I recently was texting with a guy I met online. He stopped responding individually to my messages but I’m still getting generic messages from him. A kiss emoji here, a ‘Gmorning’ every day, ‘heading out for a run’ etc. I’m pretty sure this is a group message he has not removed me from and he just spams a bunch of women to see who bites. Is this common practice these days? It’s creepy. Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:03AM I recently was texting with a guy I met online. He stopped responding individually to my messages but I’m still getting generic messages from him. A kiss emoji here, a ‘Gmorning’ every day, ‘heading out for a run’ etc. I’m pretty sure this is a group message he has not removed me from and he just spams a bunch of women to see who bites. Is this common practice these days? It’s creepy.

So, I consider myself a sex-favorable asexual and I have struggled with these questions you posted here for a long time! Thanks for bringing this up, I will tell you my take on this but I would also love to hear opinions from others too, as I'm still doubting. Before having sex, I was a bit indifferent to it. I always had a high libido but I just wasn't attracted to anyone sexually hence I wasn't actively seeking to have sex with someone, or in general. There have been times during my relationships where I have enjoyed sex, some more and some less (depends on the partners and our communication, the situation etc). I can go on explaining my journey and how I thought enjoying or even seeking sex out was a proof that I'm not asexual and all the doubt I've been through but I'll just tell you TL;DR version. What persuaded me that enjoying or initiating sex with someone is NOT sexual attraction (therefore I had a lack of it) were the reasons behind it. I enjoyed se

Hello, my girlfriend and I are both virgins. However, she and I grinded together (only ~30 seconds of skin on skin) about two weeks ago and she said that she's missed her period. Should I be worried??? I don't know how much of a chance there is of getting pregnant when there was (a) no penetration and (b) I didnt cum. Help pls!! Its been about 6 days since she missed her normal time of the month. Submitted November 30, 2019 at 10:26PM Hello, my girlfriend and I are both virgins. However, she and I grinded together (only ~30 seconds of skin on skin) about two weeks ago and she said that she's missed her period. Should I be worried??? I don't know how much of a chance there is of getting pregnant when there was (a) no penetration and (b) I didnt cum. Help pls!! Its been about 6 days since she missed her normal time of the month.

Hi guys, As a young male who plays sports, I have a crazy high sex drive. When I quit sports for one year, I had to masturbate at least 8-10 times a day or else I’m always horny. Now that I got back into sports, my sex drive is even higher. My question is will there ever be a woman who has a crazy high sex drive like mine or will I be frustrated for my whole life having that curse. Submitted November 30, 2019 at 10:27PM Hi guys,As a young male who plays sports, I have a crazy high sex drive. When I quit sports for one year, I had to masturbate at least 8-10 times a day or else I’m always horny. Now that I got back into sports, my sex drive is even higher. My question is will there ever be a woman who has a crazy high sex drive like mine or will I be frustrated for my whole life having that curse.

I don't know why. I am not asexual, I don't have a huge libido but it's there, somewhere between low and medium. I masturbate and have fantasies. Yet when I touch another human being there is nothing. I have never gotten aroused or enjoyed myself with another person. I was a bit of a late bloomer, but then had my first kiss with some guy I had a crush on at the time, so I was definitely into him. His technique and everything seemed fine, but I didn't feel anything. It was just kind of weird, but not unpleasant either. Anyway, that still peaked my curiosity and I went through a phase of basically just kissing a bunch of people (both men and women) and later going on to do sexual stuff, I've not had full on penetrative sex though because I've never felt aroused enough to try it. The problem is that I just don't really feel anything. Like I said, when I masturbate everything works fine and I actually can come pretty fast. But when another person touches me I

I had a pap test and it indicated abnormal cells (cancer risk). So I had a second one with a colposcopy and a biopsy. The doctor said the cancer reading was wrong and but still found some cells that looked abnormal (she couldn't even find them at first, she didn't seem too concerned). I have been single for a while and I'm worried about telling people I start dating about this (especially since I won't know them well at first!). I do STD tests after every relationship ends and I don't have any other signs of STDs. I feel pretty embarrassed and confused about this because I use protection. And let's say I hooked up with someone from a dating app that I wasn't even planning to date - do I have to tell them too? I want to do the right thing but I also don't want to share highly personal information with people I don't really know. If we use protection can they get anything from me? I asked the doctor if I had HPV, she said the test doesn't actua

