You shouldn't force yourself to date if you don't have any desire to do so. If I had to guess, you are probably asexual and also aromantic ( /r/aromantic ). I think that most average people feel some sort of desire for romantic relationships and crave romantic closeness. I am aromantic myself and have never felt any urge for that. Your little summary sounds very similar to my own experience. Feel free to message me if you want to talk things out. October 03, 2019 at 12:20AM

Me. I am one of those. We're so special. Yay. October 03, 2019 at 12:20AM

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I got this question of someone asking me if I knew this girl on campus today. Does anyone know a girl named Olivia (I believe that’s her name) About 6ft, short blonde hair, wears a lot of eye shadow, looks like she works out. Mature looking face. How do I also approach women without being awkward? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:27PM I got this question of someone asking me if I knew this girl on campus today. Does anyone know a girl named Olivia (I believe that’s her name) About 6ft, short blonde hair, wears a lot of eye shadow, looks like she works out. Mature looking face. How do I also approach women without being awkward?

I've [24/f] gone on multiple dates these past few weeks and I feel like I'm out of the loop about current date etiquette. I met these people on tinder because I tried OK cupid and I kept matching/whatever with heterosexual women, so the site's algorithm is wonky. I tried bumble but got not matches. On tinder, both guys and gals seem to like me. On all five of my dates, both men and women, they have tried to kiss me or put their arms around me when close. Am I a prude for being really turnt off by this? I'm not exactly looking for love but I don't even know these people and they are trying to snog me without any real flirting or foreplay. I really dislike most digital communication so our texting before hand isn't extensive and plans are made pretty quickly... I'm worried I'm being too reserved or maybe dating apps aren't for me. Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:28PM I've [24/f] gone on multiple dates these past few weeks and I feel like I...

Hi, so I'm in a pickle. I've known a girl for over 5 years now. I've grown feelings for her since the day I met her pretty much. I have been her best friend for basically forever. Recently, about a week or 2 ago, she broke up with her BF of 2 years and I've basically been the one who alone was consoling her. Today 10/2/19 we got drunk together and I decided in my drunken stupor to her that I have had feelings for her for a very long time, and that no matter what I still think of her as a good friend, etc. etc. it seems like she took it pretty well, but left soon after telling this to her. Obviously I still want to be her friend and such. I know I messed telling her this while she was still in her recovery but I was drunk and dumb haha. Is there any way I can still salvage this... or did I just mess up any chances I had/ruin a good friendship of mine? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:36PM Hi, so I'm in a pickle. I've known a girl for over 5 years now. I...

I feel so stupid but we dated for 3 months and he ghosted me last month. I have no reason to contact this dude again, I don’t even want to... yet unmatching him on Tinder is like me admitting to myself that it’s another failed chance for me, and I just tried I do it and couldn’t haha.. I have his number and he has mine, we haven’t even talked on tinder since May! So it’s not like we use it to communicate. But still... !!! I know it so stupid!!! But anyone else have the same difficulty?!! Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:37PM I feel so stupid but we dated for 3 months and he ghosted me last month.I have no reason to contact this dude again, I don’t even want to... yet unmatching him on Tinder is like me admitting to myself that it’s another failed chance for me, and I just tried I do it and couldn’t haha.. I have his number and he has mine, we haven’t even talked on tinder since May! So it’s not like we use it to communicate. But still... !!!I know it so stupid!!! But anyone e...

Which app is best for matches etc? Were you successful with a particular app or someone else you know? Thanks! Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:41PM Which app is best for matches etc? Were you successful with a particular app or someone else you know? Thanks!

So I was dating an amazing guy recently. For a solid 3 months everything was great other than the fact that our ‘dates’ slowly turned into ‘Netflix and chill’. It was boring but he had stuff going on so I brushed it off. He became flakey. I confronted him as politely as possible. He said he’d lost the spark for me. I’m so incredibly gutted. I really liked him. But... ... I’ve now, just realised a huge fat pattern in my dating life. Men seem to get bored of me once we hit this phase of lying in bed watching movies. For some background context, these guys are always sporty. A PT. A sports coach. A swim teacher. Pro Skateboarder. Or just considerably active people. I am pretty extroverted, I love the idea of doing fun new things. I’m very social and I consider myself pretty out there when looking for things to do. I have a great circle of friends. I never even take friends to the same cafe twice. I have more ‘hobbies’ and aspirations in the making than I know what to do with. But the...

I (f/20) really like this guy at my university (m/22). So he has been super sweet and we definitely have a connection. I would love to date him, he checks off a lot of my boxes. However, he gave me a piece of gum in class yesterday and it tasted like a cigarette! It caught me off guard because I never smelled it on him (and we've sat pretty close). I'm less inclined to date a smoker because cigarette smoke makes me sick. It's a little disappointing because he is a really great guy. Was the gum just old? I'm a little confused here. Please help. Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:46PM I (f/20) really like this guy at my university (m/22). So he has been super sweet and we definitely have a connection. I would love to date him, he checks off a lot of my boxes. However, he gave me a piece of gum in class yesterday and it tasted like a cigarette! It caught me off guard because I never smelled it on him (and we've sat pretty close). I'm less inclined to date a sm...

