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/u/S1L1C0NSCR0LLS on I feel there’s something wrong with me

Wishing is easy . Have you known people that that had those things and lost it all, or kept it but it was an unhappy life? The other side of love stories is horror. You've been spoonfed bullshit "well wishes" from the media to think love is magic and solves everything. I'd recommend Black Hole by Charles Burns. It does have some sex in it, but honestly it's the best coming of age love story I know of, with a big ol' dose of reality in it. Honestly, y'all love-lorn kids have been severely underserved by our culture. It sucks, it's almost like our culture wants us broken by love. October 08, 2022 at 12:29AM

dating help wanted

Are there any women out here who want to give me advice? Im a 5'7" tall male 165lbs and just turned 24 last week. I have a gov job and i make more than enough money to suport a family. I have had 1 serious 3 year relationship threw highschool but it ended my freashmen year of college ( she wanted drugs and other men). Other than that all i have been running into these days are women who whisper sweet nothing in my ears lead me on and act like they are all in for like a week to a month then they dip out. This leaves me feeling inadiquate, and or like im nothing but a pice of meat. The latest endeor told me that she was to young for me (18), and that if she was older she would be all over me? This makes no since to me, they are just empty words. Why is it that i have never met a woman who tells the truth about her feelings 🤔. Why is it so hard to find a ride or die female partner? I grew up in a split house hold and i refuse to do the same if i have kids. So i have tak...

Going to her house for the first time

I’ve been seeing this girl for about 2-3 weeks, this will be date #5. we’ve had our first kiss already. She invited me to her house because no one is there for the weekend. Im going to grab or order the food, but what else should I take? I was thinking some dessert, but because of a health condition right now, what she can eat is very limited. Same goes for wine, I don’t know if she can drink it right now. Any ideas? Submitted October 07, 2022 at 11:59PM I’ve been seeing this girl for about 2-3 weeks, this will be date #5. we’ve had our first kiss already. She invited me to her house because no one is there for the weekend. Im going to grab or order the food, but what else should I take? I was thinking some dessert, but because of a health condition right now, what she can eat is very limited. Same goes for wine, I don’t know if she can drink it right now. Any ideas?

Balancing authenticity with "TMI" early on, or when is it time to reveal private proclivities?

So I'm starting to date very lightly after a while in a monogamous relationship. So far, nothing beyond casual 'getting to know you' conversation has occurred, and I've basically just stayed behind a public persona. But a recent on line exchange led me to talk about some very private thoughts/ interests, and that's brought to mind a subject I've been avoiding addressing - when and how do you broach such things with someone during the dating process? Vague enough? Submitted October 07, 2022 at 11:59PM So I'm starting to date very lightly after a while in a monogamous relationship. So far, nothing beyond casual 'getting to know you' conversation has occurred, and I've basically just stayed behind a public persona. But a recent on line exchange led me to talk about some very private thoughts/ interests, and that's brought to mind a subject I've been avoiding addressing - when and how do you broach such things with someone during the ...

I don't understand what I'm doing wrong with men

Every single time I attempt to get to know someone, whether it be an online or in person connection, I get ghosted. Recently, I had met up with this guy I had matched on a dating app with. We talked for weeks about different things: art, music, movies, etc, and we had a lot in common. Then, when we decided to meet up, we had a great time together! Really, it was awesome, and I felt like we really connected. We hung out for about 6 hours, talking, laughing, and we even danced together at the bar. It felt wholesome, and different than the usual failed dates I have had. We tried to make plans to hang out again, but he never followed through, even after telling me he was interested. We would still text a lot back and forth, and I felt like we were kind of bonding, but I figure it was one-sided, and he wasn't as into me as I was into him. I was on the dating app today and saw him on there again, so I guess he made a new account, and is still looking for something I suppose I wasn...

For those who were the toxic ones

I was in a recent situationship where I agree I was the toxic one. Though we both made mistakes, I was much worse. It’s been a few months since we ended things, and I still regret everything I done even though she doesn’t apologize for her mistakes - I always do. Every advice I look at, it’s always “how to recover from a toxic partner.” I’m not here to justify what I did. But I genuinely regret my actions, the way I treated her, the way I talked to her. I should of been better. It’s hard for me to move on because I know it is all my fault, but I genuinely do feel remorse and I can’t find a way to heal.. I take accountability and I hate myself everyday for being that way. How can I just… move on and heal? Submitted October 08, 2022 at 12:14AM I was in a recent situationship where I agree I was the toxic one. Though we both made mistakes, I was much worse.It’s been a few months since we ended things, and I still regret everything I done even though she doesn’t apologize for her...

/u/juroquee on why do I love romance when it's for other people?

Don't worry, nothing weird with that :) I like romantic stories but I would not like to live a romance myself. I also like horror movies, but I also would not like to be in a zombie apocalypse for real ^ Both just make nice stories :) October 07, 2022 at 10:54PM