It's been a year and a half since my (23M) emotinally intense situationship ended. I feel more or less like I've gone through the break up process and only recently felt attraction again. Thing is I feel like I'm starting all over again game-wise. I've been rebuilding my confidence and everything but there's this disconnect I have with getting myself out there and being social and flirty for the sake of having fun. I'm usually more introverted and I do overthink a bit, but there's got to be something I'm missing to get back into it because my attempts just fizzle before I can get anywhere. Anyone been in a similar spot? Are there habits or tips I could learn? Thank you in advance Submitted September 14, 2022 at 02:10AM It's been a year and a half since my (23M) emotinally intense situationship ended. I feel more or less like I've gone through the break up process and only recently felt attraction again. Thing is I feel like I'm star...

It says "men are either good at bowling or eating (p) These two are mutually exclusive" I'm good at bowling. Was she trying to tell me I suck at eating (p) or was it just a joke? Submitted September 14, 2022 at 01:12AM It says "men are either good at bowling or eating (p) These two are mutually exclusive"I'm good at bowling. Was she trying to tell me I suck at eating (p) or was it just a joke?

I’ve met a few irl, as well as discovering some of my friends online are ace years after meeting them. I joined a Discord server about a specific story on AO3 that was coincidentally full of ace people, even though that’s not what the server was for and none of them originally knew each other. I think the real problem is that ace people usually have to hide to avoid aphobia, and we don’t usually find out about our fellow aces unless we mention our own asexuality or notice some subtle ace merch they have. September 14, 2022 at 12:32AM

Autism and asexuality are linked, and autism is a disorder with high prevalence of depression and other nasty things. Being asexual may be a part of being autistic, which is a debilitating illness. If I parsed the post of connotative language, then it probably wouldn’t have even been scanned as an issue. I understand people are trying to help me but I feel like honest conversation is the best method of getting to anywhere constructive. Personally, I don’t mind disagreement as long as it has a purpose and leads to something. September 14, 2022 at 12:30AM

So about 90% of the time after a first date the next morning I get some variation of this text “hey you were great and I had a really good time, but I just don’t feel a connection”. This has been a problem for at least 5 of the 10 years I’ve been active in dating. I have had three ex-girlfriends (ranging from 2 months to a year long relationship), but according to them I seemed to be the first “good guy” they dated. I have had bad dates, where it was clear they or me said something and it wasn’t going to work. That’s like 10% of the time. Mostly things go well and just no second date. I don’t have a lot of dealbreakers or red flags so I’ve dated a variety of different women. Race, religion, income-level, culture, politics, don’t bother me as long as they are attractive and I like their personality. For context I’m a white southern atheist, center-to-center-right personally (I vote center-left). I love sports, exercising, and being in the outdoors, but I also love history, video games,...

Was talking to this girl I met at school a couple months ago. She originally approached me, we went on a date, hung out at the bars, held hands, hugged, was going well. Eventually summer came and she started giving mixed signals (flakey, hot & cold). We stopped talking for a month before she eventually came back and gave a reason for her behavior which was sketchy but valid. She became super flirty and said she always saw us potentially dating and we were going to hangout before she bailed and I caught her in a lie and told her that I knew something was up. We haven’t talked since this and it’s been 2 months. My friend who knows one of her friends saw her at a bar recently and asked her about me and she told him lies about me (that I was clingy, I couldn’t take hints, that she told me she had a bf and that I said I’d wait on her). All lies. Then of course I see her at a party a few days later. We made eye contact and I said hi but she said nothing. She was also trying to hit on m...