I get it more like 2 or so a fortnight but yeah, although I'm AMAB so pretty sure it's nothing to do with menstrual cycles for me 😅 January 19, 2021 at 12:03AM

Dang I was expecting a neat story and I just got attacked with kindness. Ily too I guess, I also love everyone here so you can't be that bad of a person :) January 19, 2021 at 12:02AM

I still don't understand what you mean by making you a lesser parent in a physical way. Could you elaborate more on this? January 19, 2021 at 12:01AM

Idk how helpful this is, but I'd basically describe it as "like being ace, but for romance". Personally, I've never had crushes, wanted to date people, etc. Idk there's a "like libido, but for romance", but if there is, I don't have one. Kissing people seems kinda weird and uncomfortable to me. I've heard that a lot of aro people don't like how romantic subplots are in every piece of media, although they don't bother me too much unless they're forced/badly written. I think about amatanormativity a lot, although that mostly started after I started identifying as aroace and learned the word amatanormativity. Uhh... I would've broken up this wall of text somewhat, but I didn't exactly have a coherent enough set of ideas to do paragraphs lol. Still, hopefully something in there helps. I'd also recommend checking out r/aromantic and r/aaro to see how much you identify with what people say there, if you haven't already.

I'm 34 and just discovering this. Wasn't til I read a thread about what sexual attraction feels like for allo people that I realized I maybe hadn't ever experienced it before. All these years I just thought I had a low sex drive or something - in comparison to all my friends who have/seek sex and related human contact frequently. January 19, 2021 at 12:00AM

I'm you but all inverted January 19, 2021 at 12:00AM

Same here, with a flurry of creative energy and a little perkiness. Then back to normal within 3 days. I just take advantage and write or draw! January 18, 2021 at 11:57PM

Nobody saw but me. And these dead plushie eyes see everything. ._. ​ ​ ​ ​ ._. January 18, 2021 at 11:55PM

I’m sure plenty of people who identify as some flavor of ace are willing to do things for their partner’s sake. Especially if there’s trust that the partner would never abuse that. Personally I’m somewhere between Demisexual and gray ace, and I’d absolutely do things for my partner’s sake, because making him happy is important to me. But I also know that when I’m not in the mood he’s ok with that. January 18, 2021 at 11:54PM

Yep, story of my life. I have mixed feelings about those days. January 18, 2021 at 11:53PM

r/asexuality Rules1. Thank you so much for this. I honestly don't know what else to say, I was very touched. Reading this made me feel less alone, as have the other comments to this post January 18, 2021 at 11:53PM

Oh. My. GOD! I was just thinking about this. Yes, my libido (usually nonexistent) gets bumped up ever so slightly when I ovulate. My nipples get sore too. Those are my only two signs. I've been off the pill for 6 months and while I was still on it this didn't really happen. I'm having the internal 'is it low libido or asexuality' debate rn and it's so annoying. Anyone else? Also for any passing aces: Can you orgasm? Never managed it myself, doesn't help that I have no drive to flick the bean (used to when I actually had a libido as a kid). January 18, 2021 at 11:52PM

Yes, expect for me it’s like a week. Really annoying actually. January 18, 2021 at 11:52PM

I'm sorry, that was not the point of this post. In fact, this feeling is from several different resources I have looked at and I honestly don't spend a lot of time on this sub anyway, but came here because I feel like it's a pretty safe place to get information when I have nowhere else to turn. January 18, 2021 at 11:49PM

I'm a bi guy with an asexual/demisexual partner as well. I feel a little bad that I sometimes want intimacy when they don't, but I've never pushed anything and I'd feel awful if I ever made them feel unsafe in our relationship. January 18, 2021 at 11:49PM

Yup. 3 days, right in the middle of my cycle. January 18, 2021 at 11:48PM

The world needs more people like you. January 18, 2021 at 11:46PM

r/hadusinthefirsthalf January 18, 2021 at 11:43PM

I'm still new to this and sorting out where I am on the ace spectrum, so this meme was like another blast of realisation to me lol January 18, 2021 at 11:42PM

Yo! Not ace here. Wondering if I could get any insight from some ace bros on what stuff like this is like? Because I know u don’t have to be absolutely sex repulsed to be considered ace, and I was wondering if having days like this confuses people who are ace. January 18, 2021 at 11:42PM

Make sure it’s one that fits her middle finger, because that is usually a larger size. January 18, 2021 at 11:41PM

Middle finger, right hand is for asexual. Other fingers on right hand can mean swinger. Or all of them can mean the person likes black rings. January 18, 2021 at 11:40PM

Because I know it won't sussed? January 18, 2021 at 11:40PM