We go to college together, both have been single for over a year. I’m a freshman she’s a sophomore. We met bc we started studying for a class together. Totally platonic friendship (well it was). She’s not my type, I’m not hers. We both have crushes on other people, which the other knows well about. Firstly, I’m a virgin. I dated someone in high school for over a year but she was asexual, so we never did anything. Needless to say, I’m kinda deprived of sex. My friend is pretty experienced. I don’t really find her attractive to be honest. One day we were hanging out in her room. She invited me onto her bed. She started getting cuddly. But nothing too weird so I went with it. This happened a few more times. Until tonight. We were cuddling in her bed. And then she started kissing me. Sorta just happened. And then we started making out. And touching each other. She stopped and said that we need to make some rules. We said: 1. this isn’t gonna be an emotional thing, and 2. no penetration bc...

Okay long story short, I have only enjoyed sex with one person but have had sex with others and stopped in the middle of it every time bc I just wasn’t in to it. I would think maybe it’s because I don’t like them but it’s like every time I have sex now. I’m starting to think it is because I need the connection, but is anyone else the same way??? I am worried that I will never be able to have sex with anyone else again, am I in my own head to much? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 06:58AM Okay long story short, I have only enjoyed sex with one person but have had sex with others and stopped in the middle of it every time bc I just wasn’t in to it. I would think maybe it’s because I don’t like them but it’s like every time I have sex now. I’m starting to think it is because I need the connection, but is anyone else the same way??? I am worried that I will never be able to have sex with anyone else again, am I in my own head to much?

Please note that I am only talking about sexual attraction here: romantically, I am attracted to many different things, including personality. ​ I am sexually attracted to women. Specifically, their bodies. I am NOT attracted to their personalities. I am attracted to their ass, their tits, their curves, their pussies, how much pleasure they're feeling and how horny they are. Those are the things that turn me on, they're the things I focus on when I watch porn. My sexuality revolves around the female body. Often, when I'm walking around, I'll see a nice ass, and I'll think to myself "nice ass". ​ This is clear objectification. This is sexualization. To be sexually attracted to the female form, and nothing else, is to only care about the body of a woman, while paying no mind to who she is: it's gross, it's creepy, it's rapey, it's perverted, it's sexist, it's misogynistic. All things, outside of porn, that celebrate the male attr...

Honestly. I mean. How the hell do you stay on track when there's magic happening down there? It's kinda like... Oh yum, I do love his cock, mmm. Slurp. Cue sloppy blowjob (his favourite). Yeah, here we go, he's started down there, oh that feels so good. And then.. Holy shit balls! Fireworks being lit downstairs! What the hell are you doing with that magic tongue?! Did you just stick a finger in my ass too? Omg. Keep going. Mind goes completely blank. Wait. What am I meant to be doing? Sucking on that? Nah, fuck it. Oh my god. Yes. Yes. Keep going! Let's just make it about me! I'm gonna come! Keep going! Seriously. What's the point of those? (female half posting here, btw, in case that wasn't obvious) TLDR - wondering what the point of 69ers are when one partner gets so distracted.. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:00AM Honestly. I mean. How the hell do you stay on track when there's magic happening down there?It's kinda like... Oh yum, I do...

31/M Like the title says I love my girlfriend and I enjoy all the time we spend together, but we haven't had sex since almost September and I'm having trouble controlling myself. I have been doing anything I can to be sexy for her and trying to hint and even flat out asked but nothing seems to be happening. We are both still very sexually attracted to each other but between the time of the month and random things happening we haven't done anything. I feel bad because I am approaching a wall and at this point I'm masturbating at least six times a day but it's just not cutting it anymore. What do i do? Even now my brain wants to be an asshole and look at other options and I don't want that. I can't keep jerking off I'm losing my mind. Any suggestions? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:08AM 31/M Like the title says I love my girlfriend and I enjoy all the time we spend together, but we haven't had sex since almost September and I'm having troub...

