I’m 25, turning 26 this year, and my mind is all over the place trying to figure out if there’s something wrong with me, just bad-luck, or I’m just not meeting the right women in-person. To my knowledge, no woman has been attracted to me IRL nor reciprocated any or shown interest at all to the point of getting a date, hook-up, or being in a relationship; is that normal or am I an outlier? This is heavily affecting my self esteem at this point from having no success with women in the romance department, otherwise I’m pretty happy with my life so far in every other aspect. Submitted January 15, 2022 at 12:10AM I’m 25, turning 26 this year, and my mind is all over the place trying to figure out if there’s something wrong with me, just bad-luck, or I’m just not meeting the right women in-person. To my knowledge, no woman has been attracted to me IRL nor reciprocated any or shown interest at all to the point of getting a date, hook-up, or being in a relationship; is that normal or am

It’s easy to cross boundaries when they aren’t defined. So set them and hold yourself accountable to them. At the same time, when you learn of someone else’s boundaries, you should not try to see how far over the line you can go. That kind of behavior only shows that you can’t be trusted and you’re putting yourself first. All of this is especially true with sex. Some people may get silent when their boundaries are crossed. Silence does not equal consent! So be responsible — aka, able to respond — and stay on the right side of those boundaries. Respect your and others’ boundaries. If you feel the boundaries are too restrictive… talk to them! Disrespecting boundaries is not the answer. Submitted January 15, 2022 at 12:10AM It’s easy to cross boundaries when they aren’t defined. So set them and hold yourself accountable to them.At the same time, when you learn of someone else’s boundaries, you should not try to see how far over the line you can go. That kind of behavior only

I'm aroace, so I have absolutely no desire for anything at the moment, though there's a part of me thinking I might want a qpr at some point and leaving myself open to it. I value my time alone at home maybe a bit too much. I almost always have some project I'm working on or some idea I'm thinking through with the help of my big ass whiteboard. Plus, my cat is more than a handful as she is now (she's probably 8-9 months old and utterly insane). I pretty much get every bit of socializing and time around people I could ever want (and then some) at work most days January 14, 2022 at 11:40PM

Thank you so much. It's like I was living in a dream and woke up with someone screaming in my ear. January 14, 2022 at 11:37PM

Wtf, you are allowed to think about fucking , it's natural desire January 14, 2022 at 11:37PM

I'm struggling between the two options too. Sometimes I think he was just trying to be nice, sometimes I think he was just waiting for my "cure" and sometimes I think he did his best for as long as he could. I think I'll never know the real answer. January 14, 2022 at 11:35PM

Thank you for your words, there is a lot of truth here. I'm going to frame this comment and put it on my wall LOL January 14, 2022 at 11:32PM

This is great to hear! Thank you :) January 14, 2022 at 11:32PM