I’d say that if you feel uncomfortable answering the question from a personal standpoint, the best thing to do is don’t do it! You can always tell your friend that in general, ace people have different experiences and that some do it and some do not; furthermore, those that do may have different reasons for doing so, and the same goes for those who don’t. Everyone has their own preferences. You aren’t obliged to tell him something like that if you don’t feel like it. May 01, 2020 at 12:18AM

C'est exactement ce que je me disais x) May 01, 2020 at 12:17AM

Same. I work very hard to be the kind of person who tries to accept that anyone can change and adapt but... Honestly I think anyone who preys on a being who cannot consent is vile and unworthy of life. (blocked out because it's rather harsh and could be triggering) (Zoophilia CW) One of my friends who is a furry ended up dating this guy who was a zoophile. I didn't know until we were in discord one day and he told me that if she ever broke up with him he'd "get a dog". And holy hell do I regret responding with "well, dogs are awesome". Because he did NOT mean he wanted a pet. I don't think she knew but I went complete no contact until she broke things off with him. The worst thing about it was the way he said it... like... he took pleasure in disturbing me. You couldn't honestly tell me that he felt hurt about being misunderstood, because he clearly enjoyed it. May 01, 2020 at 12:16AM

You can be asexual and be comfortable with everything mentioned here. Hell, you can be asexual and actually enjoy having sex. If you're not sexually attracted to people, you're asexual. It's as simple as that, and it sounds like you're probably asexual :). May 01, 2020 at 12:16AM

Croissant here ;) They talk about how little asexuality is know in France ! And how few people talk about it May 01, 2020 at 12:16AM

I can’t speak for you or really help specify where you’d fall, but you kind of sound like you’re somewhere on the ace spectrum. Not everyone’s experiences are the same, so it’s hard to peg down what you might be. (Maybe look into what it means to be cupiosexual? From my understanding, that means that you’d like sex in theory but not in practice? Sorry I couldn’t be of more help; good luck.) May 01, 2020 at 12:14AM

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I've made my post, if you'd be so kind as to read it. It took a while to write and wasn't planned out, I kinda just put my thoughts onto a page. Thank you! :) https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/gb7hi2/questioning_my_life_and_asexuality/ May 01, 2020 at 12:03AM

Humans have evolved to the point that it's no longer a necessary thing to have sex. It's a choice. And it's becoming less expected to HAVE to have sex for marriage and social points. People need to get with the times. We no longer need to have offspring to keep the species going, and we no longer need to be able to even feel it. It's the 21st century. Perhaps not everything can be explained, nor needs to be explained. Asexuality is one of those things. May 01, 2020 at 12:01AM

You say so? Maybe, ahah. I really think he would've not understood the term, tbh, but I'm not sure. In some time I'll try to use it and explain it, we'll see, ahah. Btw, it's the greatest reaction I had so far! Ahah May 01, 2020 at 12:00AM

if some people arent attracted to certain genders and some people arent attracted to others why the hell isn't it in the realm of possibility for someone to just not be attracted to any?? April 30, 2020 at 11:59PM

I realized a week after I had all my coworkers over for thanksgiving that I have a giant ace pride flag on my wall lol. Guess they know now XD April 30, 2020 at 11:57PM

Me basically, gaming is life April 30, 2020 at 11:54PM

Thank you for explaining! April 30, 2020 at 11:50PM

Something I have always been confused about: I know asexuals are considered a part of the LGBTQ community, but how do you officially become apart of it? Like, if you are gay, lesbian, asexual, transgender, etc., does that automatically make you apart of the community? Or do you have to like sign up or show activism to be apart of it? Sorry if it’s a silly question, but it’s something I have been confused about ever since learning about the LGBTQ community when I was younger. April 30, 2020 at 11:49PM

Oh. I thought the + was for other sexualities/genders in the community. April 30, 2020 at 11:49PM

Unfortunately, as depressing a thought as that is, I think you're right. I do agree with what someone else here said about allos being bothered by not being able to understand something. I'm disabled and the first thing a lot of my customers at work try to do when they see my cane is understand WHY I need it. It's not affecting them in any way, but even the ones who are polite enough not to ask usually just stare at it for a while before deciding not to verbalize their confusion. The ones who do ask mostly seem to take in how tragic it is that I'm young and disabled, it doesn't matter how much I tell them I've had a really awesome, bad ass (I mean, how many people can say they've driven a MRAP through a mostly inactive minefield with only nightvision to guide them?) life so far. Either that or they decide I'm not as bad off as whatever they're dealing with so all is right with their understanding of the world again. My gf is mtf and she runs a tra

