Out of curiosity have you looked into the differences between, the different attraction types? Some people (myself included) related aesthetic attraction with sexual attraction. If you don't have something it is hard to know exactly what your are missing and may mis attrubute aesthetic attraction. For me I can appreciate someone is good looking. For example I enjoy seeing Chris Hemsworth in movies and so did my sister in law. I couldn't understand why my brother was jealous of the fact she thought he was hot and so I asked him if he would be that upset over her enjoying a painting... my brother was frustrated by my comparison and replied "it's different, you know that"..... but i didn't know that, for me it was EXACTLY the same feeling. Talking to other friends I found out everyone but me understood it was different. I say this because your initial post i didn't think really sounded very asexual since you said you had sexual attraction, but reading some...

What? I must be one of the rare few then.... I'm a self confessed real ale fan. I love the stuff. August 12, 2020 at 11:57PM

Yea August 12, 2020 at 11:57PM

You’re even wearing it in the right way on the right hand! Hello to my fellow Irish aces! August 12, 2020 at 11:57PM

Come to me my platonic children. August 12, 2020 at 11:56PM

Wtf they're multiplying by mitosis. This is literally the asexual dream. August 12, 2020 at 11:52PM

I very much prefer garlic bread to cake or pie. August 12, 2020 at 11:52PM

200,000 units ready with a million more well on the way. August 12, 2020 at 11:51PM

I’d say most of my sexual encounters were because I was horny and moderately attracted to the person. It was mainly for nothing tho since I never really got any satisfaction out of it... I haven’t done it with someone I was romantically attracted to yet (because I find it really hard to find people that I like in that way), so I’m still waiting on that to see if maybe I need a connection towards someone for me to actually enjoy it. I’m definitely always trying to be self aware when it comes to my sexuality and constantly questioning myself on my own feelings and judgement, so I’m just waiting for that “aha” moment to really tell me exactly what I am August 12, 2020 at 11:45PM

poll i posted here a few weeks ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/huyl4c/do_you_enjoy_alcohol/ August 12, 2020 at 11:43PM

Sounds ace to me! And on a micro label level you might resonate with the term aegosexual? There’s a reddit group for them, you might want to check it out? It’s like how you described: the disconnect between experiencing arousal but not actually wanting it for yourself August 12, 2020 at 11:41PM

This guy doesn't seem to know about parthogenesis either. It's always the dumbest people who think they are the smartest. August 12, 2020 at 11:41PM

Yes, I agree! I’m still exploring when it comes to sex and doing what I think I like. The only reason I seek sexual engagement with others is simply to find out if there is a factor that allows me to enjoy it. It’s a little tiresome in some ways to constantly try to find something and not being able to, but if I do find something I’m into I assume it’ll be well worth it. Thanks for your reply! August 12, 2020 at 11:39PM

Spa day! 😂 August 12, 2020 at 11:39PM

Are you attracted to people or are you just horny? I’m also no expert, but i think you could be on the spectrum or maybe you’re sex-repulsed. Maybe take some time to build your self awareness more to pin down your sexuality August 12, 2020 at 11:39PM

Why can't he be both? August 12, 2020 at 11:38PM

I say this guy is more dumb than aphobic August 12, 2020 at 11:38PM

Where did you get the idea that most aces don’t drink? I will demolish a tequila sunrise, a mimosa, or an entire wine cabinet. August 12, 2020 at 11:38PM

Y’allos August 12, 2020 at 11:37PM

Now I'm not an expert on sex (obviously, I'm ace haha)... But since you do experience sexual attraction and want to engage in sexual acts, you wouldn't be asexual. I wouldn't call you sex-repulsed either since there seems to be no actual repulsion, just indifference. So this is all just hypothetical but maybe you just need different factors to enjoy sex. Maybe it's a special kind of kink you have, another kind of stimulation, lots of foreplay to get you into it or simply just having feelings for a partner. Or it's something unrelated like mental health, stress or body issues that keep you distracted. This might be something you have to find out for yourself if you want to explore it. Maybe talk to partners about what you like when you do it on your own, what you think of... August 12, 2020 at 11:36PM

So tomorrow my wife of 9 years is having a major knee operation tomorrow. She is having the top of her shin bone shaved down and then having the bottom part of her knee reattached to it. She hurt it a few years slipping in some ice. After years of cortisone shots and PT her Ortho decided enough was enough and asked her to let him fix it for good. She's incredibly nervous about it because she's never had surgery before. She's nervous that it's gonna be too much on me to have to run the household and manage the extra work taking care of our kiddos ( 8, 7 and 4 ). I've tried explaining to her that this is one of those times where I'm required to take on the extra work load while she's incapacitated, and I'm not only required but I'm looking forward to waiting on her hand and foot. I want her to know that the only thing she needs to worry about is getting herself better. Our faith is the glue in our marriage and if you could all please pray that she mak...

Do I call him out? Or just move on?? I don't want to ghost but I don't how to ask him about it. I'm still interested with him but I don't think he is anymore. We just had a short date and been texting for a month due to the pandemic. Submitted August 12, 2020 at 10:02PM Do I call him out? Or just move on?? I don't want to ghost but I don't how to ask him about it. I'm still interested with him but I don't think he is anymore.We just had a short date and been texting for a month due to the pandemic.

The title pretty much sums it up. I stopped practicing Islam and am an atheist now. I am in the process of de-hijabing. I don't wear it when I go out for groceries or something like that. However, I am still wearing it at work (for now until I can muster up the courage to deal with questions, etc.). All my OLD pics are in hijab and I don't really have any non-hijab pics . Well, I have selfies after I take my runs but I'm not posting those on OLD apps. This will likely not be a super quick process. Should I change my religion on OLD apps. Should I take some nice non-hijabs pics and post them? I don't really go anywhere but I could put on some make up and take some selfies? Should I just leave up the hijabed pics and explain in messages what's going on? What would people who have never been Muslim think? TIA for any and all advice! Submitted August 12, 2020 at 11:38PM The title pretty much sums it up. I stopped practicing Islam and am an atheist now. I am in th...