Not sure if the title works here but here's my situation. tl;dr - Met a new co-worker at work and I'm absolutely floored by how amazing she is, how do I initiate a conversation over text that won't make me look desperate or creepy? I (19M) Just met a new co-worker (18F) at work, we're both lifeguards at our local YMCA. This was the first time I have ever seen her and met her. I introduced myself and right off the bat I was taken aback. She has the most beautiful eyes and hair I've ever seen (like actually.) While we were talking it was impossible for me to look away, I felt like a tractor beam was keeping my eyes locked onto hers, I haven't felt like this for a girl again in a very long time. I got her phone number from our list of employee phone numbers when I left work and messaged her "Hey this is (me), let me know if you ever need shifts taken." My dilemma is, I want to text her and get to know her, but how? I don't know if she has a BF, I ...

A girl that I think is cute and am interested in is moving back to the states in January. Should I ask her out? She has been showing interest and even agreed to coffee when she gets back, but I just have no confidence that she would say yes to a date cause I have no self-confidence Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:24PM A girl that I think is cute and am interested in is moving back to the states in January. Should I ask her out?She has been showing interest and even agreed to coffee when she gets back, but I just have no confidence that she would say yes to a date cause I have no self-confidence

He said he had a very great time with me during the past dates, enjoys my company, is very attracted etc but despite having some emotional involvement he is not in love. Is is worth it to continue or is it a waste of time? I know people are different but I need some insight Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:31PM He said he had a very great time with me during the past dates, enjoys my company, is very attracted etc but despite having some emotional involvement he is not in love.Is is worth it to continue or is it a waste of time? I know people are different but I need some insight

Hi! I was wondering if anyone knows of sites / places to meet women into fem guys? For me I'm moving towards embracing that part more, and i feel like i have to be 'masculine' but its v tiring. Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:32PM Hi! I was wondering if anyone knows of sites / places to meet women into fem guys? For me I'm moving towards embracing that part more, and i feel like i have to be 'masculine' but its v tiring.

I am 22 years old in grad. school and broke up with a guy I was seeing (was 37 divorced, and with a kid)... I walked away about 6 months ago due to his lack of commitment... The pain was REAL, like took me MONTHS to really understand that I deserve better than that. So I upgraded my wardrobe, skincare, career, everything. I always do so after a relationship ends. I literally become an upgraded person of my "past self'... Is this normal? Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:33PM I am 22 years old in grad. school and broke up with a guy I was seeing (was 37 divorced, and with a kid)... I walked away about 6 months ago due to his lack of commitment... The pain was REAL, like took me MONTHS to really understand that I deserve better than that. So I upgraded my wardrobe, skincare, career, everything. I always do so after a relationship ends. I literally become an upgraded person of my "past self'... Is this normal?

I don't have much problem finding people that are interested in dating me. I've gone on a few dozen first dates over the past year. In this area, I'm pretty good. I struggle so much to find someone I want to spend significant amounts of time with and even more to find someone I can trust and love. I don't need a partner, I'm a fully realized person. In fact, I don't even want a partner. If I did, I could have someone. I want specific people, 3 so far over the past few years, that make me feel like I'm better when I'm with them than without. I've asked those 3 people and was in a relationship with one for a year before we realized it wouldn't work. The other two wanted to keep it casual, including one this month that I cut off because it hurt. I'm only 24 but it's getting so fucking tiring. I feel like I don't want to go on anymore first dates, I don't want to try at all. I don't have space for a partner, these people make ho...

I met this girl at work about a week ago (I work In a corporate environment). The moment we met we really hit it off since we had a lot in common. I got her number and after a few days I asked her out and we went on a dinner date. It was great! We talked for like 6 hours straight about everything and we both really opened up to one another. I really saw something special in her. We’ve been texting back and forth with her mostly doing the initiating. Now, today I decided I would ask her out again this weekend and I had some plans in play (decided on some stuff we would both like). We were talking at lunch and when I brought up “btw what are you doing Friday - I wanted to take you to so and so...”. She said she couldn’t do it because she had some family stuff which she explained clearly and it made sense because she had mentioned it before. I made a little small talk about the family thing. She didn’t mention an alternative date so then I asked “what about the next day?”. Which she rep...

So there's this girl i like. She goes to college with me. I usually sit near her in college classes and either VERY hot or cold with me. No in between. Like one day we could be really hitting it off and the next shed give me the cold shoulder. On the days she gives me the cold shoulder, ill try to speak to her and will give very blunt answers and i end up trying harder with her compared when shes on a hot day with me. But it pretty much gets thrown back in my face. Now this is screwing with my head and i hate it. So much so that ive had enough of the mind games and decided to give up on her and move on. Even if she was actually interested in me (which she pretty much all but says on good days), how much it messes with my head is not worth it. I dont think shes hot or cold with me intentiionally (maybe a bad day something lol) but i dont think she intends on doing this to me but its messing with me too much So im just not going to text her anymore and no longer sit with her in cl...

So, right at the start of the semester I (20M) fell for this one girl (18F). I flirted and she was more or less responsive and seemed at least minimally interested (quick and long-ish responses to texts, playing with her hair a lot and so on. She'd ask me weird questions at times that I felt could hint towards her being interested as well. However, it didn't take long before I found out she had a boyfriend. At this point, I should have just called it quits, but I kept up the flirting for a while longer up to a certain point. My breaking point with this came at a dinner party that we (and all our mutual friends) attended. I got... pretty drunk, but I swear she was avoiding me all night (moving somewhere else when I'd go and dance next to her) and overall seemed dismissive. The next day, people were jokingly saying I tried to kiss her and when I talked to her about it, she said "I wouldn't do it (not sure if this was meant as a compliment or an insult, honestly) an...