Personally from your post I think you are probably asexual and panromantic. Remember, asexuality is a spectrum, some asexuals are even willing to have sex and many like the idea of cuddling. You still have all he time in the world to figure it out, good luck 🍀 April 30, 2020 at 11:46PM

There was a time where I'd agree, but those days left shortly after starting my degree. April 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

If it's that type of dancing - absolutely not. I don't want anyone touching me or simulating coming in contact with me. April 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

I like dancing, though I'm not especially good or creative at it. I've never gone to any clubs/parties/etc where grinding-type dancing is happening, and I feel like it would be pretty uncomfortable for me, but if I'm just vibing with some friends or something, it sounds like a good time. April 30, 2020 at 11:40PM

I’ve (23F) been talking to this guy (24M) since October of last year. We’ve been kind of stagnant all this time because of his previous relationship/living situation. Basically, when we started dating he revealed that he was living with his ex (26F) but she meant nothing to him and it’s just a living arrangement. Later down the road it started to become more evident that this was not the case. He wanted to break up with her because he said she’s too “aggressive” and he wasn’t happy but she didn’t want the relationship to end. She started stalking my social media and somehow I became involved in this love triangle where I’m having to fight for his time and affection because somehow his ex is making me seem like the bad person and making him feel guilty for talking to me. So he’s always hot and cold with me because he feels bad for “hurting someone he cared about”, which I can understand so I try to be patient and just do my own thing. Now I know this may sound like a dumb situation o

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My (29F) sexuality was also formed on non-consensual fantasies. I don’t think it has anything to do with my a-spec sexuality now. I heard somewhere that BDSM is the most common fantasy for asexuals. It doesn’t sound at all like the erotica you were reading “scared” you... it sounds like you enjoyed it and it aroused you, which is normal and okay. I think most people are exposed to this type of fantasy as well, so it’s unrealistic for you mom to think she could have prevented this. Many people who were exposed to this stuff early are also allosexual when they grow up. In fact, non consent is a fairly common fantasy for straight women. It doesn’t mean they’d want this in reality. In our fantasies, we’re in total control, so it’s very different and there is no real danger. I don’t think it’s anything for either of you to worry about. I’m sorry she’s making you feel like your feelings aren’t valid. Maybe if she read more about asexuality it would help her understand. It is curious why sev

You can make a less sweet frosting, which I prefer when making my own cake. April 29, 2020 at 11:56PM

read the rules. unless you're an asshole (or a troll), you're welcome here ;) April 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

Yeah, this is true, they are the reason Destiny 2 kind of went so bad and only got better after parting with them. They are one of those companies that has a micromanaging problem and are out to profit. Just because they throw an ace or gay or bi pride flag, or change their icon to a rainbow during pride month tend to mean they just want to do the bare minimum effort to seem "woke" and "accepting" because it gets them money. EA may microtransaction and nickel and dime their player base paid, even putting unskippable ads in games people payed $60 for, but Activision is the kind of company that pretends to care, but internally don't give a crap sadly. April 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

Look up aegosexuality 😁 April 29, 2020 at 11:44PM

give me some of that hot, steamy garlic bread action baby April 29, 2020 at 11:43PM

funny. if you're ever interested in "knowing what a proper orgasm feels like" ... don't go search for it from someone that told you he can give you one. ... 99% chance he'll only care about himself. also, "oh I'd rape you but I'm not a rapist" .... WTF. April 29, 2020 at 11:38PM

... uneducated is okay. a f*cking creep is not okay. April 29, 2020 at 11:36PM

kind reminder that not everyone is nice or even trying to be. also kind reminder that (some) people tend to get defensive when you tell them they've done something wrong. ... people are complicated. April 29, 2020 at 11:36PM

I don't understand the whole trans thing, but I still respect them. ... being a creep is being disrespectful, and that's the one thing I won't tolerate. Yes I'm a self-proclaimed assholephobic. also, "thats not real" is one thing. "I want to fuck you to make you change your mind" ... dude that's literally corrective rape. April 29, 2020 at 11:33PM

as a sex-positive ace, I do, and enjoy it. some people do it only to "tame" their libido ...some other people simply don't. ... each person is unique ;) April 29, 2020 at 11:30PM

... as I always say, if people can't accept you for who you are, you shouldn't waste your time on them. you're better off without your ex (and I'm sure you know it) April 29, 2020 at 11:25PM

Pattern recognition tells me that I'm glad that I can't see how that comment ends. April 29, 2020 at 11:25PM

