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/u/cpolak02 on Advice for Dealing With Homophobic Grandfather Over Holidays (17M dating 15 Bigender)

Thanks, do you think I should go to my partner's place for dinner instead of my own November 19, 2019 at 12:23AM

/u/Maristine on Advice for Dealing With Homophobic Grandfather Over Holidays (17M dating 15 Bigender)

Seeing as you’re only 17, I would try not to cause problems with your family yet. Once you move out you can say “F you grandpa I’m queer!” Yeah, Grandpa will probably still be mad, but then at least you won’t have to deal with your mom being mad at you and causing an awkward holiday situation. That’s just my advice. You don’t have to follow it if you don’t want. November 19, 2019 at 12:22AM

/u/Wow_so_rpg on I hate it when it happens

I've removed your post as we've recently banned memes on the subreddit. We have a dedicated meme subreddit called r/aaaaaaacccccccce . Feel free to post this there! November 19, 2019 at 12:19AM

/u/Maristine on Puberty is making me so confused...

I also used to have fantasies involving me, but the other person was always just kind of a blob. They never really had clear features. Pretty much what you described. You’re still ace. :) November 19, 2019 at 12:14AM

/u/unfoldedpaperclip on How to people react when you say to them that you're asexual?

I'm kinda catholic (in most loose sense) and I used to have a more conservative catholic friend. I thought our friendship was strong enough that if I told her about being ace she'd accept me. I was hoping our friendship and the time she'd spent with me would be enough to prove that I'm a worthwhile human and that making my identity known to her would not change anything. I told her I was ace and explained to her how I felt and my place on the spectrum. I had to deflect the usual "sounds fake" bullshit. I still can't figure out how I ended up comforting her . She made me feel like I had personally attacked her by telling her this. Kinda crazy November 19, 2019 at 12:09AM

First time dating someone and it’s already going south

So I(17m) just started dating this girl(16) 2 weeks ago but we have been talking for like a month. I’ve been told that she’s bad with responding to texts, dm’s, and etc. but this is ridiculous. She sometimes takes 7 or more hours to respond to a single thing and mid conversation she will just stop texting for like 20 mins. This lack of communication is beyond frustrating and her excuse is always “sorry I was so busy.” Honestly I get that people can be busy doing stuff but when the guy your dating texts you I would think that there would be more of a response. How busy can you be to not look down at your phone. In addition to that, most of the times she does reply, it’s just stale stuff like lol (when I send a meme) or some other non enthusiastic response. Also, it’s always me starting conversations. Am I just being too needy or whatever or is it something else because this is my first time dating someone and I figured I’d be able to talk with them more. Submitted November 18, 2019

Stealing another person girl

I’m {15} not a bad person I just really like this one girl.{14}The two just got together not to long ago and I also just started seriously talking to the girl as well and she admitted to liking me. Also while we talk she keeps on saying “for now” as if she is down to get together. She has even told me I have a pretty good chance. Idrk what to do Submitted November 18, 2019 at 11:50PM I’m {15} not a bad person I just really like this one girl.{14}The two just got together not to long ago and I also just started seriously talking to the girl as well and she admitted to liking me. Also while we talk she keeps on saying “for now” as if she is down to get together. She has even told me I have a pretty good chance. Idrk what to do

Getting mixed signals from girl i'm seeing. Told her i liked her, got an unenthusiastic answer. Not sure how to move forward.

We've been seeing eachother for like 3 weeks now, and have met quite often. We have already spent the night together a few times, but she has been hesitant on having sex. My problem isn't the lack of sex, but the fact that she makes makes me feel in doubt about her interest on some small things and it's driving me crazy. I know i'm probably just overthinking stuff, but i just wish i could get some more reassurance. Sometimes on our dates she just seems reluctant to kiss me. Like, she has excuses not to kiss, and it puts me off a bit. Like, she was with me tonight, and when i went in to kiss her she just pulled away and said "she didn't want to make me sick" (she had been ill a few days prior to our meeting and was still a bit under the weather). I told her i didn't care and that i usually never get sick, but it didn't matter. I understand her reasoning, but it just made me look dumb trying to kiss her and her pulling away like that. Especially whe

Should I change my beliefs for someone I love?

I have been dating a girl for almost a year now, and I believe we’ve been as close to a perfect couple as we can get (at least for now). I’m 20 and she’s 23, it may not seem like that big of a difference but it kinda does make a lot some times. Especially when she talks about past relationships. I can’t stand when she talks about her past lovers so I asked her to stop, and she did. But now the things she said are stuck in my head, and it has been for months. I’m completely in love with her and so is she, but I simply can’t stand that she’s had many one night stands. I don’t condemn people who do this, actually i find it awesome girls that have the courage to overcome the social stigma around it. I just didn’t want to have a girlfriend that does this kind of stuff, the same way I never did, she’s the first girl that I ever been intimate with. I used to think that I was being insecure or just an asshole for me to dare talk about it. I think differently now, this really bother me as I

I (23M) may have missed my chance by many months?