I (M) went into a barbecue restaurant the other day and the cashier/host (not sure her age but looks about my age) was helping another customer with their store app (I had been in the restaurant before with the same girl as the host) says that she knew I had the app and maybe I could help them out. I had been in the store with my family and my sisters had been the ones that downloaded the app so I couldn’t help out. Long story short we had a short conversation and the host ended up giving my drink for free. I found her very sweet and attractive and from the short conversation I feel like she might like me but I know nothing about her. I don’t know her name, whether she is single, or whether she would like me as well. I don’t want to be rude or creepy. Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:49PM I (M) went into a barbecue restaurant the other day and the cashier/host (not sure her age but looks about my age) was helping another customer with their store app (I had been in the restaura...

I have this friend I met a few months ago. We are in a program together and I love being around him. He makes me laugh and is honestly so kind to me. I am incredibly attracted to him, and know he is attracted to me, but don’t know if I should say anything. The only issue is that when he drinks, he gets a little crazy. He doesn’t do anything bad, he doesn’t fight, he doesn’t say rude things, he doesn’t drink and drive, but he just gets a little wild. He’s a party animal basically. I’m the completely opposite, so I’m not sure if we really are compatible in that way and don’t want to tell him how I feel if I will eventually be controlling. However, I can’t get him out of my head — advice please? I hardly ever feel this way, I’m talking like maybe feel this way about someone once every few years. I don’t know if I should let it go or what Submitted November 27, 2019 at 11:56PM I have this friend I met a few months ago. We are in a program together and I love being around him. He ma...

Hi. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years. We live together and have a cat and it’s super wonderful! But Like every couple we have our issues, So recently I got a job offer that would be incredible and I would definitely be stupid to turn that kind of $ down! But I have the same offer at a local place just for ALOT less money. Now my boyfriend supports me in everything I do, and totally wants me to go for it! But I will rarely see him. And honestly in my head I wonder if it would be possible that if I take the job I will be gone for four months, that it may help strengthen our relationship, help me do some growing, and find ourselves again especially if We wanna spend the rest of our lives together. But I find myself also worried that maybe it’s not a great idea because we have never done long distance before? But we are very strong and love eachother, I trust him with everything! I just want to make the right decision, but I don’t want to put negative stress on our re...

As a guy I’ve been talking with this girl for at least a month and she has said that she’d rather talk with me and get to know me that way (and play some videogames online) before she would want to meet me because she has had bad experiences with other guys. Frankly it’s getting discouraging after this long and she still hasn’t said that she is free to play a video game and she takes a week to respond sometimes but her replies (as long as mine) indicate she cares. She has also said that she is busy this time of year but no matter how busy you are you can reply in a shorter time than a week if you cared right? Can a woman (or anyone) shed some light on this for me? Please help me out, she seems really nice but I just have no idea what to think. Submitted November 28, 2019 at 12:12AM As a guy I’ve been talking with this girl for at least a month and she has said that she’d rather talk with me and get to know me that way (and play some videogames online) before she would want to ...

I’m (23) meeting up with this guy (25) I’ve been on 2 dates with to just hang out at his place and watch a show we both like. He’s getting a bottle of wine (and paid for the drinks on our first date). My question is should I take anything, and if so what? I’m thinking it might be a bit weird going empty handed Submitted November 28, 2019 at 12:14AM I’m (23) meeting up with this guy (25) I’ve been on 2 dates with to just hang out at his place and watch a show we both like. He’s getting a bottle of wine (and paid for the drinks on our first date). My question is should I take anything, and if so what? I’m thinking it might be a bit weird going empty handed

Until I was 17, I thought sex just meant mutual masturbation or something. I sorta understand the appeal of actual sex now, but I feel it was grossly overrated. It was not the end-of-the-world love-explosion I was lead to believe it would be. November 28, 2019 at 12:14AM

I thought sexual atraction and all was a joke until a few years ago, which is kind of sad November 28, 2019 at 12:13AM

Let me also say I’m not opposed to a gay Disney princess by any means, but Elsa in particular feels so much more ace/aro than anything and this fits the narrative of Frozen so much better. It took me a while to figure out why I feel so strongly about this, but it finally dawned on me that it’s because before I understood I was ace, a lot of people around me assumed I was gay just because I wasn’t interested in guys. So many people are doing the same to Elsa. She’s clearly not into guys, so she must be into girls, right? Everyone has to be into SOMEBODY, right? Absolutely not, but it’s something a lot of people still believe. I mean, several people around me still suspect I’m a closeted lesbian because they don’t find asexuality valid. Elsa’s story has shown that platonic/familial love and affection is just as fulfilling as romantic love. She doesn’t need a partner in order to complete her arc. Keeping her ace (bc let’s be honest that’s how she’s been portrayed) shows that, which I fin...

Patience is key November 28, 2019 at 12:03AM

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*Sits in free chair* November 28, 2019 at 12:02AM

Communication is the most important part of any relationship, especially one between people with different preferences, whether sexual or otherwise. There are ace dating sites like acebook; okcupid has an ace option. Ace/allo relationships exist and can work, but they need communication. Once a relationship looks like it might turn serious, bring up sex. Have an awkward conversation. One thing that can help is have your (potential) partner and yourself create a chart: relationship needs, wants, neutrals, dislikes, and dealbreakers. For instance : Needs: a date outside the home every other week, cuddles once a week Wants: a date outside the home every week, physical intimacy (eg hugs, cuddles, etc) every day, pizza once a week Neutral: hand jobs Dislikes: mouth kisses more than once per day, oral sex Dealbreakers: penetrative sex, playing football on the TV for more than an hour per day November 28, 2019 at 12:01AM

Me too :) Except for anal. November 27, 2019 at 11:56PM