I was having this very conversation with a friend earlier, and he also brought up the point of bi and pan existing haha! I try to make it clear to most people that my partner’s gender doesn’t matter to me. He could come out as trans or non-binary to me tomorrow and my immediate response would be “okay, what should I call you now?” And absolutely nothing about the relationship would change haha April 20, 2019 at 07:22AM

Yeah, that's the part that concerns me. That others will see a couple and just for the fact that they're a man and a woman they'll go "well you're just cishet" when that's not only untrue but also severely short sighted (bi and pan people exist as well). April 20, 2019 at 07:20AM

SCP wiki, great stuff. If you want to read it directly just google scp 3929 and go from there. April 20, 2019 at 07:19AM

Robbie aka Cavetown is an openly aro song-writer and even has made advice videos that mention aro things and it's really cool April 20, 2019 at 07:18AM

Sounds like heteroromantic aces. They're "straight" when it comes to who they wanna date but not really straight when it comes to sex. And like the other commenter pointed out it's a lot easier to say. Biromantic, panromantic, and aromantics can just shorten it but hetero-ace is just kinda awkward sounding April 20, 2019 at 07:16AM

Middle one looks fine. Idk how the hell that’s supposed to be sexualized. It’s just some saggy chili peppers April 20, 2019 at 07:15AM

Posting on mobile. Please let me know if there is a better subreddit to post this on. Just want help/advice. I’m in my senior of college. I’m 22F. I graduate this spring with a Bachelors in Business Admin with a major in Finance and minor in Economics. I don’t have a job currently as I’m starting my Masters Program soon and applying to become a Grad Assistant. I’m in my Capstone class- for those who don’t know, it’s basically the final class in the business program that summarizes all of the business classes I’ve taken so far. Essentially my team is running a business and graded on how well we do against other teams. Group member A, 30F, who is also a friend of mine for the last year or so has been giving me a hard time. A struggles in her accounting classes and often fails most of her exams. I’ve offered to help her study for tests and even complete homework’s. She works as a caregiver outside of school. A has a GPA of maybe 2.8-3.0 cumulative. Here’s where it gets tricky; Group m...

I moved into a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom home at the beginning of the semester with another college student that I had never met before. She was desperately looking for a roommate because she just ended an engagement, and I was desperately looking for a place to live because the lease at my former residence was ending. She lived here for a year with her former roommate and her fiancee before I moved in. I just overheard her talking about the rent cost with her friends after they stumbled in after a night of drinking. One of them commented on how nice the house was and asked how much we pay monthly and she said $995 . I have been giving her checks/money orders for $600 every month for my portion of the rent, plus whatever the cost of utilities is that month. Needless to say, I am a little shocked as I thought we were splitting the rent evenly. I am not sure how I should go about this situation, as upon my moving in I never asked her what her portion of the rent would be. We agreed that u...

So my mom caught a cold (she's OK now). She's 51. And it went pretty bad. I'm just shocked that a person could collapse all of a sudden, as if she took a 180° turn. She have supported me in a long time. And when she got ill, I just couldn't handle it. It's like a spell broken. From that moment, I realized that I don't TRULY love her. I only love her image of a "mother", my very own definition of "mother". It's just like that Greek myth or Kon Satoshi's Perfect Blue all over again. It made me think that that's exactly why I hate lies so much. It's not only because those empty promise people say to me. I see people as if they won't change a bit. I know it's idealism and it's very wrong. I'm INFP-T and 4w5-sp/sx but I want to be something more... TL;DR? If people don't live up to the impression they gave me, I just got so angry, and I want to change that. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 05:37AM So my mo...

Using a throw away because I’m not sure if he has a reddit. I (28f) have been dating this guy (29m) for about 4 months and we kind of just broke up. He ghosted me for a week and then randomly says hi like nothing happened but I’m done. As I’m trying to move on, I’m remembering things that have happened that are making me feel gross for not putting a stop to it. The very first time we first started fooling around about a month in (I like to take things slow), he put his hands around my neck with light pressure and I immediately said not to do that, that it scared me. I had never done that before. He said all the girls he’s been with liked it. I said I realized it’s an incredibly common kink, but it sort of triggered a fight or flight response in me and I felt like I was being attacked. He stopped then. I had a talk with him while we weren’t in the midst of sex and I explained I wasn’t ready for choking and he just said okay and that he hoped I would like it one day. He then said he ...

