I don’t see her very much, 2 or 3 times a week. She’s a really cool person, easy to talk to. I’ve known her for a few months & she’s always been a really outgoing, kind of loud person. I liked her on bumble, told her I saw her on there, about a week later I jokingly said “no like back?” & she smiled/looked down & said sorry. Now she will rarely make eye contact & is really reserved around me. The complete opposite of how she used to be. I thought it was just a lighthearted interaction, I didn’t bring it up a ton or anything. I’m not sure if I creeped her out or what but it really sucks because now she’s totally different. I’m not sure if maybe addressing it or just leaving her alone is the best thing to do. Submitted April 07, 2023 at 01:03AM I don’t see her very much, 2 or 3 times a week. She’s a really cool person, easy to talk to. I’ve known her for a few months & she’s always been a really outgoing, kind of loud person.I liked her on bumble, told her I...

I (17M) am in a confusing situation with someone (17F). I'll start this off by saying that I have never been in a relationship before. We are in highschool together, she is a senior and I am a junior, we are also in band together. I really enjoy the time I spend talking, playing games, and hanging out with her. I know she has been wanting to ask me out for a while because she has been giving very obvious signs and she told my friend's sister where that information eventually made it up to me. I do really like her and enough to want to date her, but there are a few problems. The first being that my friends, who have somewhat dated her in the past, do not like her. She was somewhat controlling, liked to trauma dump, kinda narcissistic, and at a time of griefing, asked one of them if he would like her to suck him off. I have been talking to her a lot over the past few months and haven't seen these things show up, but I don't know if they will resurface later. The second p...

Does anyone know where to find the article itself? April 07, 2023 at 12:34AM

So I’ve never been in an official relationship before. Had a couple of friends with benefits but we ended on good terms because of different paths. I’ve been working at my office job for a few years when a new guy came through and I gently flirted with him when I had free moments. I didn’t want to ask him out because of the work environment and potential pressure that might put on him. However after a month I got the courage to ask him on a date and it went really well. I was relieved when I said I was into him and he said the same for me. At the end of it he made it clear that he wanted to take things slow because of career goals and a former relationship, and I told him I completely understood as relationships were a tough subject for me in the past as well. We see each other at work almost every day and text a couple times a day as he doesn’t text much, but nothing has really progressed. It’s almost been a week since the first date and I was wondering do I initiate the second one? ...

There was another. Can’t recall who. April 06, 2023 at 11:26PM

I’m pretty young (I’m 19) Most allos have definitely felt sexual attraction by 19. Most have felt it many times. This doesn't 100% mean you are asexual on its own but 19 is 100% a good age to be like "huh. I haven't felt this thing most people my age have felt by now. Maybe something's up" (as in, maybe you're asexual). I feel like I’ve never fit into the right category. If I’m straight, Am I more submissive, or dominant? I’ve tried both, but neither felt ‘good’. Afterwards, I was just left feeling mean (if it was a more dominant role), or used, and ashamed (if it was more submissive). Sounds like sex-repulsed to me. Or sex-averse (still does not 100% mean you're asexual, allos can also be sex-repulsed or sex-averse) I’ve only ever been with men, but I don’t think, in my head, anyway, I’d be oppose to kissing another woman etc. Kissing isn't necessarily an indication of sexual attraction as it can also be a part of romantic or sensual attra...