My brother who is older than me is in a wheelchair and has many disabilities, these were caused by an accident 7 years ago. He has been talking to me recently on how he wants to ask this girl who knew him before the accident. I am happy he still wants to ask people out and socialise but I’m scared incase he gets hurt! I know I know what it sounds like, like I’m some creepy sister who wants my brother all to myself! Well I don’t! I’m just scared as you hear all these stories about people in wheelchairs getting hurt in the dating scene and he has been hurt by girls before, you wouldn’t even want to know what they said!!! I tried to advice him to maybe go for people who have similar disabilities or people who have had an disabilities who may understand but he won’t listen and he is very persistent in asking this girl out... any advice? Submitted December 19, 2020 at 10:33PM My brother who is older than me is in a wheelchair and has many disabilities, these were caused by an acciden

soon we can start the invasion December 20, 2020 at 12:05AM

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I love it! December 20, 2020 at 12:03AM

You sound asexual to me, it about sexual attraction, and you discribed that you don't feel that December 19, 2020 at 11:57PM

Same, the second I saw it, I threw it on. December 19, 2020 at 11:56PM

The non-sexual (AKA circus) version is called Chinese pole(s) if you feel like looking it up. 100% not sexual by default. December 19, 2020 at 11:56PM

Love your style! December 19, 2020 at 11:55PM

I mean, we're all saying the same thing on this reddit. Have you considered you're asking the wrong age demographic or that you were just an outlier? December 19, 2020 at 11:51PM

Just to give a counter example, I'm sex-favorable meaning this sort of situation doesn't bother me. I'd never seek people out for sex, though, and even if I have sex with someone it becomes clear I'm going through the motions and don't feel attraction for them (although I don't mind the situation). It all depends on the person. December 19, 2020 at 11:51PM

I have found people by going to different social events and becoming friends with them. I am open about being asexual to most of my friends so they knew that about me before we got into a relationship. I never have used mainstream dating apps unless the website okcupid counts. I didn't use the phone app but I deleted my account there years ago because I didn't want to put the effort into it. December 19, 2020 at 11:49PM

I am covered up nearly all the time ( I wear short sleeve t-shirts and stuff but I always have tights on if I wear and skirt and stuff), I don't think it's an ace thing but more just a 'what I am comfortable in' type thing. I also really hate having pyjamas on in front of people so I make sure I get dressed, this is likely because I associate pyjamas with being ill and having a sick day. I also always wear appropriate things to school as if I was following the uniform we had in lower school, just like to feel covered up and in clothes I can concentrate in. I think it's just what you are comfortable in. December 19, 2020 at 11:45PM

I joined right at the right moment! December 19, 2020 at 11:42PM

Happy Saturday! December 19, 2020 at 11:41PM

For reference (I think this is super important in dating discussions), I'm a 29 y/o cis black guy. Aroflux, and interested in women. Since I accepted being ace only a few months before the pandemic, almost all of my dating as been through online means. Dating apps, discord, etc. I use a lot of apps/places: Tinder, OkCupid, Hinge, ACEApp, and some sites like asexuals.net . I don't only date aces but I'd prefer to, however I find that most aces I meet online I don't vibe with in that way, or are demiromantic (I'm flux, but when I feel romantic attraction it's pretty immediate and it's hard for me to balance that with someone who takes time to develop the same feelings). In any space not dedicated for asexuals I put my asexuality at the top of my profile and mention it early on in the convo if I match with someone. Always to be transparent about these things IMO. People will always reach out who don't read this; all you can do is block them or ignore the

Don't take crap from someone who can't even use "your/you're" correctly. December 19, 2020 at 11:35PM

basically him appearing in my dreams, sometimes trying something, but it was enough to trigger me. December 19, 2020 at 11:34PM

This is Messenger December 19, 2020 at 11:28PM

"he had the power to have sex with anyone, yet he didn't want to. Ironic." December 19, 2020 at 11:23PM

Anytime December 19, 2020 at 11:12PM

Anytime December 19, 2020 at 11:11PM

100003! Makes a huge number! All jokes aside it’s good to see a great community for this subreddit December 19, 2020 at 11:07PM