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Sex while kids are in the house

I have started a long distance relationship someone who has full custody of two children. Because of this we don't really get much time alone together. I have concerns about our sex life going forward. We have differing opinions about this so I thought I'd see what the general thoughts are. Is it ok to have sex while children, who are old enough to know what may be going on, are in the house? Submitted August 02, 2021 at 12:35AM I have started a long distance relationship someone who has full custody of two children. Because of this we don't really get much time alone together. I have concerns about our sex life going forward. We have differing opinions about this so I thought I'd see what the general thoughts are.Is it ok to have sex while children, who are old enough to know what may be going on, are in the house?

Aroused by women but I’m not gay, what could it be ?? Possible TW SA

I saw a post here the other day about feelings in a girls “coochie” that she got cos of another girl. I really related with it cos I did have kinda similar feelings with girls in high school but I am not gay. I read that people can get aroused in situations of r*pe So even though when it was me it was not a forced situation and it was consensual does it mean it was really cos my body didn’t want it ?? Submitted August 02, 2021 at 12:36AM I saw a post here the other day about feelings in a girls “coochie” that she got cos of another girl. I really related with it cos I did have kinda similar feelings with girls in high school but I am not gay. I read that people can get aroused in situations of r*pe So even though when it was me it was not a forced situation and it was consensual does it mean it was really cos my body didn’t want it ??

Discomfort during sex, specifically in “doggy” style position.

So my lady and I really like doggy style, or from behind however you wish to phrase it. We also enjoy it at a decent speed. My problem is thus; by the time we reach the speed she really enjoys, my testicles are slapping so hard into her that it causes me discomfort and is distracting. I’ve tried with her legs closed, spread, in prone position, and her in what amount to a child pose from yoga. None of these seem to alleviate my problem. Thoughts? Submitted August 02, 2021 at 12:43AM So my lady and I really like doggy style, or from behind however you wish to phrase it. We also enjoy it at a decent speed. My problem is thus; by the time we reach the speed she really enjoys, my testicles are slapping so hard into her that it causes me discomfort and is distracting. I’ve tried with her legs closed, spread, in prone position, and her in what amount to a child pose from yoga. None of these seem to alleviate my problem. Thoughts?

Which is better: bouncing or grinding?

I’m referring to a girl-on-top situation. Questions open to everyone - state your cases! Submitted August 02, 2021 at 12:46AM I’m referring to a girl-on-top situation. Questions open to everyone - state your cases!

Been itchy after new partner?

Hello all, Like the title says, I’ve recently found a new sexual partner. We’ve both been tested and are negative and have only been with virgins or had LT relationships so I was not concerned. We did have sex without a condom once. I have recently been a bitch itchy down there. I know I’ve had yeast infections before with new partners for some reason, as with my previous partner I had my first and only two and hadn’t since. There is no smell and no discharge but the opening is quite itchy. There is also no swelling or rawness anywhere. It’s been a few days and I am considering just getting YI medicine as I haven’t been able to recently and thought it may just be irritation. What do you all think? Submitted August 02, 2021 at 12:50AM Hello all,Like the title says, I’ve recently found a new sexual partner. We’ve both been tested and are negative and have only been with virgins or had LT relationships so I was not concerned. We did have sex without a condom once. I have recently

Anybody have any tips or resources for talking to a partner who is insecure without making them feel bad or attacked?

My girlfriend (30) and I (29 M) are dealing with the issue of a large discrepancy about how much we want sex, with me wanting it far more often. I’m not too worried about finding info on trying to close the gap, the issue is that we can’t have conversations about it without her feeling attacked. She admits that it’s due to her insecurities, and I try to be as sweet and easy about it as I can. But whenever the topic comes up we have a hard time keeping the conversation on track. Thanks! Submitted August 02, 2021 at 12:56AM My girlfriend (30) and I (29 M) are dealing with the issue of a large discrepancy about how much we want sex, with me wanting it far more often. I’m not too worried about finding info on trying to close the gap, the issue is that we can’t have conversations about it without her feeling attacked. She admits that it’s due to her insecurities, and I try to be as sweet and easy about it as I can. But whenever the topic comes up we have a hard time keeping the conve

/u/schnekenrotze on Masturbation among aces

Sadly very regular because teenagers hormones but I want to stop as Son as possible because I don’t like it August 02, 2021 at 12:02AM

/u/anonymousartist13 on Recently Feeling More Non-Binary

I identify as non-binary and genderqueer, possibly abrogender. I go by they/them. I just felt like I didn’t fit as boy/girl, woman/man. I didn’t see or perceive myself with the binary genders, I feel more comfortable outside the binary genders. It just fits ways better. August 01, 2021 at 11:59PM

/u/2Agile2Furious on Just finding out about asexuality and having a crisis

You sound just like my wife, who I identify as ace. Except she doesn't want to learn about it or pick a label. August 01, 2021 at 11:58PM

/u/Snoring-Kat on Did anyone else ever "choose" a crush?

