My bf is a very sexual person and last night we were on the phone and he said that he wanted us to masturbate together. Ii was very clear he was in the mood but I was not so we just sat there in complete silence. This is not the first time and we have done this before but the issue is he doesn't believe that I am because I am so quiet and also because I am super shy when it comes to anything sex-related. So how can I become more confident doing this and how do I make feel less awkward? Submitted May 10, 2020 at 12:06AM My bf is a very sexual person and last night we were on the phone and he said that he wanted us to masturbate together. Ii was very clear he was in the mood but I was not so we just sat there in complete silence.This is not the first time and we have done this before but the issue is he doesn't believe that I am because I am so quiet and also because I am super shy when it comes to anything sex-related. So how can I become more confident doing this and ho...

Can you even feel it? I’m about to try it out with bf :) Submitted May 10, 2020 at 12:08AM Can you even feel it? I’m about to try it out with bf :)

It's weird to describe but I'd call it light BDSM; I'm attracted to one-sided non-violent (F on F) fighting such as wrestling and boxing. By that, I don't mean actual professional boxing as I find it too violent. To be more specific, practices in which one woman dominates the other by pining or punching. That being said I'm not a violent person and I can't stand blood, injury, bruises and such occurrences during sex. Something about seeing an overwhelmed/exhausted woman turns me on. When it comes to IRL, my girlfriend and I sometimes wrestle before sex with one of us being either submissive or dominant. Another turn on is beating her abs and clitoris with boxing gloves (thicker training gloves with added foam so I don't hurt her). I need peoples opinions on this. Submitted May 10, 2020 at 12:22AM It's weird to describe but I'd call it light BDSM; I'm attracted to one-sided non-violent (F on F) fighting such as wrestling and boxing. By t...

Hey guys and girls. My GF wants some more clit simulation to get off so we recently got into vibrating cock rings (we like toys while being inserted mostly) and suction toys. The first ring was pretty crap and broke almost instantly so we've been shopping around but the market is insanely huge and the reviews are poor or seem set up. So any tips, advice and recommendation for rings, toys etc. Submitted May 10, 2020 at 12:23AM Hey guys and girls. My GF wants some more clit simulation to get off so we recently got into vibrating cock rings (we like toys while being inserted mostly) and suction toys. The first ring was pretty crap and broke almost instantly so we've been shopping around but the market is insanely huge and the reviews are poor or seem set up. So any tips, advice and recommendation for rings, toys etc.

I (20f) was video chatting with my bf (24m) earlier and he went to his window for a smoke and left the phone on his desk and I had a good view of his body and Ooof. He was wearing just a t shirt and bball shorts but he looked so fucking good and he always looks good and his body alone is such a turn on for me and I love it. I am helpless around him. He is thick and toned in all the right places and I miss having his body pressed against me so much. Often, once we’re finished having sex and he’s come in me (I keep careful track of my cycle as birth control because I prefer to go natural), I just ask him to lay on top of me and stay inside because the bliss of the moment mixed with the feeling of the weight of his body on mine is my fucking heaven. Being away from that for months at a time is torture, and I had no place else to share this frustration. Appreciate your partners if they are physically near you, y’all✌🏻 Submitted May 10, 2020 at 12:25AM I (20f) was video chatting w...

I've experienced wanting to be closer to a romantic interest if I happen to meet someone who seems really cool and and is good-looking. However, in the absence of anyone who catches your eye, why is having a partner important to you? Aside from short-lived affairs, is it about finding someone to marry, buy a house with, share finances with, have kids with, etc.? Is that what most people who are looking for more than a hookup (i.e. looking for an emotional connection) are looking for with a partner? I often get the sense people are seeking partners in order to flesh out this image of their ideal life, as opposed to wanting to get to know someone, enjoying their company, and doing enjoyable activities with them as they would with a friend (but with romantic and/or sexual chemistry involved). Submitted May 09, 2020 at 11:49PM I've experienced wanting to be closer to a romantic interest if I happen to meet someone who seems really cool and and is good-looking. However, in t...

I read a thread recently where a guy was interested in a younger woman, and everyone was like "well don't make her feel like you're just with her because you want a younger woman. she needs to know you're actually interested in her as an individual." Now I'm wondering if it works the other way too. If a younger woman tells an older man she has a thing for older men, is that flattering -- like, because it confirms they are attracted -- or would it make the guy feel objectified or unpleasant? I'm talking to a guy who is 12 years older. Sometimes he seems a little insecure about being older and I want him to know I am attracted to him. To be honest, him being older is definitely part of why, because I have always found older men more attractive. But I don't want to put my foot in my mouth and make him feel like I'm using him or have a fetish for his age or something. Submitted May 09, 2020 at 11:50PM I read a thread recently where a guy was i...