(Sorry for poor grammar it’s early and my hands are freezing) But me M(28) and Her F(25) have been together for about 2 years and it’s been great we are connecting a lot, but she doesn’t like our sexual life because I don’t get off ever. I don’t ever get off I haven’t technically ever came once or have an Orgasm but don’t really want to would rather focus on just her she says I spoil her and that I should focus on myself also I don’t really want to, is that a confidence issue or just my preferences she says it’s a confidence I just say I like it that way .Any advice on this situation? Submitted November 30, 2019 at 11:49PM (Sorry for poor grammar it’s early and my hands are freezing) But me M(28) and Her F(25) have been together for about 2 years and it’s been great we are connecting a lot, but she doesn’t like our sexual life because I don’t get off ever. I don’t ever get off I haven’t technically ever came once or have an Orgasm but don’t really want to would rather focus on j

Looking for some pointers for how to ‘man up’ and teach my new bf some things. I’m am very shy and usually am told what to do so this whole thing is new for me. Submitted November 30, 2019 at 11:51PM Looking for some pointers for how to ‘man up’ and teach my new bf some things. I’m am very shy and usually am told what to do so this whole thing is new for me.

I heard that while having sex in different positions certain angles may give greater pleasure .... is there any website or books that teach you or help you become a bit experienced Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:02AM I heard that while having sex in different positions certain angles may give greater pleasure .... is there any website or books that teach you or help you become a bit experienced

(This is out of pure curiosity) Sometimes I don’t really understand why this happens but me and my girlfriend are quite active and have sex a healthy amount. I’ve noticed that sometimes (the minority of times) I ejaculate really quickly while sometimes it takes me a longer time like 30 to 40 min. A couple days ago I was going for most likely an hour changing position and doing different things before ejaculating. Today for some reason I ejaculated pretty quickly. I never really ejaculate quickly and usually it never happens but I’ve noticed a trend. I usually ejaculate quickly when there isn’t enough hookup time + foreplay before sex or if it feels rushed. Today it felt a little rushed (not that it’s anything bad but it makes me feel extremely insecure about myself). My girlfriend is an angel and is extremely supportive and she notices how embarrassing it makes me feel so she always tells me how she’s so happy to know that she made me feel so good and cum that quickly except that a lo

Hey all I was just wondering why there's such a negative stigma around being uncircumcised. I personally am not cut but I always hear girls saying how gross/ugly they are and I really don't understand the reasoning because I feel my own looks pretty nice. So anyone got any thoughts on what makes people feel this way and why it's directed to uncut ducks? Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:10AM Hey all I was just wondering why there's such a negative stigma around being uncircumcised. I personally am not cut but I always hear girls saying how gross/ugly they are and I really don't understand the reasoning because I feel my own looks pretty nice.So anyone got any thoughts on what makes people feel this way and why it's directed to uncut ducks?

Long story short, me and my now husband have known each other for almost 2 years and we were long distance for the majority of that time. Visits were once every 4 to 5 months and were 1 week long each and the long distance lasted a little over a year. Every time I flew here we came everyday but now that I’m finally here with him, he now barely cums whatsoever, if ever. I personally can cum twice even 3 times a day but he wants to cum once every 5 days the soonest. I’m not here to ask why this could be happening rather I wanna know how can I cope with this? What are my options? I would never in my life cheat on him or anyone but I do feel the need to be penetrated (not with a toy) and cum much more frequently. Masturbating can only do so much and I just feel so frustrated and sad, any help is appreciated. Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:13AM Long story short, me and my now husband have known each other for almost 2 years and we were long distance for the majority of that time.

I (30m) have gotten good at edging but it is really starting to mess with my head. When ever I have sex with my gf I find myself holding back my orgasm the entire time. When ever I get close I slow down or stop. But eventually I edge so much that it can become a chore for me to orgasm. Other times I get myself into a mental state where I am so focused on pleasing her that my orgasm just doesn't happen. She was going down on me the other night and I wanted to come. She also wanted me to come because she has never gotten me there through oral before. I kept feeling myself getting close but deep down I knew we wouldn't be able to have sex then. So my brain kept me from coming. I hate the refractory period. I hate that I need to stop myself from orgasming, else my physical pleasure is over. I also don't want to come too quickly because I love the intimacy with her. While I absolutely love making her orgasm, I can feel myself growing envious of the fact that she doesn't