So basically my bestfriend(single and more sexually open than most people) has a friend group she occasionally hangs out with. We are all somewhat young(19-24) and singleish(in my case ENM). It's usually playing board games, getting drunk, and they often get intimate with each other. I'm basically invited if I want to join, but I haven't made up my mind yet. My boyfriend is also welcome to join but he's been sober for a while and doesn't want to be around alcohol. Honestly it sounds hot and fun to me. My boyfriend said he doesn't mind too much(besides being against drinking but I enjoy a few beers from time to time already). He's against forming close emotional bonds, but there doesn't seem to be a crush/love situation with anyone in the group. Probably because guys don't get possessive over someone if they see them playing with others as well. I've had fwbs that I had to end because they were catching feelings so this sounds nice. I haven

So, I've always been extremely shy about my body, but finally getting a good boyfriend seems to be changing that for me. In high school I was always the girl who changed facing the corner after gym class. I've usually been filled with dread before doctor appointments, and I didn't even like my cat seeing me naked. I'm not obese, and I don't have anything weird going on. I just felt like every tiny detail could be up for appraisal. A few months ago I started getting sexual with a guy, and the way he's been treating me has absolutely blown my mind! He asks me for feedback, like do you like that, does that feel good, or even what would you like me to do to you? And of course the sex is wonderful with all the communication going on! In retrospect, this seems pretty basic, but the other two guys I've had sex with didn't do that. I've put up with bad cunnilingus that I wasn't really into, and that's even after giving a few hints that were prompt

So I got advice off another reddit to make orgasms a lot better and such n it was prostate play. Ive only done anal once and it wasnt enjoyable at all with a past male fwb. Ive wanted to expirement more with it by myself with my fingers or simply toys but I dont know where to start.....Like do I just dive in, lube up and stick a finger up there? Even if I go in with fingers ive always been a girl that has extremely long natural nails. Not like scary long just long nails and I dont want to clip them if I dont have to. I dont have any toys except a small clit vibrator n its not long or big at all and its like funnily shaped so im not sure if i wanna stick such a funny shaped object up there so soon. Should I expect anything? What should I do? Steps? tips? Anything id like to hear.. Submitted April 29, 2020 at 11:52PM So I got advice off another reddit to make orgasms a lot better and such n it was prostate play. Ive only done anal once and it wasnt enjoyable at all with a past mal

I guess I came here to see yalls opinion and see if my situation is normal??. My current partner does not want to go down on me. I can only have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation and he's not good with his hands. We have been working on this for a while, trying to improve etc etc. But in 4 years I've had maybe like 3 orgasms with him. He says I taste terrible. But other men and women have said I taste fine. I'm just embarrassed any time he wants to have sex because I have to fake it, and dont get anything out of it. Also, We have a one year old so now it happens even less often. Is there anything i can do to improve taste? Or something to make him more comfortable? other than pineapple juice which i can't drinkb. (Btw ya girl already takes probiotics and drinks hella water). What can I do 😭 I dont want to force him to do something he doesn't like but I also like orgasms too lol. Submitted April 29, 2020 at 11:56PM I guess I came here to see yalls opinion a

It’s always been such a turn off to me and I’ve never had any desire to have anything done to my butt. The whole thing is just really gross to me and not sexual (no offense to anyone). I had experimented a little bit with it in my previous relationship but it was painful and rather forced on me and I didn’t enjoy it. My new boyfriend and I both agreed that it was off limits and he didn’t have any interest in it either. However one thing led to another (all consensual, mostly me entertaining it) and somehow we ended up experimenting a little bit with it and surprisingly I enjoyed it a lot, way too much. It’s just a finger and he’s extremely gentle and not forceful or pushy at all. In combination with other things it makes me cum extremely quick and sadly feels better than any other method of orgasming I’ve felt. I say sadly because I just wish it wasn’t true almost. I mean it feels amazing but why does it have to be my butt? I hate the thought of butt stuff and I hate that I actually e

(M) 20y/o I love getting head but I dislike having to eat p.... I’ll say I’m good at it but I still get seriously uninterested having to return the favor Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:01AM (M) 20y/o I love getting head but I dislike having to eat p.... I’ll say I’m good at it but I still get seriously uninterested having to return the favor

I (25f) have been dating my partner (25m) for about 8 months. We have great sex and share similar kinks and fantasies, but I was never able to make him finish from oral like I have with other men until today! We were both left with shaky knees and giant smiles on our face and even managed to get it on camera. It was so good and I have some serious after glow right now, just wanted to share. Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:05AM I (25f) have been dating my partner (25m) for about 8 months. We have great sex and share similar kinks and fantasies, but I was never able to make him finish from oral like I have with other men until today! We were both left with shaky knees and giant smiles on our face and even managed to get it on camera. It was so good and I have some serious after glow right now, just wanted to share.