So started out the conversation on the app and some of the messages weren't being sent. Asked her for her number and she said I have to be more creative to ask a girl for her number. I told her I would like to get to know her better in person and offered to meet at a restaurant or coffee shop (one of the things we had common on our profile). She replied with "sounds like a bribe". I have not ever gotten these responses from a girl before so I am trying to learn from it. Any advice? I am not the greatest at being creative when asking a girl for her number on a dating app. I also was not trying to bribe her. I think she was joking around with the bribe comment, however I wasn't really sure how to reply to it. Maybe I am thinking about this too much and I should just move on.......posting here to see if there is anything I can take away from this situation. Submitted May 09, 2020 at 11:51PM So started out the conversation on the app and some of the messages weren...

Ah, I am so happy. I’m definitely still ace, that’s 100%, but I’m just glad to experience romantic attraction. I’ve always wanted to experience it. May 10, 2020 at 12:04AM

Hey! It's okay to be happy! Romantic and sexual orientation are fluid, and can change in time. So if it makes you happy you don't have to label what you are feeling and just because you previously identified as aro ace you don't have to deny your feelings either. Just see where it goes from here and be open to new experiences! Good luck! May 10, 2020 at 12:02AM

Yes, but it depends on the person. This one guy I was talking to, has sex on a "regular basis" and I told him that I don't want to have sex and he seemed to understand and he didn't want to rush me into anything. But if I had gotten into a relationship with him I think I would be worried that he would cheat on me and I would also feel guilty for holding him back. I think I would feel comfortable with someone who really doesn't care for sex that much and maybe has a low sex drive. May 09, 2020 at 11:59PM

Now that is the cake of comedy May 09, 2020 at 11:58PM

Honestly from what I’ve read it was the 8th but I only saw stuff for it today so idfk It’s 1am on the 10th for me now though so either way I’ve long missed it lmao May 09, 2020 at 11:54PM

Thanks May 09, 2020 at 11:48PM

alright! Thank you May 09, 2020 at 11:28PM

Well, you can never know for sure. Tbh though if I randomly started feeling sexual attraction next week I wouldn’t consider myself a late bloomer, I would consider myself asexual until age 23. If you feel like you’re ace now, there’s nothing wrong with using the label. May 09, 2020 at 11:26PM

It looks like the day and week were started by different groups for slightly different purposes ( https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/3v3yc0/why_is_there_an_ace_week_and_an_ace_day/ ). But hey, more reason and days to celebrate! : ) May 09, 2020 at 11:26PM

No for multiple reasons. First it‘s not fair to the person that‘s not asexual to expect being like this and second in the longterm the chances that this will result in a breakup are too high for me personally, so I would never want to be in that position. My last relationship was with a girl who apparently also was asexual too (she never really stated it 100% but was okay with me being ace and also didn’t want to have sex at all and also never had) and it ended because in the end it still didn‘t work because one of the reasons was that she wasn’t sure and yeah, so I wouldn’t want to get into a relationship with a non-asexual person ever, because I‘m also not someone who could have sex with someone to please them, like others could maybe. So that‘s something different that might work, but I‘m definitely no expert in sexual relationships lol. May 09, 2020 at 11:20PM

ahaa, okay, thanks! May 09, 2020 at 11:17PM

Even if you are a late bloomer, nothing wrong with calling yourself asexual for the time being. Sexuality is sort of fluid and can change over time. May 09, 2020 at 11:16PM

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Idk I think if they were like low sex drive already or not massively sex driven then I wouldn't feel too guilty. I don't want to deprive my partner of their needs you know? I've only ever dated allos and always forced myself to have sex for their benefit which was stupid of me because I'm now mega repulsed. Probs on a tangent a bit but I wanna whine: my last bf was lovely and we had such a wonderful relationship, after a year I finally realised I just couldn't take it any more and told him I hated sex (he didn't know I was ace because I'd been trying to make myself allo for like 5 years rip). We had such a caring, compassionate relationship so I explained it all expecting him to understand, which he kind of did. However, he told me I must have a hormone deficiency and said "a sexless relationship isn't what I signed up for". After a year of forcing myself to have sex for his benefit he wouldn't even give me time to work through the many ...

Hey I’m definitely asexual and I think I’m lesbian but I’m not sure help May 09, 2020 at 11:14PM