It's kind of funny, because while I somewhat relate to this, I also do get allos' perspective too because I spent a lot longer living in their world and learning how they feel than understanding myself. So while I cannot relate personally to their attraction, I've been conditioned to understand it.🤷‍♀️ August 14, 2020 at 11:56PM

Oh god, I didn’t know aphobia was a thing. August 14, 2020 at 11:54PM

Im sorry you feel like you're missing out. There is so much hype about sex that its hard feeling left out especially when people tell you how amazing it is. If you really want to experience see, but you don't feel comfortable just going on tinder or something, i really have no clue what to tell you. You could ask someone in the same situation as you, like a friend or someone else that wants to just get it over with. I'm not saying you should do this, just giving options. I had the same feelings as you, not the eanting to experience it, but more like wanting to try just to know. I was in good friends who make out type of relationship[it was more then that I just didnt want to label it] once and the last time we really did anything together was when we got really close to somehing more then making out and i turned him down, and i think he was hurt about it, and everytime i think about I wonder if I should have just gone along with it, maybe that would have made him stay. I

26-F! I felt broken, but I didn’t click with that term until later on. I never wanted a relationship in high school, because I saw sex as an expectation. I always planned to save myself for someone special, even though I’m an atheist. I eventually gave in and dated someone... someone toxic. Maybe because he called me broken, I believed it. He assured me I’d eventually enjoy sex, and that maybe my libido needs fixing. What the fuck is libido and why don’t I have enough? Maybe because my partner is verbally abusive I don’t feel sexually attracted to him? But after several years and a few more partners I have never once enjoyed or looked forward to sex - it’s always been a self-less act for the other person. Most the time I needed to be tipsy or drunk. My relationships usually last around a month. In that time, I’m like “oh he’s the one” and am pretty open about my sexuality. My partner will pretend to understand but usually forget, and I’ll end up giving in to sex here and there...

Thanks! I sustain myself exclusively off the praise of others. This will get me through the next month for sure! August 14, 2020 at 11:48PM

Honestly yes August 14, 2020 at 11:47PM

You may be panromantic. Pan is willing to date someone regardless of their gender or sex. August 14, 2020 at 11:46PM

If you're only 18, then you're ahead of me. I didn't kiss anyone until I was 21, and I didn't have sex until I was 23. But let me tell you - If something isn't what you're built for, then you're not really "missing out" by not experiencing it. I was even married for 5 years, in large part because "that's what you're supposed to do," and it was a miserable disaster. Don't believe it when society tells you it's a black-and-white scenario, relationship/marriage/family or loneliness. There are so many other possibilities out there, if you keep yourself open to them. I'm 55 now, and I have plenty of people in my life who I love and who love me. I don't have sex with any of them, or even live with them. I've found my alternatives. If this is your path, then you can find your alternatives, too. August 14, 2020 at 11:44PM

Yes, I know. I'm saying that the argument people use, "how do you know if you like sex if you haven't tried it?" doesn't even apply to asexuality because that's not even what it is about. You can even like sex and be asexual. It is about whether or not you experience sexual attraction even if you experience other attractions. August 14, 2020 at 11:44PM

Fire ze missiles! But I'm les beesh... Well, chill for a bit... Then fire ze missiles! August 14, 2020 at 11:41PM

To quote my parents "We're to old to give a shit about crap." My dad only cares about work and my mom only cares if it's made a mess and I mean that in the nicest way possible. August 14, 2020 at 11:40PM

I don't know! Are you shook?! August 14, 2020 at 11:39PM

Exactly. What they said. You could be ace, or you could be a "late bloomer." I didn't "discover girls" until I was 20, and even then I've always noticed faces and personalities more than anything sexual. If you feel like identifying as asexual now, and if things change for you later, you can identify as something else later. Whatever makes you comfortable, because that's how you're going to be your best self. August 14, 2020 at 11:39PM

Personal opinion: if its truly relevant to the plot in a way that can't be accomplished by just implying or telling the audience it happened, sure fine just please keep it short. 'Heat of the moment passion' is almost always just.. so dumb. Just feels like a horny director wanted to get themselves some personal material while they had certain actors available to em. Pacific rim is no joke my favorite movie because the relationship is just ambiguous enough that I can see the 2 protags as really close friends but sexual people can see them as romantic. The drift is a personal experience and drift compatible people range from brothers, a parent and their kid, a married couple, etc, and they don't start in on some obligatory make out session at the end, they're just relieved the other ones alive! A+ shit right there! Gimme more of that! Fury road is another example of recent-ish movies that i really enjoyed cause yeah there's your token side romance but it was mo

Overall I think it's just weird, obviously some asexuals are ok with it and some are not, I personally just think it doesn't add anything to the plot most of the time, I'm ok with implied scenes, some of them are nice, I like the warm colors, but more explicit ones I just skip it because it's just uncomfortable. Can you tell me why it's necessary to put them in films? August 14, 2020 at 11:37PM

Everything you descirbe seems like you could be ace. You can use the label if you like, sexuality can change at diferent parts of our lives so you dont have to feel like you're stuck with it. I think people are atractive all the time, doesnt mean i want to bone them. All asexual means is that one doesnt have sexual atraction twords others. Theres no perfect box you should have to shove yourself in to be considered valid. August 14, 2020 at 11:36PM

Omg that looks so pretty!! How did u do it? Is there any YouTube tutorials? I want to try it too!! August 14, 2020 at 11:32PM

Probably. I dunno, I am not the brightest tool in the draw. August 14, 2020 at 11:28PM

Anthropomorphized? August 14, 2020 at 11:27PM

That’s true but some aces are sex repulsed or sex indifferent. This reddit is here for all aces and not all memes apply to everyone and that’s ok. Everyone is just as valid August 14, 2020 at 11:26PM

Omg August 14, 2020 at 11:26PM

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