Why does she bring up other guys in our conversations?

I (25M) have known this girl (25F) for about 1 year now. Things were pretty casual in the beginning, but we have started texting each other a lot more since the Covid shutdown. In the past month or so, she has texted me things like "I miss you!!", " I am worried about you" or " I miss hanging out with you" and even suggested a couple times that we should do a video chat to catch up. I have started to feel like she might actually like me.

The twist is, she would just some times randomly bring up stuff like " Oh I was on the phone with A last week" or " I am trying to catch up with B some time this week." A and B are other guys at the company. She knows I am not close with them, just kinda know about them.

Love to hear your thoughts on this. Would a girl sends you texts like hers if she has no intention with you? I am not sure why she's doing this. Like she would initiate conversations with me via texts, and then just sometime randomly bring up that she has calls with other guys. Is it fair to say that I feel like she wants me to chase?

TL;DR: Girl (25F) would initiate conversations and send me (25M) nice texts. I think she likes me. But she sometime randomly bring up that she has calls with other guys. I am feeling mixed signals and not sure what to do.



Submitted September 04, 2020 at 11:51PM

I (25M) have known this girl (25F) for about 1 year now. Things were pretty casual in the beginning, but we have started texting each other a lot more since the Covid shutdown. In the past month or so, she has texted me things like "I miss you!!", " I am worried about you" or " I miss hanging out with you" and even suggested a couple times that we should do a video chat to catch up. I have started to feel like she might actually like me.The twist is, she would just some times randomly bring up stuff like " Oh I was on the phone with A last week" or " I am trying to catch up with B some time this week." A and B are other guys at the company. She knows I am not close with them, just kinda know about them.Love to hear your thoughts on this. Would a girl sends you texts like hers if she has no intention with you? I am not sure why she's doing this. Like she would initiate conversations with me via texts, and then just sometime randomly bring up that she has calls with other guys. Is it fair to say that I feel like she wants me to chase?TL;DR: Girl (25F) would initiate conversations and send me (25M) nice texts. I think she likes me. But she sometime randomly bring up that she has calls with other guys. I am feeling mixed signals and not sure what to do.
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