My friend (28yF) met a guy online. A couple of weeks into dating, he shared that he is moving across the US for his job. By a month in to dating he set the expectation that she would be moving with him in August (12 weeks from starting to date) if all works out. He says he doesnt expect her to move without a ring. He has plans to have kids, live on the ocean, have separate bank accounts), etc. These conversations were all before I met the guy around week 4 of them dating. He invited her to travel to Europe for 2 weeks, 6weeks in to dating. She went. Her feedback to me was that they did some amazing things, but she was super up and down with him and did want more alone time than they had. Before meeting her BF (33yM), I learned that my friend was super hopeful that this could workout despite how crazy fast things would move. My friend said she would move for someone she loves, but she wasnt "there" yet. She shared with me all if his ideas for the future, which felt very much...

25M, I just started working in the hospital and am on the same team as this girl 27F who after a week, I’ve developed a crush on. But being residents in a hospital, we are both constantly on the go, with each other 12 hours a day, and there isn’t true down time other than do housekeeping data entry at the computers. I strongly dislike making small talk but I haven’t really had a chance to have an engaging conversation with this girl other than a handful of times. She’ll ask me how my day is going and other things about my goals and things I like. She also asked me if I was going to work social this week which I told her I wasn’t going to be at. We’ve been joking around and teasing each other. She seems like a very genuine and kind girl so I’m thinking that she’s just being friendly right now. Is there anyway I can legitimately get to know her without messing with our professional relationship right now? TL;DR- I’ve developed a crush on my coresident who I’ve started working with this...

This is a throwaway, and the post will be long so please bear with me. I'd also like some advice from Asians/South Asians if possible because this may be cultural as well. I graduated from well-known college near my home town about a month ago. I was a commuter student and graduated a year early, so the only time where I wasn't completely living at home was my last semester which I compromised for with some other things. It was only in the last year of college where I really started making friends and having more kickbacks, and just doing more things in general. For context, I went to my first concert back in October and was allowed to go to another state for a weekend with my friends with just us. Even then, my parents liked doing random drop-ins to my apartment or when I was walking back home from class at around 8-9 pm, which honestly annoyed me because I had specifically requested they only come when I ask them to. I've recently moved back into my parents' house ...

A few times now my younger sister has organised some sort of catch up event (e.g. brunch, dinner, movies) with myself and our other sister [21F]. Every single time when it comes to pay and they ask if we’re paying all together, she doesn’t jump in and say we’re splitting the bill but just looks at me to pay. She’s organised for us to go to the movies tonight and then just texted us saying ‘does someone want to book the tickets?’ as though she can’t do it herself. The thing is, I generally don’t mind paying if that expectation wasn’t there. And sometimes, these meals just add up and it would be good if they paid for their own food sometimes too! I’m not sure what to do without coming across rude. Currently I’m ignoring her text message about booking the movie tickets but that doesn’t really address the problem. It’s not so much that she’s not paying for herself, but that expectation (and the fact that she never directly ASKS but just implies it) that I pay makes me feel like I’m jus...

Ok so I really struggled to find a title for this mess, because that‘s what it is - a big mess. But I‘ll try to exlpain it as good as I can. Just a few things before I start: - First love / husband I will refer to as DH (M/24) - internet love i will refer as IL (M/24) - I‘m 23 and female - English is not my first language so sorry in advance Soo my story begins with in 2012 with 16 year old mee crazyyy falling in love for the very first time. It was crazy and all-consuming. I saw him, looked him in the eyes and just knew in my deepest heart that I will someday marry this boy before even knowing his name or anything who he is. So in my culture there is no such thing as boyfriend girlfriend, if you are seen out in public together you‘re basically engaged. So we did everything we could to hide our relationship. We had a long-distance relationship after the first 6 months and I would say it became rough after that- because it always was. But thats another thing. So what had to happene...

My boyfriend used to be avid smoker in the first year and half of our relationship. I managed to make him stop. But now he wont let go of the vape. He insists on vaping indoors and inside cars. Whenever I bring up the conversation of quitting vape he shuts me down and tells me that he already quit cigarettes so he needs something else to smoke. And that vaping is not bad for you. He says he will never quit vaping. If I'm being honest, I have realized recently that I find it repulsive that hes so addicted to having "something to smoke" at all times. And the smell of his vape never leaves his lips or even the air in the house. The smell annoys me to no end. Tl;dr boyfriend wont stop smoking his vape after quitting cigarettes. I'm not sure what to do. Is a break up the only solution? Submitted June 30, 2019 at 12:17AM My boyfriend used to be avid smoker in the first year and half of our relationship. I managed to make him stop. But now he wont let go of the vap...

I'm about to graduate from college this July and move in with my father due to my lease expiring, my roommates are all moving, and not securing a full time job. I currently have a part time job that pays decently. The main issue is I'm currently in summer school and he is frustrated I don't have a job yet. I forwarded him my resume even though I told him I hired someone to review my resume. Several people have helped me format my resume. However my dad feels since I not landed a job in a month since actively applying I'm screwing around. How do I establish boundaries with someone who I'm about to move in with. ​ TDLR; I'm moving in with my father less than a month from now due to not having a full time job. Currently applying for jobs and he is frustrated I have not secured one yet. Submitted June 30, 2019 at 12:20AM I'm about to graduate from college this July and move in with my father due to my lease expiring, my roommates are all moving, and not...

