Throw away account for secrecy. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years. About 2 years ago, I found myself no longer sexually attracted to him. His advances would fill me with an "ugh" feeling because I didn't want to be sexual with him. For about a year and a half, I made excuses, blamed myself, and would be sexual with him strictly because he wanted it and I didn't want him to feel inadequate. I was so un-aroused that the sex would be physically uncomfortable, and I couldn't wait for it be over. About 6 months ago, I stopped trying to fulfill his needs and focused on what my body was telling me, and would deny any advances. I tried to talk to him about this, but because of his self esteem issues he would tend to make excuses and blame my body, saying I needed to see a gyno. When I explained that it was emotional, he would get defensive and put up a wall. He wouldn't talk with me about it and would shut down down the conversation, or use the g...

I honestly can't understand what even goes through a person's mind that, "you/I should go and fuck someone, who's an hour away, at 3 in the morning!" seems like a plausible and good idea. I'm really raging right now, the audacity of Man to create such BULLSHIT like this. TF do I look like driving some weirdo's home an hour away... FOR A DICK I'M NOT EVEN SURE I'D ENJOY?!?? Nuh uh, no sir no thanks Submitted September 04, 2020 at 11:55PM I honestly can't understand what even goes through a person's mind that, "you/I should go and fuck someone, who's an hour away, at 3 in the morning!" seems like a plausible and good idea.I'm really raging right now, the audacity of Man to create such BULLSHIT like this. TF do I look like driving some weirdo's home an hour away... FOR A DICK I'M NOT EVEN SURE I'D ENJOY?!?? Nuh uh, no sir no thanks

July 2019, I met up with this girl. She's really beautiful and she's fun to be around with. We exchanged a lot of kisses and hugs, but we didn't have sex because she doesn't want it. She's still a virgin and wants to remain one until marriage which I respect. We dated every week until the lockdown happened. We decided to follow the guidelines in California to play our part in slowing down the spread. March to May we just texted and texted and on my birthday, May 6, she even insisted on ordering pizza for me (my favorite food) and get it delivered to my house. One to two weeks after my birthday, she didn't reply for 24 hours. When she did, she told me she was busy. I got used to her slow replies, she usually replies once every 1 hour, she never replies when she's at work. That day was different. After that, her replies now takes 2-3 days. Then a week or two. She was never answering my calls. So I decided to call her job and got myself directed to her phone l...

And would you date someone who has friends of the opposite sex? I worded this question like this because I wanted male and female answers This has nothing to do with anything I have going on. Just was curious on other peoples answers. Most of my friends say no and personally I wouldn’t either. It has nothing to do with insecurities, thats just my dating preference(I know there’s girls out there that prefer female friends and that’s the girls I go for relationship-wise). I’m a guy and I know how guys think. Not to generalize all men but I know a lot of them would have sex with their female friend if she gave them the chance. Sometimes that can also be a case for men as well. So to me its like, I don’t gotta deal with that. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 12:14AM And would you date someone who has friends of the opposite sex?I worded this question like this because I wanted male and female answersThis has nothing to do with anything I have going on. Just was curious on other peo...

My heart mind and body have been broken over and over again every time I make a new profile. It's been a few years since the last one. Here's what I'm going to do. 1) Take a lot of medication to remain calm (I'm pretty loaded up right now). 2) Get my hair cut to the ideal shape (i have it extra rock star long for fun right now but I know it's not appealing and looks better shorter). 3) Dye out my grey hair (yeah I'm in my 30s now that's a thing). 4) Take some pictures. Target ideas: - 1 standing smiling outdoors chest and up with trees/nature. - 1 playing an instrument, not looking at camera. - 1 wearing a stethoscope and smiling looking like a doctor in my office but hopefully not looking like a "Linked in" picture. - 1 skydiving. I wanted to have one of my torso and abs but I'm still 5 lb of fat loss and 10 lb of muscle gain away from looking impressive there so this will have to be good enough. That will be for next try in 3 months...

