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/u/Rhundan on What’s the best way to describe graysexuality to allos? (Screenshot is from an IG meme page)

The first thing that springs to my mind is "Have you ever gone shopping, looked at something on the shelf and thought 'Oh, that looks good, I could go for some of that', bought it, and then it's sat in your cupboard for weeks or months until you actually felt like eating it? Being graysexual can be kind of like that" but that doesn't really cover the whole range of graysexual, so I don't know how good it is. March 23, 2023 at 01:07AM

I think my coworker may like me. Help?

I, (F 18), have been working at my job for almost a year now. I have made a few friends from the place and sometimes we'll hangout outside of work. There's this one guy though, (M 19), that is closer to me than others. Usually my group of coworker friends will hang out in one large group, but he typically tries to make plans to hang out with just the two of us without the others. There's just some things he does that makes me question whether or not he's into me. Like him and I talk all the time, like consistently throughout the day. We snap and text one another. He's number one on my best friend's list and I'm number one on his. He goes to the gym a lot and will send me his work out pics. He also talks to me about his day and asks about mine. He's super caring and is always wondering what I'm up to. At work when I get stressed out due to some of the customers we have to deal with, and he's always walking up to me asking if I need a break, if I

Never being a first or true love: seeking advice for grappling with retroactive jealousy and insecurity.

I (20F) never experienced adolescent love; I was quiet and asocial. Now that I am opening myself to relationships and sexual connections, I know that I will never be someone's first love, likely not their first relationship. People often cast a rosy light over former relationships. In my case, this is especially true, as his (22M) first relationship was awful, second near-perfect (ended by extrinsic circumstances), his experience of "real, unconditional love". (This is a more general problem, however, with being an inexperienced woman.) It is childish, but the stabbing thought comes each time: I will never be enough, he will always wish for that one to be rekindled, I am a limp, inadequate replacement for what he would truly prefer. I can never offer the wholeheartedness of those past loves. (This is perhaps aggravated by the fact that this is currently a casual, non-exclusive relationship.) How can I manage these feelings, this futile retroactive envy? In my healthier

/u/Sephzuz on My ace Ring came today

Congrats! Mines coming on Friday! March 22, 2023 at 11:33PM

Strange experience. Thoughts?

For reference we are both in our late 20s. So I've been hanging out with this girl recently. We get along very well and at first I thought maybe she was interested in me, but she kept saying things like I hate being codependent, it's bad to rely on other people, etc. So I guess she is probably not wanting to date so I've been keeping it pg. I'm generally not platonic friends with girls but I would be/am with her which is definitely a new experience. First time I went to her place she wouldn't even let me wash my cup saying that she prefers to do it. A few weeks later and we are at her place again and she asks if I'll cook dinner for her which of course I'm happy to do and she's telling me about her dating app idea while eating the food I made. Which is basically find a guy who can do services for you, do services for him,???, dating?... I'm thinking is she talking about this? I've paid for two of her meals at restaurants and now she's off