I need to get this off my chest and I have no one to talk to, this is not something I can ask my friends for advice. I’m sorry if I don’t make much sense, I’m pretty nervous right now. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 years. I don’t want to go into too much detail but I’d say our relationship is rock-solid, or that’s what I thought. Last year we went from living in the same city to long distance. We both cried when we said goodbye but we talked and texted every day and we made plans to reunite a couple months later. When we finally reunited everything seemed great but I noticed something was off during sex. He couldn’t keep his hands off me, he was the one to initiate, but then he couldn’t stay hard. Please don’t get me wrong, I know this is normal but it caught me off guard because in all the time we’ve been together this has never happened before so it was completely unexpected. I didn’t give it much thought at first, but it kept happening every single time we t...

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Any tips if you are dating a young widower? Submitted June 29, 2019 at 11:58PM Any tips if you are dating a young widower?

Met this guy online. He and I were talking everyday and we went on two dates. Things were going well although all the sudden his response to text was slowing down so I figured he lost interest and probably met someone else. Then he ghosted on me. I was disappointed, but moved on. Fast forward about 4-5 months later he reached out and was apologizing how he ghosted & said wanted to explain what actually happened. I said it’s fine and no hard feelings. We eventually met up and he was trying to explain what happened. I wasn’t too curious although let him to explain. He said he went through a serious relationship before meeting me and emotions towards her were still lingering and at the same time found out that she lied to him and yadayada. I said it’s fine, shits happen, but I told him I didn’t really appreciate how he didn’t really had respect towards me at that time. He was genuinely apologetic and testing water to see if I’d like to see him again. Now I have a mixed feelings. ...

Not sure if this is the right place to ask this but I’ve noticed lately that im only attracted to older women im 21yrs old and ever since i started dating I’ve been only interested in women who are 30+yrs old especially single moms now i started to feel like this might be weird so i just wanna know if this is normal or is there something wrong with me? Submitted June 30, 2019 at 12:09AM Not sure if this is the right place to ask this but I’ve noticed lately that im only attracted to older women im 21yrs old and ever since i started dating I’ve been only interested in women who are 30+yrs old especially single moms now i started to feel like this might be weird so i just wanna know if this is normal or is there something wrong with me?

We (F 23, M 26) have known each other forever, and through a friend, we knew there were interest but it only started one and half week ago. We went out for lunch twice and texted for a week. I mean, we're new and no one said anything about "dating" yet. Of course we are not stupid people who don't know that this is something but I drunk texted him and confessed and now I'm scared that he would feel overwhelmed. Please tell me how I can make it easier for him. ​ On Friday, he texted me when I was having a party and I told him I was drunk. Yet, when he asked me to go back to enjoying the party, I said I wanna talk to him. Though he said I could talk to him anytime, I insisted and said he's not like other people, that talking to him is more special. Then it went downhill and I said shit like I have a crush on him, that I would not be able to confess when sober, that I look up to him and think that he's so smart and busy for me, that I wanna talk to him thr...

Alright y’all I got a big fucking question, so I’m 18 and I met this woman at my job who’s 25, we’ve been talking and she’s just amazing and beautiful, but that age gap tho, when I first heard she was 25 I was shocked cause boy she does not look 25, she looks like 20 at most, and she was shocked to hear I was 18, guess I must look older to her 😂, anyway my point is that if anything were to happen is it weird??? Or na Submitted June 30, 2019 at 12:16AM Alright y’all I got a big fucking question, so I’m 18 and I met this woman at my job who’s 25, we’ve been talking and she’s just amazing and beautiful, but that age gap tho, when I first heard she was 25 I was shocked cause boy she does not look 25, she looks like 20 at most, and she was shocked to hear I was 18, guess I must look older to her 😂, anyway my point is that if anything were to happen is it weird??? Or na

Me realizing biromantic asexuality is a thing. I get these warm fuzzy feelings with girls but also guys, but I don’t want to have sexual with either, what gives? Haha. June 30, 2019 at 12:14AM

They talk about it either to bond with you over a shared experience or to bully you about not being "cool enough" to have had sex yet. It's similar with drugs here as well. June 30, 2019 at 12:13AM

Me: They can’t be hot, they live in Canada. June 30, 2019 at 12:11AM

It didn't come off as rude. I can definitely understand your confusion involving my assumption. And high school age here in America is between 13 and 18, though I did know a few people who were 19 and still in high school which is uncommon. A great deal of American teenagers are incredibly invasive with sex talk. As an example, I mentioned to a classmate that I had a boyfriend and, for my birthday, she gave me a jumbo pack of glow-in-the-dark condoms. Others would ask if we'd "done it" yet and I was propositioned by several guys to "meet up to study" after school. Obviously it wasn't books they wanted to study. If you were a virgin in high school you were made fun of so I pretended that I wasn't. It's also really common here to be promiscuous and I knew a lot of people who would meet up in hotels after school to have sex with their significant others. I honestly can't imagine going through that time of my life without other kids talking a...

Oh, that is so me. June 30, 2019 at 12:07AM

I always feel really bad when people develop crushes on me. Like, you picked the worst person. Not only am I aromantic, I’m also a hella closeted trans girl, so if you’re straight and crushing on me, not only will I never date you, even if I did we’d have to break it off eventually. June 30, 2019 at 12:07AM

I think it's similar to when you crave cake June 30, 2019 at 12:01AM

Lmao this. Why do you want to do the disgusting thing where your parts/hands/mouth touch someone else’s parts and it is slimy? June 30, 2019 at 12:00AM

I don't understand what this is supposed to be. June 29, 2019 at 11:59PM