First of all I love my boyfriend dearly but lately I haven’t feel the slightest bit push to have sex with him. I used to have a very high libido ( everyday a couple of times sex). Sex used to he fun and daily but lately I just don’t feel it anymore. He (M 30) has been nothing but supportive and patience towards my lack of libido lately. Especially with the current situation, we stay at home almost all the time. Any suggestion on how to reignite our sex life again? Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:13AM First of all I love my boyfriend dearly but lately I haven’t feel the slightest bit push to have sex with him. I used to have a very high libido ( everyday a couple of times sex). Sex used to he fun and daily but lately I just don’t feel it anymore. He (M 30) has been nothing but supportive and patience towards my lack of libido lately. Especially with the current situation, we stay at home almost all the time. Any suggestion on how to reignite our sex life again?

So, I'm in a LDR and we've just entered the phone sex stage. My girl even got a toy that works through an app so I can be the one in control. And I found out I'm baaaad at this. I don't know how to work her up verbally. IRL I mostly just shut up and do things. When we tried for the first time I just ended up making her laugh because I talked too much. Help? Submitted April 30, 2020 at 12:14AM So, I'm in a LDR and we've just entered the phone sex stage. My girl even got a toy that works through an app so I can be the one in control.And I found out I'm baaaad at this. I don't know how to work her up verbally. IRL I mostly just shut up and do things.When we tried for the first time I just ended up making her laugh because I talked too much.Help?

Wikipedia is not going to be the best source for this. While I typically hate to use the argument "anyone can edit wikipedia" it's true. An edit like that is going to fly under the radar because people believe it. Some heteroromantic asexuals (such as yourself, apparently) identify as straight but many don't. Those who don't typically have been harmed, in some form or fashion, by a heteronormative society. Nobody wants to be hurt for being different, but those of us who are seek a community. Heteroromantic asexuals are as queer as anyone else in our community and can wear their labels however they please. And you can take that to the bank from this aromantic asexual trans man who once identified as a heteroromantic asexual woman but still wasn't straight. April 29, 2020 at 12:23AM

Everyone is different. I had a partner once, and I really liked sex, and initiated it often, but when that relationship ended, that was actually when I began to realise that I was asexual, that is I don't have sexual attraction. I happen to enjoy sex, but I don't feel any urge to go out and get some. I haven't had it in 5 years and I'm fine with that. I think, based on seeing some of the conversations on this sub, that I'm a fairly unusual type of asexual, and your husband is a more common type, more sex neutral. April 29, 2020 at 12:20AM

I knew I was different when I was about 13-14, but didn’t find the term asexual till I was about 24 April 29, 2020 at 12:14AM

Well I haven't been in a relationship and I don't know many (any) asexuals so I'm just speaking from my personal experience but I feel like all people even asexuals still "desire" sex, its more we still get sexually aroused, but not really for anyone or anything. Will he ever initiate it though, I feel is a person to person thing. I personally would never just because, the thought of intimacy with someone is very awkward to me and it makes me uncomfortable. Pretty much all physical contact makes me uncomfortable. I think about having sex, and it feels like a crazy fantasy, something I'd love to do but I feel like I never will (sounds stupid I know) because my own personal issues with physical contact and just not seeing people in a serial way. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable initiating it even if he wants to have sex with you. April 29, 2020 at 12:13AM

I agree with the other comments April 29, 2020 at 12:13AM

Ok incel :) April 29, 2020 at 12:12AM

What? April 29, 2020 at 12:11AM

Everyone is different, you’re going to have to ask him. Maybe ask him what his perfect idea is when it comes to sex and intimacy. Also, Some people are not go-getters when it comes to sex, he might have, and always have trouble initiating but it doesn’t mean he never wants sex. Maybe y’all to him about ways he could signal to you that he is horny without being in that initiating role? It depends on you 2 but it could just be him saying “I’m horny, do you wanna have sex?” In a bland and non-sexy way, but it might be what he needs to get the ball rolling... just an idea but it really comes down to what he wants, expects, and feels comfortable with. April 29, 2020 at 12:10AM

Biromantic asexual. I identified as demisexual for several years because I was deep in the quagmire of denial, but now I know my truth. Woot. April 29, 2020 at 12:08AM

Well, I haven't seen this one before and I like it. April 29, 2020 at 12:06AM

Fantasizing about something is very different than wanting to have that experience in reality. On the other hand, you could even have sex regularly and still be ace. Ultimately you know best what your feelings and experiences are, so a label isn't necessary. Remember that asexuality is a spectrum and if you occasionally experience sexual attraction you could be still ace (e.g grey ace or demisexual ace). If you feel like you need to label yourself, I think you might be a sex positive ace. You don't seem repulsed by sex but curious and willing to explore the possibilities, so I'd go with that if I were you. All in all I'd tell you to explore your sexuality or lack thereof as analytically as possible. Just imagining different scenarios or paying attention to what you feel when seeing a person you consider good looking ought to do the trick, if you don't want to get into potentially awkward situations. Don't be afraid to dig deep! Sexuality is messy and complicate

