Deleting social media to get over someone. Rash or smart?

There was someone (34F) I(28M) use to work with who I really liked. She was in a bad relationship but we still hung out a few times. Eventually when she was single and we weren't working together anymore we went out on a real date and had a good time. She held my hand first and did so all night. Kissed me first and we were kissing all night. She called me baby and we talked about a future, etc. It was lovely. We also ended up getting really drunk. I even ended up getting a little sick but she took care of me and assured me it didn't matter and how much she "cares" about me and still kept wanting to kiss me. She still kept checking up on me after but when ever I tried to make plans again she'd just ghost me. Made me feel like I wasn't good enough to say the least.

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After not contacting me for a month she sent a snap to me the other day. Foolish thinking she wanted me back in her life we talked so I tried to make plans just for her to stop replying to me again. I feel like such a fucking clown. A part of me still wishes she could be mine but it's clear she doesn't respect me nor care about my feelings. Just seeing her or knowing what she is up to just hurts. I don't want to see her social media on anything. I just want to move on. As of right now I have everything deactivated. I doubt she'd even care or notice but I'm not sure how else to move on. I've been having a lot going on in my life and just being reminded how she made me feel so good just to throw me away isn't making me feel any better. I just wanna focus on getting back into my personal work and get my life right while I find a new day job. I need to focus and social media feels like such a distraction. Has anyone ever done this before to get over someone and improve their life? Did anyone even ever both to reach out to you? Has it ever worked for you? Did your life improve from it?



Submitted October 03, 2019 at 12:03AM

There was someone (34F) I(28M) use to work with who I really liked. She was in a bad relationship but we still hung out a few times. Eventually when she was single and we weren't working together anymore we went out on a real date and had a good time. She held my hand first and did so all night. Kissed me first and we were kissing all night. She called me baby and we talked about a future, etc. It was lovely. We also ended up getting really drunk. I even ended up getting a little sick but she took care of me and assured me it didn't matter and how much she "cares" about me and still kept wanting to kiss me. She still kept checking up on me after but when ever I tried to make plans again she'd just ghost me. Made me feel like I wasn't good enough to say the least.​After not contacting me for a month she sent a snap to me the other day. Foolish thinking she wanted me back in her life we talked so I tried to make plans just for her to stop replying to me again. I feel like such a fucking clown. A part of me still wishes she could be mine but it's clear she doesn't respect me nor care about my feelings. Just seeing her or knowing what she is up to just hurts. I don't want to see her social media on anything. I just want to move on. As of right now I have everything deactivated. I doubt she'd even care or notice but I'm not sure how else to move on. I've been having a lot going on in my life and just being reminded how she made me feel so good just to throw me away isn't making me feel any better. I just wanna focus on getting back into my personal work and get my life right while I find a new day job. I need to focus and social media feels like such a distraction. Has anyone ever done this before to get over someone and improve their life? Did anyone even ever both to reach out to you? Has it ever worked for you? Did your life improve from it?
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