I’m aroace and like bondage. Have an open conversation with her about what you are and aren’t comfortable with. You’re both allowed hard limits, but these need to be communicated. She sent you a check list? You’ve already spotted things you know you refuse to do? Great. You have the start of the talk. Don’t let her talk you into anything you don’t feel comfortable with, some of what you’ve listed can be a lot even for an experienced Dom. And I’m side eying the breath play listing. That shit is dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. Bondage can be great because it’s intimate. But you’re also putting a lot of trust in each other. Go slowly, try not to push yourself. Your feelings are just as important as hers and you have the right to stop the session if you’re also overwhelmed. But I’m sure it’ll be fine, Just remember to always communicate what you are and aren’t comfortable with and stick to what you agreed. Also, and I can’t stress this enough, make sure you both know th...

Obviously in the bi example, the bisexual person can still reciprocate their current partner's sexual attraction so it isn't the same with a gay person and a straight one. Or an allo and an ace, since the sexual attraction in these two situations isn't mutual. But thing is most people want their sexual desire for their partner to be reciprocated (because most people are allo), so if they find out the partner doesn't desire them the same way they do they feel lied to. August 01, 2023 at 11:32PM