Tl;dr we’re realised we have fundamental differences but have a lot of love for each other, should we make it work or continue on in comfort? It’s something I’m currently struggling with. I got married really young (22F he was 31M) and my perspective has changed a lot in the nearly 3 years we’ve been married. He’s a creative, and I work in an offshoot of engineering , I am really passionate about my work and am very determined to climb the ladder for my own goals (non-financial). We’ve been arguing over the same things for the last two years or so, he believes he’s passed his peak in his field but wants to just work at it full time (don’t want to say exactly what field), but financially we’ve been surviving solely off my income for the past two years. For context my role is an apprenticeship so I study PT and work FT, more and more lately I’m finding myself really satisfied with my work life and the personal aspects of my life gym, sport (which he chooses not to engage with me in) a...

TL;DR Want to end relationship to work on building sense of self and experience independence Ever since I [22F] was a child I have struggled with autonomy and identity. I'm an only child, and my parents were very overbearing and fearful. I never really had any privacy, and wasn't allowed to do things for myself because everything was 'dangerous'. I wasn't allowed to see friends outside of school really, or even catch a bus until I turned 18. I also was my mother's prime source of emotional support. As a result I lack confidence, a sense of autonomy, and am not very assertive. After moving out of home I moved in with my bf [24M]. We've been together for 3 years and lived together for 2. We have a pretty healthy relationship, and are best friends. He is pretty set in his views and ways however. We live together, but I feel no ownership over the house. Almost everything in the space is his, while I just want to live minimally. When we go on holiday, he does ...

Hi I'm looking for advice - I (20f) have been a relationship with my BF (21m) for 2-3 years now, and he's my best friend, I love him to pieces and I'm so grateful to him. (Apologies in advance for a slightly longer post - I'm new to Reddit. Apparently I should also state that I'm on a mobile) I've struggled with mental health, general anxiety and sadness for years, and while I have come a long, long way from where I used to be, it's still an issue for me. My BF has been great through all this - he hasn't always known how to deal with it, but he's learnt ways to care for me, especially in the last 6 months, and most importantly has been incredibly patient with me through everything. Despite how patient he's been, I do know (and have encouraged him to be honest about) how difficult it can be to deal with the sadness, irritability, negativity, and anxiety that I'm sometimes exhibiting. When I'm in the thick of it, I know I must not be very...

I've been with my man for a year and a half, and it's been the best year of my life. He absolutely made me a better person and brought out the best of me, I love the me I am with him and most importantly; I love him. However, we had our ups and downs and two months ago I broke up with him. He had been acting toxic for a while, dismissing and ignoring me and I couldn't put up with it anymore. I mean it when I say I was obsessed about him, in love head over heels. He reacted very negatively but thankfully we made up and we are both on the right track now, no toxicity and just caring for eachother. Here's the thing: when we broke up, I got drunk with one of my best friends (21M) and he tried to initiate intimacy. Although I had previously told him I DON'T want any intimacy, and that I am not ready to even think about him that way, he still insisted. Even when I cried because he wouldn't stop forcing himself on me, he briefly reassured me and then continued tryin...

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I (25M) have known this girl (25F) for about 1 year now. Things were pretty casual in the beginning, but we have started texting each other a lot more since the Covid shutdown. In the past month or so, she has texted me things like "I miss you!!", " I am worried about you" or " I miss hanging out with you" and even suggested a couple times that we should do a video chat to catch up. I have started to feel like she might actually like me. The twist is, she would just some times randomly bring up stuff like " Oh I was on the phone with A last week" or " I am trying to catch up with B some time this week." A and B are other guys at the company. She knows I am not close with them, just kinda know about them. Love to hear your thoughts on this. Would a girl sends you texts like hers if she has no intention with you? I am not sure why she's doing this. Like she would initiate conversations with me via texts, and then just sometime rand...

I'm sorry for the long paragraph, but this is a weird a story. So last summer I moved to a different city and i met this guy. We are both in our twenties. We went on a few dates. We kissed at the end of a date and the next date he wanted more. I felt like he liked me, and I liked him too and was very attracted to him but I'm very strict on saving myself for marriage which I felt like was a deal breaker for him. That night we just made out at his place. The next morning I texted him and asked him directly if the fact that I'm saving myself bothers him and he basically replied that I deserve better and that he is not the one for me. He added that if I ever change my mind I can let him know. I answered that I will never change my mind on that matter. So I just moved on and stayed busy but still liked him. 6 months later he texted me saying it's been so long since we've talked. We talked a little bit over text and he kept asking me to hang out but mostly to come over...

