Yes. You can be aroace and a lesbian, gay, pan, etc. Being lesbian has little to do with sex, it has to do with attraction, which is not neceserrily sexual. December 14, 2020 at 12:02AM

You may be uncomfortable with a person like that and that's okay, but don't you dare have the gall to think you have any say on her identity. Asexuality is just feeling little to no sexual attraction, it doesn't define our general behaviour. We ain't robots. December 14, 2020 at 12:02AM

and they say aphobia doesnt exist... December 14, 2020 at 12:01AM

Ohh, I see. Thank you for clarifying, and yes, your final point is very true. December 14, 2020 at 12:00AM

My opinion is "yes", but just because a person is a very complex creature and nothing about sexuality or preferences is written in stone. Having said that, I absolutely agree with the previous commentor - do not force yourself to do that. It is okay not to have or not want to have sex. December 13, 2020 at 11:58PM

Oh no December 13, 2020 at 11:55PM

I am quite new to asexuality, so take my opinion with a grain of salt (is it the right expression? in other words with a bit of caution... English phraseologisms are not my thing). Firstly, I do not think she is a very nice person to be around, sounds a bit toxic to me. Different people have different ways of expressing themselves, different topics to discuss and it seems that she is just not your kind of people and doesn't really fit in in that group. An asexual person can have sex, can enjoy sex, although not sure what exactly it is called, but it certainly can be a part of asexuality, as I gather the main trait of an asexual is the absence of sexual attraction, and at times it can be difficult to identify. Nevertheless, please, do not invalidate what she considers herself to be. It is her business and her right. It sounds to me something like "You just haven't found the right person yet". Having said all that, you have absolutely all the right to tell her that you

Yea I still have a weakened sense of taste, and I've always been anosmic as far as I can remember. It's not something I miss tho, the only thing that worries me is that I can't sense smoke, gas or staleness, luckily my partner is my nose lol December 13, 2020 at 11:53PM

That sucks and I'm sorry, do you still have taste? Have you always been anosmic or did something happen? December 13, 2020 at 11:46PM

And you're a fucking aswhole i know that for a fact December 13, 2020 at 11:46PM

Same o/ December 13, 2020 at 11:45PM

Crosses a line, but I get it. Imagine being told "Your character is trans, but we can't let you show that on screen. At most, you can act 'agender' but that's it." I'd probably be resentful too. Representation matters, people are quick to forget that their own isn't the only kind that needs to be portrayed honestly. December 13, 2020 at 11:44PM

I know someone else already said this, but it's always going to be a case-by-case situation. I'm ace and my partner is allo. Neither of us are typical straight cis hetero but present as such. It's not a relationship that would work for most allos or most aces but has worked for us specifically. Communication obviously has played a huge role. We were both very straightforward with each other from the beginning. I think we were both tired of trying to make typically expected relationships work and cut the bs from the start. My only real suggestion would be to make your expectations and boundaries clear right away and don't shy away from uncomfortable conversations. December 13, 2020 at 11:44PM

That’s valid 👍 December 13, 2020 at 11:44PM

Very very relatable, I am 30F, and I have never been in a relationship. I actually went to a therapist due my inability to start one. The main thing was that I don't really feel like I am missing out but I am afraid I will regret it in the future. However, this is not what you asked. The main trait of an ace from what I gather is the absence of sexual attraction - have you ever looked lustly at someone? Felt "hot and bothered" watching them from afar? I am just quoting some love stories and romcoms as I have no idea what this feeling is. If you haven't - you are probably somewhere on the spectrum of course if you are comfortable labelling yourself that. All the other things - like having sex, enjoying it or even wanting it, does not invalidate your asexuality, it just places you at one or another point of the spectrum. December 13, 2020 at 11:41PM

For future reference, if something similar happens you could just say you don’t want to have kids. Being ace isn’t necessarily related, so you don’t need to mention it if you don’t want to. I hope everything goes okay with your dad! 💜 December 13, 2020 at 11:40PM

This might be kinda the opposite, but I felt very ace-panicked when someone asked me out 😅 December 13, 2020 at 11:40PM

Ace panic: my god they're aesthetically attractive! December 13, 2020 at 11:37PM

Cool survey! I hope you get good anwsers :) December 13, 2020 at 11:36PM

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Please dont force yourself to like it if you simply dont. S*x repulsed aces are as valid as every other ace and you dont need to have s.x if you dont want December 13, 2020 at 11:27PM

Is this aesthetic or sensual or sexual attraction? (Trying to figure out if something is sexual attraction or not) December 13, 2020 at 11:25PM

The gesture is very sweet! To be wholesome I believe it :D A charm like a little flag? That should look awesome! Please update if you do something like that :D December 13, 2020 at 11:24PM