Are talking about which celebs they'd have sex with? April 04, 2021 at 12:01AM

That's awesome! April 04, 2021 at 12:01AM

i thought pride month was june? April 04, 2021 at 12:01AM

No worries! It’s kind of funny, I wrote my reply after OKCupid said there were no more aces in my area, then I went to check and a new one sent me a message. He’s not my type but hey! Gives me hope that it’s just the site needing some time to sort their data base. All the more reason to be patient. I’m also a bit of a believer that ace/allo relationships CAN work out, especially for us aces who are somewhat grey middlers (sex neutral, for example). It just takes a lot of trust and open communication. It’s also funny, I was casually browsing another sub about bedroom advice (don’t ask me how I got there lol) and there’s a TON of posts from high libido females complaining about their low libido men, and how they “only” get sex once a month, if that. I wanted to be like “well shit girl, send them my way!!” 😂 April 03, 2021 at 11:57PM

Same. One time my friends were saying “everything people do in life is, at it’s core, about sex though. The job you get, the hobbies you take up, the way you try to look - it’s all with that ultimate goal”. And I adamantly said “NOT ME, not one single decision I’ve ever made in my life has been with that in mind!” What they were saying actually pissed me off because I used to really pride myself on being someone who made my own choices, picked my own path and was driven by an intrinsic passion and curiosity for life, since I grew up in a place where people just follow the leader. I have so many other motivations. And I remember my two friends looked at each other with the strangest look on their faces, like I’d just said something so alien. April 03, 2021 at 11:56PM

Thank you for the advices. It’s good to know romantic and sensual attraction take time. April 03, 2021 at 11:54PM

I saw you on Twitter this afternoon and followed you. Had to share your wisdom on Reddit! April 03, 2021 at 11:54PM

I decided to come out to my step dad ( as demipan ) and he took it pretty well. However, I no longer identify as demipan. I am currently identifying as aroace because it is more fitted to describe how I feel. I came out when my step dad and I were talking about our views about gay people ( for context we are a very christan/catholic family ). He had a really positive attitude towards them and he understood that we do not choose to be shamed for what we are and who we like. He said that his uncle actually was gay and that even though his uncle was gay it had no effect on whether he loved his uncle or not. Hearing that made me more comfortable so I came out to him. April 03, 2021 at 11:53PM

Same, many people my age wear quite skimpy clothing, whilst I stick to more modest stuff. I really hate being looked at, so that’s why I don’t wear revealing stuff. Though there are aces who do wear revealing clothing, but it’s usually just to express themselves. April 03, 2021 at 11:52PM

I’m confused and I’m V A L I D April 03, 2021 at 11:52PM

Thank you for the reply! I figured the dating pool would be small unfortunately. I have never heard of those apps and websites, I’m gonna have to give it a try. Hopefully I have better luck on them than on tinder and Facebook! April 03, 2021 at 11:50PM

You’re right. I should see it from the positive side and be glad that’s she’s trying. Will definitely work on lessening bad thoughts and the past. Sorry I realise it came off as a rant 😅 April 03, 2021 at 11:47PM

Damn, this is actually really helpful. Like, sometimes I get imposter syndrome because I think "Well, I really don't have much experience in relationships. Maybe once I start dating, I'll discover I actually do want sexual intimacy. Or maybe after I have bottom surgery and am less dysphoric, I won't be as sex-averse." It's good to just be like "Okay, maybe one day I'll consider myself demisexual, maybe one day I'll consider myself comfortable with sex, but right now I'm 19-years-old and have never experienced sexual attraction so I consider myself asexual." A nice reminder that I'm valid and so are all of you (even if you don't have any particular label for yourself yet). April 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

Ace dad always makes me feel really safe, dunno, his voice, his wicked hair, and his awesome arms make me feel really secure. Ace dad needs all the rep and I would buy ace dad merch if it was a back support pillow with arms patterned after his tattoo sleeves. April 03, 2021 at 11:43PM

So unpopular opinion, but I’d say no. The progress flag only represents poc (who are pushed out of the community, regardless of sexuality in many instances), trans people (who deserve love and support because their rights are under attack right now), and the gay flag, which in this instance is inclusive of every sexuality. Sometimes gay takes on the same meaning as queer, like here. So I’d say no just because not all sexualities are represented. April 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

I'm sorry if I offended or missinformed anyone April 03, 2021 at 11:32PM

I’d gladly take the job. April 03, 2021 at 11:31PM

Types of attraction Aesthetic: They look good Romantic: I would love to hold them and touch their hair. They make me feel special. Sensual: I like when they touch me Sexual: I want to take off their clothes and... April 03, 2021 at 11:27PM

Lil Nas X is an absolute legend April 03, 2021 at 11:22PM

My own idea: instead of male and female you have the option for garlic bread and cake April 03, 2021 at 11:18PM

A friend of mine pointed me here, and this is so freaking cool. I’m really smiling here. Thank you! April 03, 2021 at 11:16PM

I was like 26-27 when I first realized I could be ace, but I think I knew it when I was already 15 too. I just never heard about asexuality, and it was never an option. Asexuality is kinda an orientation of exclusion, it is the lack of something so very difficult to even aknowledge it in yourself. Being sexual is also very expected so you might feel like you are supposed to be so. If you think that you are ace, and feel most comfortable with that identity, then you are free to use it. There is always time to explore your sexuality, and being asexual is not a permanent. You can always change whatever label that suites you. April 03, 2021 at 11:14PM

I might write a story just so this dream of ours is somehow fulfilled. It may or may not include cake or dragons or garlic bread (to make it PERFECTLY CLEAR it’s an ace story) but I’ll keep you posted 😂😂 April 03, 2021 at 11:10PM