One of my very good friends (28F) is one of the nicest and coolest people you’d ever meet- but she thinks screaming is hilarious. She’s staying with my husband and I in our apartment. Her fiancé is also here. She will randomly start screaming and making noises, which makes my dog start howling and even our pet birds start screaming. She finds the chaos funny too, so sometimes she will put a video on YouTube of people screaming (there’s apparently a screaming version of “baby shark”) and then start making racket that sets off the animals. Her fiancé looks at me and my husband as if pleading for help with his eyes but we kinda don’t know what to do. I knew this was a quirk of hers but I didn’t know it was so bad. I asked her to stop and she thought that was funny. I’ve only ever known of CHILDREN finding screaming funny so I’m at a loss here. My husband thinks she has a mental illness. Also she is very beautiful as well as nice so I suspect her fiancé puts up with it because he figur...

There's this [24 F] at work that I [24 M] have been getting really close with. It started off naturally just wanting to make friends but we have a lot of common so we gradually started hanging out more. Mostly it was me initiating hang outs and sitting together at lunch and messages. I wasn't doing this obsessively, maybe once every now in a while. She would always respond but I always thought she was just being nice. This started around Jan/Feb this year. Maybe about a month ago we became a lot closer and would talk more. The last two weeks I feel something has changed. She has started initiating messages, hang outs and seeking me out at random times when I am working. She comes to me so we can go on break together and says I'll see you at lunch or I'm going on break at 3. So naturally because she is attractive and we have a strong connection I have developed a crush. I have noticed all the signs you would when someone might be interested, laughing at everything I ...

TL;DR: 24M, military, have difficulty being emotionally available for anyone. Need help determining how I can change that. I’m a 24 year old male in the military currently. The last serious relationship I had was approximately 3 years ago, give or take a few months. However, my current status as an introvert, and my desire to focus on my job, my health and myself, along with my current inability to be emotionally available with anyone I’m not currently close to really fucks my shit up. However, I want to have a relationship, I just feel like sometimes that I would never be good in a relationship due to my aforementioned inability to be emotionally available, which i know is beyond important to maintaining your own and your partner’s happiness. Is there any way to change that? What are the steps I can take to allow myself to get to the point where I can make a conscious effort to give myself up to someone else? How do I balance being driven in my work, and be able to love someone whol...

I guess I'm hurt. I don't want to admit it, but I am. Even though I never acknowledged it, I always knew I did more and was willing to do more for her than she did for me. Phone calls and visits in the middle of night when she's drunk or upset have been a common occurrence. I always answered. I was always there and I never expected anything like that in return. But she couldn't offer even me a decent apology for stealing money from me and making a joke out of it. She tried to make me believe I was overreacting. Five days of fucking silence after she knew I was upset and all I got was a forced, half-assed apology after I flipped out. Whenever I upset her or felt like I was too harsh, I made sure to apologize and make it right. I'm horrible with emotions and apologies, but I still did it for her. Now we don't even look at each other and she seems fine. But, I can't eat, sleep, or think straight. I even feel somewhat guilty, even though I know I shouldn't ...

So, me and my SO have been together for a little over 2 years. Are relationship is great and he’s genuinely the best guy I’ve been with, because of that I want to take a step forward in our relationship. Right now I’m working and doing school and he’s finishing school. I’ve made it clear to him I want a future with him, a family, a house, and a kid before I’m 30. His responses to all this have been vague agreements. He says he would like a future with me as well but whenever I press him about when we could move in together, he puts it off. I know I shouldn’t push things, but I want to know where my future is heading. So tonight we had some deep talks about it. He agreed he loves me and wants to start a life together, and that he’s willing to get an apartment together. The problem is I don’t WANT an apartment. I want us to get a house together. He has enough money saved up to where we could buy one and I’m working so I can pitch in as well. Apartments are a waste of money if we’re ...

