You heard Hard Rock Hallelujah? Idk I just think it’s great May 13, 2021 at 12:05AM

I don't usually flat out state that I'm asexual, but I'm not going to lie if someone asks... May 13, 2021 at 12:04AM

Maybe since I was 8, people talked about dating, I always questioned what the point of dating is. Like who cares about having a bf/gf? Then when I got older people started talking about sex ( I was about 15) and again, I was like, why would you want that? Like I know people need to do it to keep the population going but why do it? Doesn’t seem enjoyable at all. Also anytime people on tv did/said anything sexual k either felt nothing, or discomfort. So yeah there’s many reasons why I should’ve known I was aro/ace. Also, there’s memes talking about childhood celebrity crushes and I’m like,”y’all are having childhood crushes?” Lol. May 13, 2021 at 12:02AM

How do you know she lied in the first place? The pronoun "she" was not referring to the specific individual person in your situation. The pronoun "she" was referring to the generic individual in the statistically-proven generalization about how nearly (but not all!) every single case involves a male or female who claimed to be heterosexual at the very beginning of the relationship even though he or she knew full well that he or she is uninterested in sex and he or she knew full well that he or she is asexual. The generalization was noted only and entirely to point out that such tragedies would NOT occur if we lived in a world in which there was no onus against admitting from the start that one is asexual. You took it as an attack for some odd reason, when it was instead a plea for the importance of an equality of sexualities that includes asexuals. May 12, 2021 at 11:59PM

Um, a piece of advice? Ask (demand, plead) the future doctor to use the "smaller" speculum. There's the "average/regular" one that's usually used -- you don't want that one. May 12, 2021 at 11:58PM

YES!!! • Kingdom Hearts • Shadow of the Colossus • Dark Cloud • Super Mario World LOL it's so nostalgic •Castlevania (bloody tears is #1) Also anime music. 😁 May 12, 2021 at 11:58PM

Sorry I have no input but I'm in the same boat as you! I am also having trouble differentiating between romantic and platonic love. I didn't think it would be so stressful lol May 12, 2021 at 11:57PM

We can thank the famously allosexual Lil Nas X for doing exactly this. May 12, 2021 at 11:55PM

I'm just saying count yer blessings. But honestly, same. I would love kids of my own; sadly, I'm both asexual and a dude, so that part's a bit tricky. May 12, 2021 at 11:54PM

Ah yes there are some beautiful tracks out there. Ori and the Blind Forest by Gareth Coker and Journey by Austin Wintory are two that come to mind. May 12, 2021 at 11:53PM

A friend showed me a pic of their crush and everyone says he's cute. I'm like he looks clean. May 12, 2021 at 11:50PM

Same. Only ever had one crush, and that was due to aesthetic reasons. Never a celebrity crush. I think celeb crushes are weird though. They don’t know who you are, and you’re obsessing over them? Just doesn’t make sense to me. May 12, 2021 at 11:50PM

Yeah but like, I just wanna have babies super easy : ( May 12, 2021 at 11:50PM

this is so relatable it’s actually ridiculous. the making up crushes, definitely, but among other things. i didn’t know aromanticism or asexuality even existed till the past year, but i have had the biggest “oh this explains literally everything” moments. #1 goes to me realizing why for years i have gotten bent out of shape over how romanticized media is. i genuinely could rant for an hour or more about how stupid it is that characters on tv always have to fall in love with any character their sexuality allows for. it seems two characters can never just be friends if they can be attracted to each other. unrealistic. and if there did happen to be two characters who were truly just platonic, either the writers would make it romantic and/or sexual or thousands of people online would ship them. this made me so angry because people in real life, believe it or not, have friends??? and in my opinion, platonic friendships can be equally or even more valuable than romantic or sexual ones. both

After watching the show you should be thankful you are anyone BUT Wanda! She's... got problems. May 12, 2021 at 11:49PM

don't worry about your age, it's really good that you found out soon 🥰 because it becomes easier to live life when you know yourself, so don't worry, the majority of the comunity knew it after their 20s, me included (I found out with 21)... my life in high school would have been soooooo easier if I had found out with your age May 12, 2021 at 11:44PM

There's a song called Everybody's Lonely by Jukebox the Ghost and the chorus goes "why's every song about love or drinking too much / yeah, maybe that's because everybody's lonely" I literally thought this was a reference for a sec haha. Great song tho May 12, 2021 at 11:42PM

No no I completely get that! For me, I accidentally “came out” as homosexual to my closest friends/family, because I just assumed that since I was turned on by kinks revolving around male sexual organs (I’m also a male, so I think I grew that arousal simply out of familiarity, but anyway), that I thought I must be homosexual, but then I, too, learned that asexuality is a spectrum and you don’t have to be non-sexual to be asexual . Pretty big lightbulb moment as I realized that even though I had things that turned me on, I never had or wish to have actual intercourse with anybody else. So now I feel like I’m in a secondary closet of sorts, where I can’t revise to them and say that I’m actually asexual without having to also admit the “kinky” part (which they might still perceive as homosexual LOL) and delve uncomfortably deep into my sexuality. So I definitely feel ya. Really hard. I, too, don’t know how I want to end up approaching it, if ever. But since I’m also a Christian, I’d p

if you're fairly young, your parents were probably relieved to hear that you're not interested in sex. May 12, 2021 at 11:38PM

it fits with the people that hear it. May 12, 2021 at 11:35PM

I had a very similar experience. I've never really had celebrity crushes (still don't). I would've realized earlier (if I knew asexuality was a thing) in middle school when my friends would talk about how sexy someone was and I never even connected anyone, be it someone I knew personally or celebrity, to the idea of sex. May 12, 2021 at 11:35PM

It is kind of difficult to tell, because, sorry to say, maybe you and your partners have just been bad at it. Sex isn't automatically amazing. I think seeing people and knowing that you want to "get busy" with them does not sound a-spec. But it's also possible that you're misinterpreting that feeling. That is what happened with me, and I spent many, many years trying to find a kind of sex that I could get into, only to eventually conclude out that it wasn't the sex I was really after, but the after-sex cuddling. For me, figuring it out came from trying a whole lot of different things and seeing what worked and what didn't. If I knew about asexuality when I was younger, I think I would have figured it out a lot faster. May 12, 2021 at 11:34PM

My Chemical Romance has a whole album that revolves around death - universally relatable. I only listen to a few bands, but if you listen to albums and not just the singles, it's probably easier to find non-love-songs. May 12, 2021 at 11:30PM