Ooo, gotcha (well, kind of. I've never smoked weed). And a stretched comparison is fine; I'll never really know what it's like, so I can't tell you your comparison is wrong anyway. Thanks!!! April 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

I don't really think the meme implied Asexuals hated love. The love-hating allo would want to be around Ace people (implied aro/ace people) probably because they're less prone to mentioning anything romantic that the love-hating allo hates. The fact that it involves a love-hating allo kind of demands the understanding of your conclusion. April 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

We realize people grow and change here. If Ace feels like the right label right now then use it. If down the line that changes then embrace a new label. It doesn't matter if that change is finding that special someone and becoming Demi, your transition changing how you feel about sex, or your sex repulsion fading. Growth is good, we want you to feel comfortable with your labels. If you use it for 6 months or the next 60 years you're welcome to use it. April 28, 2020 at 11:33PM

Aaron is just great, I loved the show and I also love his acting. He is amazing 😍 April 28, 2020 at 11:32PM

I started noticing signs around like 12, confirmed ace at 14. It’s been like this for years and since figuring out, I haven’t much doubted whether I’m ace. April 28, 2020 at 11:31PM

But also a friendly reminder that ace people can have a sex drive - just lack of sexual attraction April 28, 2020 at 11:25PM

If so, how does it feel? How do you overcome the post-orgasm disappearance of desire to do it? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:22PM If so, how does it feel? How do you overcome the post-orgasm disappearance of desire to do it?

This is an odd situation, but here goes. My partner is very well-known by many people. We both have kinks that line up perfectly, and we've talked about them, but she absolutely refuses to actually explore anything beyond the most vanilla sex. It's not that she doesn't want to, it's that she's paranoid about even her most basic sexual preferences leaking- and when I say it like that, it sounds like she's into fringe niche shit, but no. When we started dating, it took about 4-5 months after we started having sex for her to blow me, which is really saying something because I've since learned that it's one of her favorite things to do. Turns out that the prior hesitance was because she was worried I'd be recording somehow while she was busy down below. I understand her fears. I don't want to seem insensitive here. There was an incident a while ago that probably kicked off this paranoia; I don't even know if calling it 'paranoia' is fai

I don't really know much about bondage, but is there anything that I am able to do by myself? I have an anal vibrator but i'm not sure if there is a way to give myself more pleasure than just masturbating with it in my ass. If anyone can give me any tips that would be amazing :) Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:38PM I don't really know much about bondage, but is there anything that I am able to do by myself?I have an anal vibrator but i'm not sure if there is a way to give myself more pleasure than just masturbating with it in my ass.If anyone can give me any tips that would be amazing :)

Do women with children find it sexy if their partner talks about sex in code in front of the kids? Like "oh honey I think we need to feed the bunny later." Is it a turn on to bring up future sex in front of the kids in a cryptic way? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:49PM Do women with children find it sexy if their partner talks about sex in code in front of the kids? Like "oh honey I think we need to feed the bunny later." Is it a turn on to bring up future sex in front of the kids in a cryptic way?

Hey, guys, I need some advice and don't know who to talk to as it is a bit awkward/personal. I would like answers from both female and males. Just a quick summary about me (don't know if it is relevant) I am a male (M25) and dating for 1 YEAR AND a HALF with my Girlfriend (F26) and we are in love. So here are the questions; When you are in a long relationship and the girl is on the pill do most guys wear a condom or not? (I know its a choice of the couple, but talking from a general way) How much or is there such thing as too much sex? (me and my GF have mainly 3 times a day sometimes more sometimes less and we do it because we feel like and not because we have to or anything). I heard that when a man ejaculates and the sperm come in contact with oxygen it dies and cant swims, is this true? ( I saw this porn a lot and always question it. So the guy cums on the girl the belly or boobs and then proceeded to continue to have sex. Does this mean that the sperm is useless alre

Every time I’m new in a relationship, I’m always really nervous that I can come on too strong, or that I’m too sexual (F18). I always communicate with my partners about them telling me if they’re comfortable or not, but no matter what, after doing something whether that be just making out or trying something new, I feel like I disrespected them or made them uncomfortable (even if when told me that I didn’t). I don’t know, do you guys think I’m just not ready to get sexual with anyone? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:49PM Every time I’m new in a relationship, I’m always really nervous that I can come on too strong, or that I’m too sexual (F18). I always communicate with my partners about them telling me if they’re comfortable or not, but no matter what, after doing something whether that be just making out or trying something new, I feel like I disrespected them or made them uncomfortable (even if when told me that I didn’t). I don’t know, do you guys think I’m just not ready to g

