At this point I’ve ran into some weird stuff I just assume most sexual stuff is real February 20, 2023 at 12:07AM

You've opened my eyes a little bit here, thank you. The timing was wrong to suggest therapy. I've been wanting to bring it up to him for a while and for some reason felt that this was my chance. I'll amend that with him as soon as I can. I've never consciously equated asexuality to brokenness. I just know he has a lot to unpack with a therapist and thought that maybe some of those troubles were feeding into his sexual issues. But I shouldn't have been so knee-jerk about it, you're absolutely correct. As far as me suggesting opening the relationship goes, it's truly NOT what I want at ALL. I just figured that we would have that conversation at some point and wanted to rip off the bandaid, I guess. He told me he wouldn't be comfortable with it and I made it clear I wouldn't be either so that won't be an option for us. But again, my timing was off. My emotions were running high. I was worried about my relationship. I'll make sure to have anoth

I (F21) started talking to this guy (M20) a month-ish ago and things were pretty chill. He’s a really dry texter(cool on the phone and in person) is only free on the weekends because he works two jobs, we’ve met up twice and when I tried to plan another date he would be open to it but the plans always fell through. At one point he wanted to meet my friends but then he wouldn’t talk to me over the weekends, he knows I’m not interested in having sex until I’m in a committed relationship. Which is what I thought that’s what he was looking for was sex, but he said he wanted to date and yet he hasn’t made an effort to actually go on dates with me. I told him happy Valentine’s Day and he responded with “you too”😭. Why isn’t he putting in any effort to actually see me? Is he just keeping me around because he thinks I’ll eventually put out? TLDR: Started talking to this guy who said he wants to date me but hasn’t made an effort to go on dates. He knows I’m not interested in having sex so I f

Basically the title. I (27F) am fairly inexperienced. I’ve dated a decent number of guys (20) and haven’t felt the potential for actual love with anybody. I’ve had many good conversations, and with some I’ve felt some attraction, but there’s been nobody with whom there’s been both or a sense of “I could fall in love with this person.” Is that asking for too much though, to hold out until I have that feeling about somebody? Or is the whole point of dating to find that? I worry I’d be being too picky if I waited to fall in love, and I’m no spring chicken at 27, but it also seems terribly depressing and possibly self-sabotaging to stay with somebody you don’t actually feel in love with. Just thinking aloud and would appreciate any thoughts. Had a first date today that went nicely but also can’t imagine actually falling in love with this guy. Not sure what to do. Submitted February 20, 2023 at 12:15AM Basically the title. I (27F) am fairly inexperienced. I’ve dated a decent number

Aegosexual is an asexual microlable that describes people that have a disconnect between themselves and the object of arousal. So the vast majority of aegos are turned off by the thought of their own involvement. February 19, 2023 at 11:09PM

Being ace is literally a superpower, i cannot imagine myself NOT being ace. Like you can do anything when you are not limited nor pushed by sexual desires towards people. I 100% agree with OP, asexuality is great! February 19, 2023 at 11:07PM