his mom and I tried to give him money and I tried to put it in his pocket and he threatened to punch me. I’m really not sure how compatible we are... I’m so confused! Has anyone else felt this way!? Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:36PM My bf (22) and I (21f) have been together for 7 months. I don’t know if I can see myself ever marrying him. Part of me doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. I’ve been feeling this way for 2 weeks. Maybe I need more time to myself? He’s a great guy, truly good but part of me doesn’t feel safe with him because one time ...

General question, if answered elsewhere please guide me. A lot of the advice on here is very much based around the idea of getting improved communication, but how? I know most of my relationships have had poor communication, and any issues that come up are either brushed aside or under the rug. Or even worse sometimes unilaterally considered non-issues but one partner. So how does one go about fixing this. This can vary widely person to person but as a general rule what should one be trying, doing, and not doing. Thanks! Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:37PM General question, if answered elsewhere please guide me.A lot of the advice on here is very much based around the idea of getting improved communication, but how?I know most of my relationships have had poor communication, and any issues that come up are either brushed aside or under the rug. Or even worse sometimes unilaterally considered non-issues but one partner. So how does one go about fixing this.This can vary wid...

I’ll make this as short as I can. Last fall me and this girl I’ve known since we were 13-14 ish started hanging out more as we both moved away to the same city for school and work after high school. Keep in mind she had moved away for a while already so we sort of lost touch with each other for a couple years. I ended up winning some tickets to an NHL hockey game from a school contest, and I asked her to come with me seeing as we were in the same city now. It was a lot of fun so we started hanging out more on the weekends. We did things like finding new breakfast joints in the city and going out to edm shows or ‘raves’ where we danced together quite a bit. Over the span of a few months in the back of my mind I had kinda started to catch feelings but ignored them. One day I was hanging out with her and a couple of her other friends made assumptions and asked us if we had been dating for a while, and I joking said to her “I don’t know are we?” to which she replied “hey let’s just hav...

Okay so this guy has a house he has two roommates they have three cats I don't think any of them clean. I was curious as to if anyone else has this problem? Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:43PM Okay so this guy has a house he has two roommates they have three cats I don't think any of them clean. I was curious as to if anyone else has this problem?

I probably sound stupid but I’ve literally never done this before, do i offer to pay for her or is it that being too forward? Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:48PM I probably sound stupid but I’ve literally never done this before, do i offer to pay for her or is it that being too forward?

I (18f) have been seeing this guy (20m) for one month. We’re not officially a couple, but we’ve been on several dates and our relationship has been sexual the entire time. He’s super into me (I’m also his first sexual partner, if that’s relevant). I want to end things with him, but I feel bad about it. I want him to know that it’s not his fault. He’s a great guy, but I can’t be in anything resembling a relationship right now. First of all, I have anxiety issues. Not diagnosed, but I’ve been repeatedly told by friends and family to get it checked out because of my frequent panicking. I have a doctor appointment soon. I feel like this probably isn’t a good time to get a relationship off the ground, from a mental health standpoint. Just another source of stress. Secondly, I’m Catholic, and I’ve been feeling some severe cognitive dissonance every time I do anything sexual with him. I don’t really want to be in a sexual relationship anymore, but it’s clear to me that sex is an important ...

I’m a 16 yr old boy who’s looking to try to get with a girl who I’m friends with I have no classes with her and we don’t snap or anything what should I do to try to get with her Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:57PM I’m a 16 yr old boy who’s looking to try to get with a girl who I’m friends with I have no classes with her and we don’t snap or anything what should I do to try to get with her

My boyfriend left me about 3 nights ago. We were only together for a few months, he’s 16 I’m 18... but I did fall for him and I loved him deeply. He says he “fell out of love”. Is that possible? Any thoughts? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 12:02AM My boyfriend left me about 3 nights ago. We were only together for a few months, he’s 16 I’m 18... but I did fall for him and I loved him deeply. He says he “fell out of love”. Is that possible? Any thoughts?