Hi all :) I'll preface with this: I'm extremely prone to overthinking every facet of a situation, and the one I'm going to detail below is no different... I'm a single 24F who has been on dating apps (mostly Hinge, as I've met a handful of guys from there, but have a Bumble profile as well) for the past 18 or so months. I seem to go through the terrible yet common dance of going on a few (anywhere from 1 to 5) dates with a guy, either we do or don't get along, and then...that's it. Of the three guys I've seen for extended periods of time over the last 18 months (all at different times, no overlapping), two out of three of them said they weren't looking for a relationship, etc. etc.; one of which, J, (24M) ended things at the start of this month after 3 dates pre-quarantine. Naturally, I am looking for a monogamous relationship in my dating endeavors. Rewind back to December, and I matched with a guy, who I'll call B, on Hinge (28M). We texted

I’m (f 20) in a relationship with (m 24) and we’ve been together for a year and 2 months now but the things he did still lingers in my mind. He was seeing other people at the start of our relationship and said he only kept me around for convenience because he didn’t know if we would last. He is trying to change now though but I don’t know if I should trust him again because when he was seeing other girls behind my back he was acting really sweet and caring. He knows I have major trust issues with him so he gave me his account password to ease my mind but I have never opened his account until I attempted last night because he has been acting dry and replies late but when I did open his account it sent him a verification text and he got mad at me for invading his privacy. I’m confused. Was I wrong or what? Honestly don’t know what to do since this is my first relationship. Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:37PM I’m (f 20) in a relationship with (m 24) and we’ve been together for a y

I (26f) have been speaking to someone for a couple months now. We have had video chat dates, but they are lacking the obvious physical presence. There are times where I wish to just give/receive a hug etc or to move our relationship to the next level, but... corona. I live with my mother and both of us never leave the house unless for food shopping every two-ish weeks. He on the other hand is an essential worker. He wears ppe in his shifts and also never leaves the house outside of work unless it's for food shopping every couple weeks. I don't want to lose the closest thing I have had to a relationship in years since being violated. Corona probably won't go away for months. The way i see it is when will it ever be truly "safe"? My friend recommended having a nature walk keeping 6 ft away, but that is no different than video chat for me. I want to be able to hold hands, hug, and maybe even invite him over. I plan to talk with my mother to see how she feels abou

Why is it that as much as he shows me he doesn’t care the way i do no matter what i still go back to him? I Don’t Know If it’s The sex or the sexual attraction i have towards him but when i’m with him i enjoy it a lot. i love being with him, the physical affection i get from him how he acts when he’s with me. He acts so loving with me when he kisses me and caresses me it feels nice to have that once in a while You Know? he’s like that when we’re together but after he leaves it’s like none of that didn’t just happen. We’ve gone our times where we stop talking to each other for a month the most then we suddenly text each other and he comes over as if nothing? he tried texting my BEST FRIEND and i hated him so much for that time because i felt so disrespected and then after not talking to him for a while i felt as if the anger i felt was going away and i didn’t even care that he did that? Which is so wrong I don’t know if it’s because I lost my virginity to him and all the memories attac

So there’s this guy I really really like. The main problem is that we don’t really run in the same circles anymore. Like I’ve had this bad of a crush on maybe one other person in my life. But I’m not sure when if I’ll ever see him again. The last girl he dated looked like a super model but every time me and him talk we have really engaging conversation. And he seems interested in me as a person and seems to genuinely enjoy talking with me in person. Sometimes he’ll comment on my stuff on Instagram but it’s pretty platonic. I’m planning on moving back to my hometown once I graduate this Semester which is where he lives. Like how would I ask him out or get him to ask me out either online or in person? I honestly feel like I can’t move on until I know whether or not there is something there. I’ve been crushing on this guy for a long time. Btw I’m 25 he’s like 27. I’m black he’s white. Idk if that matters but I don’t live in the most progressive state haha. Any please help. I need advice

Has anyone here experienced getting really close to someone online, falling for them, and then it falls apart..and you still see them posting adult images and whatnot, which brings pain? Am I nuts to be hurt so much? How do I proceed, by deleting my Reddit? I do enjoy being on it for news and whatnot. Thank you for your input. Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:50PM Has anyone here experienced getting really close to someone online, falling for them, and then it falls apart..and you still see them posting adult images and whatnot, which brings pain? Am I nuts to be hurt so much? How do I proceed, by deleting my Reddit? I do enjoy being on it for news and whatnot. Thank you for your input.

