37m here. I feel being asexual as a (cis)man is much more acceptable in culture largely due to men getting more opportunities for self-determination than women in general. As such, it seems less likely that they would have a need to seek out an identity to explicitly identify themselves with. I didn't really look into these communities until my marriage fell apart a while ago and I had to contemplate dating in a hookup culture. In my own journey I wasn't fully self-aware, but like with most things the hardest years were teenage years when I needed to be closer to peers my own age. Honestly I think the hardest moments were when people mistook me for being gay and I bore the brunt of discrimination for that. edit: All that being said, I don't want to come off as minimizing the difficulty not fitting in can cause. I'm also aware many asexuals are discriminated against, but in my own walk I've found people are generally very comfortable interacting with a male cis ne...