Hi everyone! This is my first time posting so please cut me some slack if it's not the best quality😅 So my boyfriend [22M] and I [21F] are going on about 6 months of dating, we're both seniors in college and we've talked about the future extensively... we've both expressed that this relationship is special and different than any other ones we've been in, so I'd say we're pretty serious! Recently, though, I've been like obsessing over the fact that he loves to go out and drink and, I get it, we're in college, but it's like when I do go with I usually don't have a good time (because it's always with his friends at what I consider "boring" bars) but when I stay back and do my own thing I so left out. This has been going on since we started dating and back then I'd just force myself to go and try to convince myself that I will have fun, but that just got exhausting. Sidenote: a litte about me, I workout very frequently and ...

So I turned 18 in November, and I'm a senior in high school and I'm starting to like this girl who turned 15 last month, she's a freshman. Is it weird if i try to start talking to her? It just feels like too big of an age gap, and I'm worried people will judge the hell out of us, but I think she's really cute, and good gf material. Christian, comes from a good family, beautiful, and did I mention she's cute? She's kinda shy and single as well. I haven't talked to her that much. Thanks I'm advance. tl;dr: she's 15 and I'm 18 Submitted April 20, 2019 at 06:22AM So I turned 18 in November, and I'm a senior in high school and I'm starting to like this girl who turned 15 last month, she's a freshman. Is it weird if i try to start talking to her? It just feels like too big of an age gap, and I'm worried people will judge the hell out of us, but I think she's really cute, and good gf material. Christian, comes from a goo...

I’ve had this friends with benefits (strong emphasis on the benefits) relationship with this guy (FB) for over two years now. We met at university but since we graduated at different times and now live in different countries, our relationship is largely maintained on text. In fact, we’ve only actually hooked up less than five times. There’s long long periods of waiting between the actual sex, and we keep the flame going by intermittent texting. I love the fact that the both of us have a no strings attached deal that I get to take space from whenever I want. We both make excellent use of it and frequently have spells we don’t talk at all, and throughout this, we’ve most definitely been pursuing other people. Even when we do talk or focus attention on each other, we share common interests and have conversations about other things, but it inevitably boils down to the sex real fast. So after having not seen each other for nearly a year, I have travel plans this summer where I’ll be sto...

This is for my brother. He is planning to get married in a few months. This is his current financial condition. He started a business 2 years ago and it’s finally taking shape. Its profitable but he is still putting all money back in business so that it is healthy. The girl does not have a job, and her education is in a field that it’s hard to make a good salary any time soon. Currently she lives with her parents pocket money. And it seems she is not interested to get a job. Once he is married, he will have to move to a new house (he is living with a roommate now) and bring the girl with him. There are expenses for another new person. Living in this city is expensive. And the girl will not be able to handle any of the expense, at the same time it feels like the girl expects him to handle all the expenses himself because he is doing better now with this business. This includes expenses for wedding, honeymoon to a different country, her insurance, new apartment and it’s furnishing, ...

As the title says, my boyfriend and I were seperate for a little over three months. Before this seperation we were in a relationship for three years, but I decided to pack my things and head back to my moms so I can finish up school. Our relationship was rocky and I thought that focusing on school was best for me even though going back to my mom's home was my last option. (Heads up it will be a sort of long story with many small stories I can't go into otherwise, it will be way too long.) Our communication during the seperation was not too complicated even though we both would express how we felt (sad, conflicted, etc) , but we both would go back and forth about working it out. I wasn't sure and he wasn't sure as well. In all honesty, we would only come to each other when we were going through something at the time. For example, he got intoxicated with friends one night and got into a fight which resulted in him in the hospital with stitches on his neck and face. That...

PREFACE: Before I get into it, I just want to say that I know that this is a critical life decision that only I can make. That being said, I would really appreciate input from people who have more life experience and may have been faced with a similar choice in the past. THE DILEMMA: My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and she is the only girl I have ever dated or slept with. Things are good most of the time, but the relationship is far from perfect and would likely continue to have issues forever if we chose to spend the rest of our lives together. However, these issues are things I have been able to accept and deal with over the years, so I really honestly believe we could make it work if needed. As I am getting to the end of my 20's, part of me now worries about never having explored my options. This isn't motivated simply by sex, but more that I rarely meet anyone new and I think dating is a good avenue to put myself in new social situations and grow in...