Before you attack me I don't agree with the title, I'm arguing against it. So one of my buddies and I have been debating for about 45 minutes now. The argument started with whether or not money in and of itself brings happiness and turned into how relevant a man's assets and finances are in a relationship. I'll elaborate on the two points below: My friend's argument is that women only care about what a man can bring to the table. If the man isn't making (a lot) of money, women don't want him. The key point here is a lot . The man needs to be making a higher than average income (must be higher than hers) and live a higher-end lifestyle in order to appease women. If this isn't the case, women will consider other men. How a man treats a woman isn't as important as what he can do to provide for her based on his income and assets. She should be able to depend on him to take care of her, entirely. My argument is that money is important, but typically i

I'd say I'm kind of model status. I have a chiseled jaw line, big green eyes, I'm super ripped, 6'1, pug nose l, nice lips, and I'm a successful person. My problem is none of the girls on tinder reply. Sometimes I'll put effort into being funny, make them laugh. It's easy to get a snap chat even though I don't do it often because I'm tired of having random people on my snap. Usually they don't reply because I don't always have time to reply right away*sometimes take 2 hours to a couple weeks, but I feel like they aren't appreciating me when I put all the effort in. Even as a good looking person, it doesn't matter. I've tried the hey, and no reply obviously. Are they busy or what? Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:59PM I'd say I'm kind of model status. I have a chiseled jaw line, big green eyes, I'm super ripped, 6'1, pug nose l, nice lips, and I'm a successful person. My problem is none of the girls on tind

Met this girl on tinder about 4 months ago. It was LD for the first, maybe 2 months. Finally met in person and things went very very well. Met a few more times until this quarantine stopped things. We've texted everyday and probably for a week or so now, we’ve been FaceTiming every night. She talks about missing me, being grateful for me, how she can’t wait to see me and a bunch of other sappy bull until falling asleep still on the phone. Times like these me think things were getting real close to ‘relationship’ status. I’m just confused because I can also tell she’s still on tinder & is even following these guys on Instagram. I understand we are not yet in a relationship and she’s got every right to keep her options open. It all just makes me feel like I’m giving her too much time, but I just tell myself to be the bigger man, keep trying, keep things going. I think I’m just a little upset and jealous that she’s still “browsing” given how great things have been between us. An

Okay so I have been talking to this girl for about four months now. We both know that we like each other, but she cannot date for essentially a whole year. The talking stage is so confusing and irritating! She never initiates conversations anymore, she answers so dry and I'm so confused because I had a video chat with her to get exactly what was going on. So we talked and I hit her with a few questions. She told me she still liked me and the dry texts were just because it's a "mood". And she never texts first because she doesn't like to start conversations. But she seems so disconnected whenever we have most of our conversations BUT she flirts back most of the time with me when I initiate it. To me a relationship has always been a two way street and she treats it as if I have to do all the work: carry conversations, initiate, whatever. To put it into perspective, I'm 18 and she is 15. (I KNOW BIG AGE DIFFERENCE, PEOPLE WHO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT... PLEASE LEA

So like 2 years ago i used to have a long distance relationship with a girl that i was really into, i was truly in love with her, but it wasn't easy for her this kind of relationship so she decided to end with it, and like 1 month later she cameback with her ex... time passed and 2 years later she and her family move to the town where i live and we start talking again, everything was awesome again and we talk like all the time and everyday but we didnt see each other because of this covid situation, at one point she told me that she wanted to try again but this time slowly because she want to do it right and that she need it to be ok with herself so we can have a really healthy and long relationship, that was her words and i say that i really like the idea. After that talk we continue talking all the time in a more loving or affectionate way, this was really awesome to me because i never stop liking here i think that we complement each other very well, anyway, from last week she

I’ve [20F] been talking to this guy on tinder [22M] and our conversation seemed to be going well and he said I was his type. I asked him if his type is short brunettes and he said yes, he also said his type is “white girls”. This made me feel a bit iffy because I understand people have preferences, I just didn’t think it was necessary to say? I asked him to clarify and he said it’s not that he finds non-white girls unattractive, he’s just more attracted to white girls. I just felt a bit weird and I’m wondering if I’m overreacting. I have to be careful as last time I spoke to a guy on tinder (for MONTHS) he seemed really really nice and then he said something suddenly which made me suddenly realise he was a huge tool. I just have to be careful with red flags and stuff. Thoughts? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 12:14AM I’ve [20F] been talking to this guy on tinder [22M] and our conversation seemed to be going well and he said I was his type. I asked him if his type is short brunett

So it’s been nearly a year since me and my gf split. We tried the friends with benefits thing and I was too attached, told her I wanted to be serious again and she wasn’t having it so I left. That was about 3 months ago. I’ve been enjoying having my own time but love companionship. Now I’m wondering if I should get back into the dating space. Apps and all that. What are your guys opinions on dating apps vs. meeting someone organically at the bar? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 12:17AM So it’s been nearly a year since me and my gf split. We tried the friends with benefits thing and I was too attached, told her I wanted to be serious again and she wasn’t having it so I left. That was about 3 months ago. I’ve been enjoying having my own time but love companionship. Now I’m wondering if I should get back into the dating space. Apps and all that. What are your guys opinions on dating apps vs. meeting someone organically at the bar?

