I feel like there is a strong beliefs that aces identify with their pets... but I just don't feel that. It makes me feel guilty. I simply don't feel loved by pets. They feel very detached and I feel guilty keeping them from their natural impulses. I see our dog around the house, and she just seems so passive. Pets feel so restrictive to me, especially breeds that people keep and are naturally unhealthy. I still love animals, but they belong in the wild, not as pets. I don't want to own an animal. February 27, 2021 at 12:05AM

It's not. There are many As that could be included. Asexual, Aromantic, Agender, Androgynous and none of them were ever intended to be Ally. Let's put this another way. Let's suppose I am an ally of the Black Community, I support the Black Lives Matter movement and I've been to a couple of protests. I'm as white as you can get and I don't pretend anything else. Am I a member of the Black Community? February 27, 2021 at 12:05AM

I know I don't have your perspective on this, but I think it's really nice to have a group of people that don't experience attraction in the "normal" way. I don't really relate fully to gay men or pan people etc fully, but still way more than I do to cishet people. This might be due to how young I am, but I've found that LGBTQ+ communities I've been a part of, both online and off, have been very accepting of ace people. I've only known I'm ace for a few years tho and I know things change. February 27, 2021 at 12:02AM

Wait is this not how people normally feel when they have a crush??? Like if your crush doesn't wanna date then its just an awesome new friend and sometimes things get romantic and its nice but you are better as friends because of your life situations so let's just stay friends?? I've literally never felt any other way then this when crushing on someone... February 27, 2021 at 12:01AM

So cute February 27, 2021 at 12:00AM

And please note that the "+" at the end is to keep away vampires February 26, 2021 at 11:57PM

Libido is different than sexual attraction. And libido can fluctuate with time. People who were sexually active in their youth can lose it. I really can't speak to pleasing a partner's sex drive, though. February 26, 2021 at 11:55PM

Well, asexuals can be interested in sex itself involving genitalia. It doesn't actually affect your attraction to someone. If you find yourself desiring only acts (whether sexual or not) but not so much specific people, sounds pretty asexual to me. The meaning of "asexual" can change depending on context. In LGBTQ+ spaces, it tends to be used to mean a lack of sexual attraction. Some people use it to mean a lack of libido. It's kind of annoying, and I wish there were different words for the two actually. February 26, 2021 at 11:55PM

Same February 26, 2021 at 11:54PM

survey with ace representation February 26, 2021 at 11:52PM

fromge 🥺🥺 February 26, 2021 at 11:52PM

If anyone wants to take a survey aimed at increasing asexual representation as well as other sexual minorities please take our survey February 26, 2021 at 11:49PM

Growing more open minded and the vocabulary of terms to describe sexuality and gender has just exploded. It’s so much easier to figure yourself out now than it used to be. February 26, 2021 at 11:47PM

I completely understand your remarks, it is just that I already have a strong foundation on that idea. I probably will deconstruct that after some time, but as it stands now, there is just this thing within me that makes me think "I am tanking advantage of the LGBT label". Also, saying like that makes me wonder if I am just repeating what I heard... anyways, it's all cool for me February 26, 2021 at 11:47PM

Oops, I might have misread or read a comment. Some people argue that "A" is for "ace" instead of "ally", when really it's both. Ally was included so that they could be welcome to LBGT+ groups. Not everything is "because they are marginalized". The goal of LBGT+ is to not be marginalized anymore. Why would being marginalized be a requirement? Your entire argument relies on their identity needing to be marginalized to belong. I'm not really a fan of that being a requirement. February 26, 2021 at 11:45PM

Aah, I see! Like I said, I'm all for including allies, so I agree it wourd be unfair to hold this against them. I think people who nowadays say that the A stands for ally and not for asexual/aromantic are a different story, though. Then again, I haven't come across a lot of aphobia myself so I don't really know whether those people really exist. The realisation part is also too true. Though personally I am in favour of changing the acronym altogether, for example to GSRM (Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minorities), just because the LGBTQIA+ acronym is getting unwieldy and keeps changing. It's not really a problem for us, but it does get confusing for people who are more disconnected from the community. February 26, 2021 at 11:44PM

Dang :/ at least some are starting to get with the program! February 26, 2021 at 11:42PM

It was a long general health survey. About campus life and health. Completely optional to take or answer anything specifically, you could skip February 26, 2021 at 11:42PM

I'm not sure if you're saying that I'm arguing against aces or not, but it's important to know that there isn't one governing body establishing the term. It seems like everywhere you look there's a different acronym to encompass the community with different meanings. Also that's a news article from BBC. Also there's no accredited author, so there's no way of knowing if the author is properly educated beyond a bit of internet research. Also this article is from 2015. February 26, 2021 at 11:40PM

I was chosen by the asexual forest spirit February 26, 2021 at 11:36PM

NICE February 26, 2021 at 11:36PM

If you like symphonic metal listen to Epica's albums. February 26, 2021 at 11:34PM

I don't associate myself with LBBQT+ irl the same reason why I don't resonate with the subreddit-- everything is oversexualized. It's a crowd of people shouting how much they love each other in a certain way and I'm the only one whose like 🙃 I just want cake and Ghibli thanks. No matter how many times I try, I always end up back with wherever the other Aces are hanging, ya know? February 26, 2021 at 11:32PM