Just curious cuz most girls or people in general state that drinking and getting crazy at parties is "fun" and women are usually very into that ! But I don't see it that way ! How could you have fun if you don't even remember what the fuck happened! Anyway I'd love to know what's a girl's point of view about this! Thanks in advance! Submitted September 04, 2020 at 11:54PM Just curious cuz most girls or people in general state that drinking and getting crazy at parties is "fun" and women are usually very into that ! But I don't see it that way ! How could you have fun if you don't even remember what the fuck happened! Anyway I'd love to know what's a girl's point of view about this!Thanks in advance!

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35F I’ve had one serious boyfriend in my life. I have serious anxiety issues and it’s kept me from getting close to people. I started online dating a while ago and met a great guy. We went on a date and hit it off but my anxiety makes me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t want to blow it and make him think I’m not interested. But I’m not exactly secure enough to keep it going it that makes sense. I’ve been putting off meeting up again. I’m just used to being alone and I’m almost scared of it becoming serious. I also have trust issues and even though it sounds pitiful I don’t know what it is he sees in me. He seems go have a lot going for him and I can’t figure out why he is interested in me. I just do know how to get over these feelings and keep the exchange going with him. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 12:08AM 35F I’ve had one serious boyfriend in my life. I have serious anxiety issues and it’s kept me from getting close to people. I started online dating a while ago and ...

So a few new people started at my workplace this autumn. All of them seem nice, but my eye immediately caught one of them, and i was really attracted to her. Normally i avoid any romance-relations with people at work, as it's often risky, but we don't really work in the same department. I'm part of a group at work that likes to hangout outside work, and we've been inviting the new employees out for various activities, like we usually do every year. The girl in question, has like a TON of interests in common with me, And i'm not talking about like "we both like to watch tv", i'm talking like we both watch the same obscure and kinda unknown shows, and we've been talking about it. We both read books that most people have never heard of. When we're talking in a group, suddenly me or her will mention something that only me and her know about in the group. Really, the more i've talked to her when we've been gathering from work, the more i re...

Took the test and said "Gender : Other". The result said Androphile and Gynophile insted of Homo and Heterosexual. It's logic and i appreciate that. September 04, 2020 at 11:08PM

I've always been on the male side of the spectrum. I'm biologically a female but I'm to strong to unladylike to be considered really a woman. This isn't a story about being trans (not that there's anything wrong that) its just not me. That being said, recently because of an injury my husband has had to stay home and I've had to become the breadwinner. It's a position I've never been in before and I'd have to admit I'm not fond of. I've always worked but never as the head of a family. As the weeks and months have run by I've started to notice myself going into work earlier and staying out longer afterwards. I've noticed myself watching TV alone mor often (husband doesn't like what I watch) I've noticed my confidence and self esteem gradually increasing as well. I've been more happy and less depressed. Today was the first day I put it all together. I don't like being around my husband anymore. At work I'm respected ...

Ok, here goes... this thought has never crossed my mind until my fiancé proposed. I am struggling with the fact that my children will not be 100% Italian. My father is an Italian immigrant and my mother’s parents immigrated here from Italy. I used to travel to Italy every other summer and lived there for about 3 months out of the year to visit my dad’s family. My fiancé is Spanish, he is first generation American. I am concerned with how this will affect my children. His family is from a third world country where I wouldn’t feel comfortable taking my children not is it a place you would go visit. There culture is also a little different than mine in the way the children are supposed to support or help their parents and grandparents. In Italy, it’s quite the opposite and I want my children to grow up with the ideals I grew up with. I feel like I am losing a sense of my identity by not marrying someone Italian. I realize this sounds crazy and bizarre. This thought never crossed my mind ...

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Have been talking to a friend-of-a-friend/acquaintance of mine during quarantine and we've been getting along so well, he's been flirty and I've been flirty back. We have plans on going on our first date soon but I can't help but feel like I need to be cautious, mostly because I am enjoying his attention and conversations way too much and don't want to be let down by it all. Keep having to ask myself it its just quarantine/pandemic loneliness, or if there is something more there. Anyhow, the thing that mostly keeps me at bay and distancing myself lately, is that he has many attractive female friends. Which would be fine I suppose, as I have many male friends in my circle too (primarily due to my field of work) but what has been a bit strange to me is some dedicated social media posts to his "female best friend" saying things like "woman crush wednesday". Other things will include him posting about another very attractive female friend of his an...