I didn't have any friends so it was never a problem! 😅 August 01, 2021 at 11:57PM

/u/SorrowAndSuffering on Libido has nothing to do with asexuality, it is in fact a complete coincidence that I'm not attracted to anyone and also have never had a libido. Okay no, but do you guys think that there's some correlation even if some aces have a libido?

That's typical for asexuals. Basically, asexual means a lack of two, however small that lack may be. The term doesn't actually say anything about how #1 is affected. August 01, 2021 at 11:55PM

/u/spqrnbb on What I want in my relationship....

Your post makes me believe that you are a -romantic asexual. Which type of -romantic depends on what your gender and desired partner's gender(s) are. If they're different, heteroromantic asexual (which is what I probably am). If they're the same, homoromantic. Biromantic, panromantic, basically any term you could put in front of -sexual would apply to -romantic for you. But, that's just my two cents and YMMV. August 01, 2021 at 11:54PM

/u/AnonymousHermitCrab on I’m confused:/

Those are pretty common ace experiences. Try taking a look at the ace microlabel Aegosexual: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aegosexual August 01, 2021 at 11:47PM

/u/AnonymousHermitCrab on How do I figure myself out?

I recommend taking a look at this page to see if any microlabels resonate with you: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/User_blog:Chaoticcylinder/%22I%27m_Questioning_My_Sexuality,_Is_There_A_Term_For...%22_(Part_2) ) The label Caedsexual comes to mind specifically with the latter half of your post: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Caedsexual August 01, 2021 at 11:41PM

/u/2Agile2Furious on Just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years because I'm ace

Sorry this happened to you. I'll add a little to what /u/stupideathmachine said; that even IF YOU WERE ALLO, you could still have been very sad if you were in one of the ~25% relationships where the woman has a higher libido than you, and those often don't end well for the allo guy, who is under too much pressure to satisfy her. Or you could have been in an allo relationship where the sex was great for both parties (which is rare) but your partner sucked in other areas as a mature functioning member of society. If you don't believe me look at /r/deadbedrooms or /r/femaledatingstrategy for all the way allo relationships can be terrible and fail. So I don't think there are many, if any, perfect relationships out there because let's face it none of us are perfect... so I try to be thankful and measure the good with the bad. And to answer your question, sex is important to allos, but also society conditions allos every day in all forms of media to expect that sex

/u/3_Eyed_Ravenclaw on Can anyone explain the differences between attractions please

Yes. I did not sexually want to be with them, but I realized that it was platonically romantic instead of friendship.Romance isnt sex. Romance is wanting someone to tell your secrets to, and snuggle under a blanket on the sofa, and watch a movie while sharing snacks. That isn’t best friend stuff, I later found out. August 01, 2021 at 11:36PM

/u/3_Eyed_Ravenclaw on Any garlic bread recipes?

A clove is one piece that breaks off of the big hunk. August 01, 2021 at 11:34PM

/u/GachaHater1 on Just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years because I'm ace

I'd say like the "Ace of Dates" Or "Ace of Spades Dates" August 01, 2021 at 11:29PM

/u/naivenb1305 on What is the difference between Finsexual, Gynosexual, Straight, and Hetero?

I've thought about what each term means to me. I think hetero is based on physical sex. I view Straight as any gender that is attracted to its exact opposite gender. I think gynosexual is any gender's attraction to feminine genders. Includes nb feminine genders. I view finsexual as attraction to (FIN), regardless of gender. I view minsexual as attraction to (NIN) regardless of gender. I view femboys as any masculine gender that is feminine, and is usually not done sexually. I am never fully binary, though I can be an enby woman. My analysis of my treatment by cis men: -I think that most of them were willing to be with someone of the same physical sex (homosexual). -Lots of them liked my willingness to present as femme, which means they were finsexual and minsexual, in the sense of presentation. -Some liked that I am an enby femboy sometimes, which is finsexual, minsexual, ninsexual, and androsexual, but not gynosexual. -Attraction to an enby feminine gender could be fin/n

/u/AnonymousHermitCrab on What I want in my relationship....

Asexual is an umbrella term itself. If you're looking for a label that's more specific then the term for that would be a 'microlabel.' I've found this page is a helpful place to start: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/User_blog:Chaoticcylinder/%22I%27m_Questioning_My_Sexuality,_Is_There_A_Term_For...%22_(Part_2) ) Cuddling and kissing would relate to sensual attraction (a tertiary attraction), and marriage would traditionally be related to romantic attraction. August 01, 2021 at 11:16PM

/u/Lissyleep223 on Ace Creators?

Rowan Ellis and Red of Overly Sarcastic Productions. August 01, 2021 at 11:11PM

/u/lightbulb-punk on Ace Creators?

Cavetown! Musician and also youtuber. he’s ace and aro. August 01, 2021 at 11:07PM

/u/Mecca1101 on People are trying to wipe away the little ace representation we have in characters and it’s making me upset

Yeah it’s kind of ironic cause relationship stories are so played out it could actually be argued that it’s lazier to write a standard romance than it is to do something unique and different with your characters. August 01, 2021 at 11:06PM