My wife and I have been together for 6 years, married for 2, and have a one-year-old. Our relationship overall has been healthy. Since we got married, however, I've noticed she's become quicker to get upset with me over things I mostly consider trivial. For example, not squeezing the toothpaste from the top down, forgetting to bug spray the house, and so on. In her defense, she will ask me to do or not do simple things and sometimes I will forget. What upsets her isn't the thing itself but the fact that she has to remind me multiple times, which results in her complaining that I don't listen. That being said, we do have a busy life being working parents and sometimes things just fall through the cracks. While we share parenting duties equally, I handle the majority (~75%) of the housework. After we put our toddler to sleep, I'm the one washing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen and playroom, taking out the trash, etc. I'm happy to do it, but when she complains...

So my BF Joe (not his real name) and I have been dating for two years now. He's awesome, we have a blast together, and once I'm done college we'll probably move in together. But there's a big glaring problem that has been ongoing the entirety of our relationship: I've been faking every single orgasm with him. A bit of backstory to explain my worries: When we first started dating when I was 19, I had never had an orgasm, period. I would get horny and would try to masturbate in vain with my hand or a faucet but nothing ever seemed to work. A few months ago a late-night ad on TV popped up for a Christmas special on sex toys from an online adult store. I went online, found the best-reviewed sex toy for women I could find, and decided if this didn't get me off then nothing would. My first foray into sex toys was extremely successful, and I've been using it on myself weekly since then. I've tried since then to replicate it with just my hand but I'm stil...

Let me start by saying I love my MIL to bits. She is a very sweet woman, but I get the impression that she is always seeking the excitement equivalent to children at Christmas. She puts in 110%, and wants to get wide eyed reactions from us as well. My problem is that I am an introvert, and while I can keep up with this emotionally for a day or so, I am going to be on holiday with her and the family over the next two weeks. The first night has already been very tiring. We were jet lagged, but she wanted to give us grand tours of all the hotels features (and even our private rooms), complete with expectant pauses for us to “ooh” and “ahh” in response. In addition to being tired, I usually go through an emotional low on the first day of being away from my home. My husband [30M] commented today that MIL wants to know if she has offended me and he has asked me to stop being grumpy. We have gone on holiday to celebrate MIL’s birthday and she is bankrolling the whole thing. I really want her...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and I don’t know where to begin to solve our problems. The first problem is that I make $13/per hour and he makes $15.80/per hour, but I pay almost all the bills. I pay rent $700, gci (internet) $175, car insurance $230, grocery $250, etc. I brought this up to him because I’m barely getting by with $121 left each month. He told me that he thought he paid more, so I made a list and he only pays power $85-$105 per month. He said, “Well, I pay for date night most times so I don’t think I should pay you half of bills.” The second problem is our sex life. We used to be sexually active 4-5 days per week, but it’s been 3 months now since we’ve done anything sexual. I’ve pushed and pushed and still nothing. I asked him about this and he said, “I’m not sure, but it’s all me, not you.” The third problem is laziness. I used to work 4 days per week and on my days off, I would clean the house and reorganize. I now work nights 5 days per week...

I (25/F) started dating my ex (27/M) last year in March until November. Total of 8 months. We ended things in November over something stupid but, now were dating again (since last week). ​ He's at Coachella now with a few friends and cousins. I knew he'd be busy and all but I hit him with a text at 7pm to see how he is. It's now, 12am and I haven't heard anything from him all day. Should I be worried or upset?? and if so, how do I go about this. ​ I'm used to hearing from him every hour. Like I said, I know he's busy but, still. Anyways, thank you for reading and responding! ​ TL;DR...guy im dating is at Coachella and I haven't heard from him once yet today. Should I be upset? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:02AM I (25/F) started dating my ex (27/M) last year in March until November. Total of 8 months. We ended things in November over something stupid but, now were dating again (since last week).​He's at Coachella now with a few friends and c...