I’m not sure what the underlying problem here is. I’ll start by saying I’ve never forced my partner to participate in anything she’s uncomfortable with, my fetishes range from public stuff, being abusive (she enjoys this one too, but like, i can only call her so many derogatory things so many times), to really simple stuff like hearing her moan in my ear. The simple stuff just comes with normal sex honestly, but recently I’m having to try different things, only to get shutdown because it’s “weird”. What this has resulted in is me being unaroused and near unenthusiastic in initiating sex anymore. She still does, but I’m just getting her off and calling it a night. She gets upset that I don’t come. I’m even having impotence issues just because I’m so uninterested in the whole endeavour now, which just makes a weird tension about it. I’m no expert in the field, and I’d just like advice on this situation and if anyone’s had something similar Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:16AM I

This one is for the ladies. I'll start by saying I (23F) have no underlying health issues that could be a cause. I'm young, healthy, and in my prime. This has been the case for 5 years, but has really gotten worse the past 2 months. I have had the nexplanon implant for about 5 years (first implant for 3 years, currently on my second). I love it for the most part. I don't have to worry about taking something every day, lighter periods, no cramping, 99.9% effective, etc. Though I love it, it's definitely given me a few bad side effects here and there, but by far the worst is loss of sensitivity. Not just loss of sensitivity inside my vagina, but everywhere sexual. Before this implant, either with no birth control or a different form, someone could touch me and I would be dripping wet. The slightest run if the fingers down my thigh would drive me absolutely crazy. My, and please tell me I'm not alone in this, nipples were EXTREMELY sensitive, just as much as my clit

For the longest time I said absolutely nothing. No hints, nothing. This was partly based on the fact that sex is hard to talk about on account if my upbringing and me doing absolutely nothing to fix it. And partly to the fact that I thought she'd laugh. Here's the thing, she's talked about a guy he dated who was into feet and laughed as she did, as if he should be ashamed of it. And when we had a dip in our sex life we decided to look at some lingerie. It was the most conservative online lingerie store you could imagine. And the entire time we scrolled through she howl with laughter nonstop about how "weird" this shit is. Then she asks me to pick something I'm into. After that? No fucking way. I picked the most conservative, least kinky shit I could to avoid embarrassment. Eventually, I told her what I was into. And she acted like she was into it as well. What are the odds right? Since then, I've seen her laugh at other stuff, the usual. But then she

I walked around three different neighborhoods in the north end today and it’s couples everywhere :( where are you hiding single people of Seattle? Submitted December 01, 2019 at 12:06AM I walked around three different neighborhoods in the north end today and it’s couples everywhere :( where are you hiding single people of Seattle?

I (33M) was ghosted again. I suppose it makes sense; I'm not a catch in the traditional sense. 5'5, working full-time to put myself through nursing school, I live with roommates, don't have lots of money. I've basically been alone since I was 23, when I went through a not-messy but not-happy divorce. I saw there was something wrong with myself so I sequestered and gained weight until I hit 31. I was basically playing with both feet in the grave for my whole 20's and much of my teens. Basically learned to love myself from the ground up. Lost a ton of weight, in great shape now, working to make life better. I used to be the SHIT with women... Now, I don't know, ya'll. I'm just ghosted all the time. This time, she and I got along really, really, well. I guess my hopes were up. I've just been through so much of the bottom, I don't know what I'm doing wrong these days. I get along with everyone , and I mean everyone. I'm funny, I know m

This made me cry. I think I understand my aromantic partner a little bit better now. Thank you. December 01, 2019 at 12:14AM

Chu writes Slightly Damned, a nice fun webcomic that I enjoy! I didn’t know until today that she was ace/aro! December 01, 2019 at 12:14AM

I wish i drunkenly ordered a pride flag. I drunkenly ordered myself an edible arrangement. Self care is important though so it’s okay. December 01, 2019 at 12:13AM

OP, I have many of the same feelings and experiences as you. I was sexually abused by several different people for most of my life, beginning as a child and continuing into adulthood. I don't think you need to wait until after you've "dealt" with the trauma to decide whether or not you want sex or if you are or aren't asexual. That's just offensive. I tell people all the time that sexual trauma can't make me *not* be attracted to someone. If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there. And to go one step further, even if sexual trauma *caused* asexuality, why is that by default such a bad thing? People act like sex in general is intrinsically a good thing and you should *try* to find every opportunity to identify as allo instead of ace - which is ridiculous and insulting. I don't think sex is anything intrinsically, it can be a good thing or a bad thing. I've always craved physical and emotional intimacy, just not with someone who will &

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