The girl I have been on six dates with is very laid back (we are both 27). I want to state up front that I really like her and I feel that we have a pretty good connection. The girls I have dated/been in relationships with in the past have been more expressive and easier to read. I honestly don't know if I like the opposite or not. Sometimes I get satisfaction with either complaining about my day or at least hearing someone complain about their day as, at the very least, another thing to talk about or geniunely help them. My questions, I guess, are: For males that have had laid back partners- Was that a quality you enjoyed about them, or eventually enjoyed about them? Did you do anything to have them open up more? For females that are more laid back- Would you feel offended if your partner tried to have you open up more? Even if it was initiated through a sincere and mature conversation? I do want to express again that I really like her, the person, not just the looks. I don&

So for a bit of context, I'm a dude fairly new to the wanking scene. At first I thought I had a tight foreskin (found out I dont) so I began jerking off. The first time I did it I just kept going and I felt a rush of ** sensation * . Then I was like ok cool this is why ppl do this. And I kinda just accepted that I didn't cum, thinking I never would. But after a few more attempts, I still couldn't cum. I got a bit worried but then I began to take it slow instead of just Jack hammering for 3 minutes. And when I went slow it was much better, I felt like I was about to come. So there I was lying in bed like ok, I know what to do, I'm finally gonna cum. So I start, all is going well, when I start getting *the feeling . I think oh yeah here we go, keep going, I feel it coming, oh yeah.... and then I peed on my leg. It was piss. Not cum, piss. I'm just confused. Any help is greatly appreciated. Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:23PM So for a bit of context, I'm a d

It all went down one afternoon at a friend's place involving my friend (25/m), his girlfriend Melissa (25/f), and me (25/f). I was just dropping something off right when Nathan and Melissa were getting ready to fuck. Don't know what came over them because the moment I arrived they asked if I could spectate. Turned out the two always dreamt of having someone watch their shenanigans. They were honest about it, so I figured it wouldn't hurt to watch. At the time I didn't know just how involved I was getting. For the most part, Melissa was in ecstasy every second Nathan nailed her hard. It was definitely hot, but neither stopped there. A second later Melissa was dragging me into the action. I was really reluctant to play along as she laid me on the bed and knelt over me while Nathan fucked from behind. Soon I was watching the action up close and personal with Melissa's tits swinging over my face. Honestly, that was just halfway. For the finale, Melissa decided to yank

I’ve used Nair on my balls many times and have never once had any cuts until this past Saturday. I have a little cut on my balls and I’m worried that I can’t have sex for awhile someone give me answer. Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:28PM I’ve used Nair on my balls many times and have never once had any cuts until this past Saturday. I have a little cut on my balls and I’m worried that I can’t have sex for awhile someone give me answer.

I don’t know if I can post this, I’m totally new here. My boyfriend and I are looking for a third for some real fun that we’ve been discussing for over a year now. We want a trans woman, this is our first time but we’re sure we want to do it. We live in New York, any help advice or a point in the correct direction would be seriously appreciated! TIA Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:28PM I don’t know if I can post this, I’m totally new here. My boyfriend and I are looking for a third for some real fun that we’ve been discussing for over a year now. We want a trans woman, this is our first time but we’re sure we want to do it. We live in New York, any help advice or a point in the correct direction would be seriously appreciated! TIA

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Just an appreciation post for when my SO and I are having sex, and I'm on top of him doing my thing - from the moment I can feel he's about to come inside me, to when he tells me he's about to cum and those intense sounds of pleasure along with that sexy O-face as he pulsates inside me. It just sends me over the edge and draws out an intense orgasm from myself, and I can't ever get enough of it. Submitted April 27, 2020 at 11:37PM Just an appreciation post for when my SO and I are having sex, and I'm on top of him doing my thing - from the moment I can feel he's about to come inside me, to when he tells me he's about to cum and those intense sounds of pleasure along with that sexy O-face as he pulsates inside me. It just sends me over the edge and draws out an intense orgasm from myself, and I can't ever get enough of it.