Ok, so I'm incredibly stupid. Feel free everyone to tell me I'm an idiot. I (42 F) dated a guy for only 4 months. He lost something that belonged to his late father (a game boatd) that was very important to him. We broke up a month ago, but this week, for Father's Day, I mailed him a game board (the same one that he lost) that my grandfather had made himself out of wood. I don't know what I was thinking, other than the fact that I am insane. He texted a thank you, but that was it. I regretted sending it an hour after dropping it off at the Post Office. I want to point out that this guy has a 100 red flags that I won't go into - namely he has a harem of women and treated me like I am insignificant. But seriously, I want my heirloom back. Any ideas how to ask for it back without sounding like an asshole? Submitted June 12, 2019 at 11:51PM Ok, so I'm incredibly stupid. Feel free everyone to tell me I'm an idiot. I (42 F) dated a guy for only 4 months. H...

I met a great guy on Tinder in January and he took me out to dinner for our first three dates. Since then, I've been seeing him roughly once every two weeks...but we always stay in, watch a movie, and then have sex. He never stays the night and I never stay the night either - it has never been brought up. I was okay with how casual everything was early on as I had plans to move to a different state in early May and he knew this from the beginning. However, we texted every few days and when we were together, he was really intimate and extremely sweet (forehead kisses, cuddling for hours after sex, etc). Late April comes, and I tell him I'm no longer moving. But again neither one of us addresses anything at all, and I see him three times in May. I am traveling for work now (June 1st-Aug 5th) and our texts are sporadic at best (partly my fault - he's initiated but I'm not good with small talk texts, help?). I want to get to know this person better and maybe even have a ...

I'm losing a bit of hope when it comes to dating and have always wanted to try blind dates. I am completely clueless about them besides the basic concept and so I thought it would be nice to ask about others experiences with the concept and advice on how to go about it/what to expect. ​ Any input is appreciated. Submitted June 13, 2019 at 12:00AM I'm losing a bit of hope when it comes to dating and have always wanted to try blind dates. I am completely clueless about them besides the basic concept and so I thought it would be nice to ask about others experiences with the concept and advice on how to go about it/what to expect.​Any input is appreciated.

Is it just an addiction like drugs, with its dopamine releases and rushes of adrenaline? Is it simply chemical reactions and projections? I used to know it was real, until I realized two people can be together and feel completely differently toward one another and that love is simply good feelings and rarely is about the other person; it seems so selfish and self serving Submitted June 13, 2019 at 12:06AM Is it just an addiction like drugs, with its dopamine releases and rushes of adrenaline? Is it simply chemical reactions and projections? I used to know it was real, until I realized two people can be together and feel completely differently toward one another and that love is simply good feelings and rarely is about the other person; it seems so selfish and self serving

I'm a son of a man who doesn't want to provide for his family, who takes money from his wife who has to ask her family for the money, and the money she borrows isn't only for living but for visa so we can leave the country that we are forced into (Saudi Arabia). He dosnt want us to leave the country. He tries everything he can prevent that from happening. Every time when the wife asks her sibling to for help, the father always calls them later a says " oh you know she's spoiled"etc. And when we go to get the visa he always finds a way to either stop us or hell be there with us (to mess it up). I need help and this is the only way I can think of. Submitted June 13, 2019 at 12:36AM I'm a son of a man who doesn't want to provide for his family, who takes money from his wife who has to ask her family for the money, and the money she borrows isn't only for living but for visa so we can leave the country that we are forced into (Saudi Arabia). He ...

And as already stated just because one is lgbt doesn’t automatically force them to identify with the community if they don’t want to. I wouldn't phrase it like that. If they don't really want to be considered lgbtq, then implying one is lgbt and expressing it toward them is going against their wish of not being considered part of them. I'd just leave it at "If you don't see yourself as them, then you are not.". June 13, 2019 at 12:36AM

Yea asexuals can have fetishes. Here's a thread where some people were talking about it https://www.reddit.com/r/Asexual/comments/4u0ius/some_questions_for_asexuals_with_fetishes/ June 13, 2019 at 12:32AM

I don't think anger is warranted. If you don't want to associate with the community, that makes you not part of them. If any one says otherwise, you can ignore them or just cut them off and don't associate them with you. June 13, 2019 at 12:31AM

I mean in a mental way more that physical (Although I do believe one should look after oneself) The girls I connect with...are rare, or so I'm lead to believe. There is just a certain thing about a certain someone I like, it's hard to explain, these people I like are humorous, yet kind of naive, but deep down they are quiet and are quite smart. I've tried to explain this to my friend, he kind of gets it, and he doesn't, he seemed to be under the impression i am picky, he is quite wrong, I like a wide variety of women, it's just the personality is a deal breaker for me. I suppose it narrows it down. I think we live in a culture where these humble-like girl next door types are being taken over by the incessant snapchatters/instagrammers, usually (but not always) they have a child from a previous relationship, it throws me off I think, I couldn't commit to something like that. I don't even know if I'm talking a load of ass or if I have a point. I'm...