A little backstory: He and I have been frens for about two years and for a while now it seems to me we've been flirting. The other night I was chewing gum and he took it out of my mouth and started chewing it. When I asked for it back, he told me I'd have to come and get it. Somehow my hand ended up underneath his ass cheek and he threatened to fart on it, and I told him I could feel his asshole clench (in an attempt to get him to back down), but he double downed and began purposefully clenching it. I really don't know if he's just like this (it seems so, he's very extroverted and chaotic). I really don't know what to make of this situation and I fear asking him will only confuse me more. Any thoughts? Submitted October 02, 2019 at 11:50PM A little backstory:He and I have been frens for about two years and for a while now it seems to me we've been flirting. The other night I was chewing gum and he took it out of my mouth and started chewing it. When ...

Some background real quick. I pretty socially awkward and this was my first time asking someone out on a dating app. So this is most likely going to be part of a learning experience for me. So I met a girl on a dating app and we had a good amount in common. So I get her phone number and we talk. I felt like we talked a lot for two people who haven’t met. We met up and I won’t go into details but I believe It was a little unorthodox for a first meetup or date. Regardless, I had a pretty good time and thought she did too. After that she got real quiet and texted me a lot less until it just stopped. After 3 days I realize I’m being ghosted. And I was upset about it but it’s how things go now I guess. A few days after that I get a call from her. Honestly she gave me a flimsy reason as to why she haven’t contacted me. I felt awkward because I wasn’t exactly sure what she wanted. Then after that she went quiet again. So maybe I shouldn’t be trying to figure this out. But can anyone give...

I really miss someone yet I think I will just be a bother to her. We met at work and became very close. I consider her important. I got used to seeing her, talking to her and doing many things with her. So end of contract comes. We have to say our good byes. We promised to be in touch even if we don't see each other anymore. But slowly slowly we lost what we had before. We don't talk much. Maybe for her it was nothing but I feel empty if we don't talk at least once a day. What should I do? I feel she forgot about me and what we promised. Submitted October 03, 2019 at 12:02AM I really miss someone yet I think I will just be a bother to her. We met at work and became very close. I consider her important. I got used to seeing her, talking to her and doing many things with her.So end of contract comes. We have to say our good byes. We promised to be in touch even if we don't see each other anymore. But slowly slowly we lost what we had before. We don't talk muc...

There was someone (34F) I(28M) use to work with who I really liked. She was in a bad relationship but we still hung out a few times. Eventually when she was single and we weren't working together anymore we went out on a real date and had a good time. She held my hand first and did so all night. Kissed me first and we were kissing all night. She called me baby and we talked about a future, etc. It was lovely. We also ended up getting really drunk. I even ended up getting a little sick but she took care of me and assured me it didn't matter and how much she "cares" about me and still kept wanting to kiss me. She still kept checking up on me after but when ever I tried to make plans again she'd just ghost me. Made me feel like I wasn't good enough to say the least. ​ After not contacting me for a month she sent a snap to me the other day. Foolish thinking she wanted me back in her life we talked so I tried to make plans just for her to stop replying to me aga...

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I’ve been talking to a a guy for the past few weeks. We hang out all the time and I really like him. I’ve honestly been waiting for us to make it official but I found out some potentially bad news. I was on twitter and noticed some girl commented on something he tweeted so I clicked on her profile. About a week before we started hanging out/talking she posted some long ass paragraph about him and something he got for her!!!! She said I love you in the paragraph and also tagged him in a tweet during the first week we were talking. I scroll back more and there’s pictures of them from the summer (these didn’t concern me because we didn’t even know each other). I am completely shocked and feel so hurt. I texted him right after and basically just said “do you have a girlfriend?” He denied it and explained that they used to talk but now they don’t and I brought up the fact that there was a post about him on her profile a month ago. Again, he denied it and I really want to believe him. These...

I am a 34F and recently hung out with a 34M. We went to school together years ago and knew who each other were but didn't really know each other. We have been friends on social media since then but also never really struck up any real conversations until recently. I initiated convo and hanging out. So, basically meeting for the first time... it was super casual, lunch and a drink. I get super nervous meeting new people in general, so I was super nervous! I actually have had a bit of a crush for a long time but either I had a bf or he had a gf. It seemed like he was pretty nervous too and sometimes there were awkward silences but everything seemed like okay, friendly. There was some mild flirting and meaningful eye contact that seemed like maybe he was interested, and at the end he gave me a hug and said thanks for reaching out. So, afterwards I texted him that I had a really nice time and that I forgot to pay him for the drink we got so if he wanted to hang out again I owe him a d...

I can understand that lots of people think only people with first hand relationship experience should be commenting on relationships. Advice from people very experienced with relationships is great, but I think that an outsider's perspective adds good things to any conversation. I think that because we have different life experiences than most people, we can offer a different perspective on relationships. My brother came to me for advice before he got engaged. He was struggling with what marriage meant to him and understanding why it was important to his girlfriend. We talked it out and now he and his wife have been married for over a year, so I'm 1 for 1 so far! October 03, 2019 at 12:01AM