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Bf wants to fight, I want to cool down

My bf (29m) and I (28f) have different “styles” when it comes to arguing. When we fight or have a problem, I want my space to calm down, process, and figure out next steps. This could mean a few hours, the rest of the day, or even into the next day depending on the issue. My bf on the other hand, wants to handle the argument in the heat of the moment so we can “get it over with”, and move on like nothing happened. (And also, makeup sex.) If I don’t physically leave the room, he will try to continue an argument even when I won’t participate. This leads to me becoming even more upset and wanting more space, which leads to him continuing to push me to engage in the argument. I’m tired of having to either give him the silent treatment or leave my apartment to get the time and space I need. I also hate that it feels like he just wants to settle a fight so we can have sex. I’ve tried talking about my need for space in a fight during times we’re not fighting, but it hasn’t done any good. W...

Planning a first date (20s) would a picnic be a good idea?

So i like the thought of a picnic, haven’t been on a date before, what would be some appropriate things to bring along besides food and water? Submitted January 16, 2022 at 01:08AM So i like the thought of a picnic, haven’t been on a date before, what would be some appropriate things to bring along besides food and water?

Commenting on another girls post

How do you guys feel about someone you’re seriously talking to commenting on lots of girls post? Submitted January 16, 2022 at 01:12AM How do you guys feel about someone you’re seriously talking to commenting on lots of girls post?

I can’t tell if it was a hookup or if it meant something

So I (26F) met a guy (30M) on a cruise this holiday. By far one of the most attractive men I’ve ever met, and not just physically. He was kind, he treated me with respect, and we connected on all sorts of subjects (video games, music, movies, sci-fi, and investing to name a few.) He shared that his goal is to raise enough money to build a life and a family, and he shared without me asking. Even after we hooked up, he encouraged me to stay and cuddle. The last day of the cruise, I told him that this would be a cherished memory of mine and how I would love to stay in contact. He confirmed that he wanted to keep in contact, too, but he wanted to be single for now since he just got out of a very serious long-term relationship. He also had a contract job that would keep him away for 5 months. Well, almost a month later, he’s off working, and we’ve stayed in contact almost the entire time. But now it changes from one worded replies to 6 messages sent in a row. And it went from us replying...

Coworker Help

This is your typical coworker story. I started at a new company a few months ago. There is a girl on my team who I didn't have interest in pursuing until one day she starts opening up to me about things after I would casually ask how she was. Answers I would get were fairly personal like, "oh a family member is really sick" or "I just broke up with my boyfriend" etc. After these conversations started happening, I got a message saying "miss you" after we hadn't talked for a few days. This is where it all flips for me. I should've never entertained her but I figure eh why not it might be cool to get to know her and have a new friend. Little did I know I'd start to see this girl as much more than just a casual friend and things would get much more personal. After we started snap chatting/texting each other daily I one day got a snap message saying "CUTIE". I am the type of person to always ask somebody straight up what they mean,...

/u/kodieshmodie on I’m wondering

When the world stops seeing sex as this taboo thing. If it’s not taboo, we can talk about it. If we can TALK about it, people won’t be ashamed to learn about it. I genuinely think that’s the biggest barrier. January 16, 2022 at 12:30AM

is he a player?

so i recently met this boy, my friends says he's a player but i asked for his side on the certain situation and he seems to have a valid reason on why he's not (still keeping my guard up) but as we continued to talk and get to know each other he compliments me all the time, wants to meet up, he tells me if we ever make it official he's going to take me on dates all the time, says he'll post me when we're official, says when we meet up he'll take me to walk to the park and talk about life together. He seems too good to be true, but what do you guys think? Submitted January 16, 2022 at 12:14AM so i recently met this boy, my friends says he's a player but i asked for his side on the certain situation and he seems to have a valid reason on why he's not (still keeping my guard up) but as we continued to talk and get to know each other he compliments me all the time, wants to meet up, he tells me if we ever make it official he's going to take me on ...