This is the easiest way for me to trigger an orgasm while being stimulated. Was just hoping for some kind of scientific explanation or if anyone else can relate? Submitted June 12, 2019 at 11:52PM This is the easiest way for me to trigger an orgasm while being stimulated. Was just hoping for some kind of scientific explanation or if anyone else can relate?

I recently purchased a 3 pack of silicone rings. Best $6 I ever spent on my erection. I get why it works around the base of my cock, I understand the science, but I've heard some pull their nuts thru it to (or even wear 2, one around the base and one around the whole unit) but I don't get why. I'd think it'd be less restrictive to blood flow then just around the base... Can someone explain to me what it does to your performance? Submitted June 13, 2019 at 12:06AM I recently purchased a 3 pack of silicone rings. Best $6 I ever spent on my erection. I get why it works around the base of my cock, I understand the science, but I've heard some pull their nuts thru it to (or even wear 2, one around the base and one around the whole unit) but I don't get why. I'd think it'd be less restrictive to blood flow then just around the base...Can someone explain to me what it does to your performance?

Whaaaattt?? Seriously? Holy shit that's amazing! Wow! June 13, 2019 at 12:21AM

Your dad sounds out of touch, he probably met someone agender. Asexual is either an orientation, or a sex not found in humans that is characterized by being able to reproduce without gametes from another organism. Maybe some people use it to refer to their gender, and I guess that's their business, but it's not common and it doesn't really make sense. I guess it could make sense for someone without sex organs, but it would be confusing to use a "-sexual" term to refer to a gender identity that isn't tied to physical sex in a specific way. June 13, 2019 at 12:19AM

Just because someone waves around the ace pride flag at an lgbt event doesn’t automatically mean you have to be a part of it. Cishet aces should be glad they haven’t had to experience systematic oppression for their sexual orientation besides social stigma, but oppression doesn’t automatically mean one is or isn’t lgbt. And as already stated just because one is lgbt doesn’t automatically force them to identify with the community if they don’t want to. You are really angry about nothing. June 13, 2019 at 12:18AM

ACE HYPE TIME June 13, 2019 at 12:12AM

I found this rather old article on one of my favorite blogs today, and I thought some of the subscribers here might find it helpful. I feel like I see a lot of confused posts about meeting people who were all about it for a white hot while, and then suddenly the OP is single again, this time with a few more bumps and bruises... Submitted June 13, 2019 at 12:02AM I found this rather old article on one of my favorite blogs today, and I thought some of the subscribers here might find it helpful. I feel like I see a lot of confused posts about meeting people who were all about it for a white hot while, and then suddenly the OP is single again, this time with a few more bumps and bruises...

How is it possible long distance relationship to survive? Does it takes long or will be better to close the gap as early as possible? Submitted June 13, 2019 at 12:13AM How is it possible long distance relationship to survive? Does it takes long or will be better to close the gap as early as possible?

asexuality hasn't been banned or mistreated in anyway Uhh... You know you are wanting to ban and mistreat us right now, yes? You hate us... You do understand this right? We're a sexual minority, we're in the LGBT. If you don't like it, stop associating eith the lgbt, but we aren't going anywhere. We belong here because of people like you proving why we belong. <3 June 13, 2019 at 12:09AM

You can't fuck a fictional person. If you don't want to fuck in any case anyway, the real person loses the advantage in the beauty contest. June 13, 2019 at 12:09AM

Asexual is definitely only for sexual orientation.(or lack thereof) Your gender is who you go to bed as, your sexual orientation is who you go to bed with. If a person doesnt have a gender or a way of describing their gender, they tend to use agender. I'm an ace agender person myself. Ive Not seen in my time on both trans subs or in person someone using ace as their gender, though I can't say they can't, just seems veeeeery unlikely in my opinion. It has a use, it has a community... Seems odd to overlap it imo June 13, 2019 at 12:04AM

I guess in my case it is true tbh, but it still doesn't explain my lack of sexual attraction to literally anyone. Not to mention it took awhile for that attraction to even happen June 13, 2019 at 12:01AM

That's none of our business. June 13, 2019 at 12:00AM

I’m so happy that big brand stores are having ace pride stuff!!! June 12, 2019 at 11:58PM