So I was speaking to a girl (24F) on Tinder months ago (around March). I actually met her once in University and we know a couple people in common. I got her Instagram from her on Tinder with the assumption we'd both continue talking and meet up but we never did. I can't remember who actually stopped speaking to the other last but I think it was me. The reason I stopped chatting to her was because I got into a short-lived relationship with someone else from tinder. I heard from a mutual that she's actually quite cool and somewhat regretted not asking her out and finding out if we'd get on well. I think she ended up getting into a relationship in the meantime but I have the feeling she isn't in one anymore. So, I'm wondering if you guys think I have missed my chance? Is it worth trying to ask her out over Instagram? I'm not sure if I have much to lose as we don't have any other friends in common really and I would never come into contact with her othe

Advice for dating apps

What would you recommend how I should start a conversation on dating apps like tinder, etc? Submitted November 19, 2019 at 12:03AM What would you recommend how I should start a conversation on dating apps like tinder, etc?

If guys only want to have sex with me and aren’t interested in getting to know me or date me does this mean they don’t find me attractive enough?

I’ve only ever had one boyfriend and I’m almost 20. It seems like guys are never interested in getting to know me as a person, they just want to have sex with me. Even when I’ve tried to get emotionally closer to guys they push me away and then just want sex, which I usually agree with. I’ve had guys who wanted to take me on dates but then “change their mind” and just want fuck and be done with me. I am shy and it’s not easy for me to open up to people in general but it seems like no guy ever sees me as worth his time besides a few minutes in the bedroom. So I wonder if this is because they think I’m decent looking enough to have sex with but not good enough to be seen walking around with. Submitted November 19, 2019 at 12:04AM I’ve only ever had one boyfriend and I’m almost 20. It seems like guys are never interested in getting to know me as a person, they just want to have sex with me. Even when I’ve tried to get emotionally closer to guys they push me away and then just want

How soon after someone ends their relationship is it appropriate for you to ask them out?

There is this girl who has been talking about ending things with her bf for months. She finally did it about a week ago. While she doesn't seem distraught, she is a bit bummed. No-one likes breaking up I guess. The thing is she is really gorgeous. I've had this happen before: gorgeous girl breaks up with BF; I give her space because I don't want to be one of those guys; then less than a month later she's seeing someone else. In my experience, gorgeous girls don't stay single for long. I think I might stand a chance with this girl. She seems into me, even my friends say so. So how long should I wait? I don't see her often, but plan to gauge things naturally as I see her. I'm just really afraid of someone else jumping in before me and she starts dating them. That's happened too often. Submitted November 19, 2019 at 12:04AM There is this girl who has been talking about ending things with her bf for months. She finally did it about a week ago. Whil

How to ask someone if they are ghosting you

So i (22 m) went on a date with a girl (20 m) from tinder a few weeks ago and we had a second date planned, but on the day it was supposed to happen she said she wanted to reschedule because it was snowing pretty bad that day. So i agreed to reschedule, but as days went on, she started texting and snapchatting less and less. Bottom line is, now she hasn’t replied to my last text in like 3 days and I just want to know if she is ghosting me now. How should I ask her/approach this situation? Should i just leave it alone and do nothing, or should i say something? Submitted November 19, 2019 at 12:10AM So i (22 m) went on a date with a girl (20 m) from tinder a few weeks ago and we had a second date planned, but on the day it was supposed to happen she said she wanted to reschedule because it was snowing pretty bad that day. So i agreed to reschedule, but as days went on, she started texting and snapchatting less and less. Bottom line is, now she hasn’t replied to my last text in lik

This is nice guy right?

https://ift.tt/2pzZShG Submitted November 18, 2019 at 10:34PM https://ift.tt/2pzZShG

At least he recognized that he was wasting his time

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I guess chivalry isnt dead

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Just downloaded whisper and this is the first thing I come across

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/u/cpolak02 on Emma Watson says she is “self-partnered” and I freaking love that language

Tom Felton said he is too. Harry Potter is Ace Culture November 19, 2019 at 12:07AM

/u/Military_Runs_Reddit on Also, be safe everyone!

Sorry, been away for a while. Is 'coming out' as asexual actually a thing now, or is this sarcasm/humor? November 19, 2019 at 12:00AM

/u/InvisibleChimera on I'm having trouble understanding if I'm asexual, even after reading the FAQ... can someone help me?

First finding out you might be ace is weird. When everyone around you is getting horny you're trying to figure out why they are. Asexuality isnt that bad. All that asexuality is is just the lack of sexual attraction. Nothing more nothing less. If you feel no sexual attraction your ace. Maybe your ace for a while, maybe it's for life. Doesnt mean you cant have sex. Doesnt mean you cant fall in love. Doesnt mean you cant have a real relationship with someone. You might be hetroromantic but asexual. So basically the easy way to tell if you might fall in the ace spectrum is: have you looked at a hot stranger lately and had the desire to have sex with them? Yes? Not asexual No? Asexual November 18, 2019 at 11:59PM

/u/Face1ess75 on Puberty is making me so confused...

It's probably a mix of hormones and the fact that you're young and this feeling is new. Being a teenager is confusing as hell. I went through a lot before I figured out I was ace. Libido doesn't equal sexual attraction to others, even if you fantasize about having sex. November 18, 2019 at 11:57PM

/u/Terrorizer_112 on Our bottle opener

This is the coolest thing i have seen all day November 18, 2019 at 11:55PM