I am currently attending trade school but am considering leaving that to take a job I’ve been offered as a carpenter and maintenance technician with my current employer. I just wanted to know whether women care if you have a degree or not? Assuming that I make a pretty decent salary with this position and career choice. Is this something women factor in heavily when it comes to who they date and who they commit to? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 12:07AM I am currently attending trade school but am considering leaving that to take a job I’ve been offered as a carpenter and maintenance technician with my current employer. I just wanted to know whether women care if you have a degree or not? Assuming that I make a pretty decent salary with this position and career choice. Is this something women factor in heavily when it comes to who they date and who they commit to?

Am I (26f) an asshole for breaking up with my boyfriend (28m) of 2 years over the phone? We are long distance - currently a 4 hour drive. I have been uncertain of our future for the past few weeks and have always felt like something was “off”, there just wasn’t a huge spark. I have loved this guy - we have had great trips and we have fun. But when we are together I get so annoyed by anything he does and talking to him I become disengaged. We’ve started talking about the future and anytime its brought up I have huge anxiety about it. Should I have waited until I visited him to break up? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 12:07AM Am I (26f) an asshole for breaking up with my boyfriend (28m) of 2 years over the phone? We are long distance - currently a 4 hour drive. I have been uncertain of our future for the past few weeks and have always felt like something was “off”, there just wasn’t a huge spark. I have loved this guy - we have had great trips and we have fun. But when we are toget...

Ok so there is this really cute girl in my class that I really want to talk to. However, there are no assigned seats and she usually comes into class pretty late so there wouldn’t be a chance for me to be able to sit next to her. So how should I approach this situation? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 12:13AM Ok so there is this really cute girl in my class that I really want to talk to. However, there are no assigned seats and she usually comes into class pretty late so there wouldn’t be a chance for me to be able to sit next to her. So how should I approach this situation?

me stumbling upon this subreddit after discovering asexuality and looking for confirmation that was indeed me October 02, 2019 at 12:15AM

Yep, got mine tested to see if they were behind my nonexistent libido or depression. They were fine. Turns out the depression was mostly from the psychological distress of trying to be something I'm not, so happily that is mostly resolved now that I know I'm ace :) October 02, 2019 at 12:12AM

Hey, thanks for listening! It's alright. October 02, 2019 at 12:10AM

Wait, you telling me that allos feel sexual attraction AT AGE 8?? well that wiped out any doubt I'm ace lmao October 02, 2019 at 12:02AM

The latter. October 02, 2019 at 12:01AM

That's terrible, I love it, lol XD October 02, 2019 at 12:00AM

Which orientation is usually assumed instead? Or is it more of a vague assumption that you are a nondescript allosexual? October 01, 2019 at 11:58PM

maybe, something like that. I can't really figure out if I'm aromantic or not and I've kinda given up on making that definition, but something I've realized is part of the reason why is that I do experience a certain attraction towards some people, which I've been confusing for romantic attraction, and then it suddenly hit me the other day that it is sensual instead. like, the damn EPITOME of sensual attraction. I don't necessarily want romantic things, I just want to have strong, mutual trust and comfort and connection with another human whom I know has my back, will care for me and I can do the same for them. like, a friend who is a soulmate. and that's not really romantic in nature. and I guess that replaces sexual attraction for me, too. the most I ever fantasize about doing with anyone is cuddling or being physically close with them, and it comes from a place of yearning for security and comfort rather than sexual desire. in other words, the film play...

Took a second because that's a new sentence for me but... yeah, cool. Hope you'll be super happy ^^ October 01, 2019 at 11:57PM

I’ve gotten stuff from cishets too but I don’t talk about my asexuality with them that much. It’s just really frustrating when I go into queer spaces and I’m told my sexuality is something other than what I’ve claimed it to be. October 01, 2019 at 11:57PM