She said yes!

I [33m] asked my gf [37f] to marry me on our one year anniversary at the same place we had our first date and she said yes! It was the aquarium and it was in front of the shark tank haha. We just booked a venue and have the wedding set for January 2020. She’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met and we are great together. I love her, my son loves her, and my family does too.

Why am I posting this? Positive posts are good! I’m widowed with a 5 year old and she’s never married, no kids. We met in Match and I would have never run into her out in the wild so thanks OLD! She was actually going to delete her account that day but read my message first. We both decided to be exclusive after 2 dates and were both dating multiple people when we met. I’m not a lady killer and OLD mostly sucked so it was an amazing breath of fresh air.

Looking back, some things stuck out to me. We communicated evenly and had great back and forth conversations. In general we communicate well even when we disagree. Both people made it clear that they were interested and the other person was a priority.

In a lot of ways we are opposites. She is super social and has these large group of friends and sees them often. I have a small group of very close friends and we are usually too busy to meet up. She’s a life long sport person and does a lot of social sports. I’m more of a video game nerd and intellectual. The key here is we indulge each other. I joined her volleyball league during the summer and she helps me make D&D characters and totally gets that I can’t talk when I’m playing DOTA.

It wasn’t all flowers and roses the whole time though. Again, communication was the key to victory here. I’m a secure attachment person and she is anxious. I learned to proactively reassure her on things often and began to be able to read when she was stuck in an insecurity loop. On her part, she had to adjust to her role when it came to stuff like coparenting and having to navigate things with my late wife’s family. We both attend counseling and it’s nothing but beneficial.

I still lurk around here because I’m still learning every day about relationships and this is a great place to do that. Best of luck everyone!!

Edit: Thank you to all for the very kind words! I didn’t have my phone on me all day and this blew up in the meantime. My fiancé and I are very touched ❤️

Submitted April 19, 2019 at 11:09AM

I [33m] asked my gf [37f] to marry me on our one year anniversary at the same place we had our first date and she said yes! It was the aquarium and it was in front of the shark tank haha. We just booked a venue and have the wedding set for January 2020. She’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met and we are great together. I love her, my son loves her, and my family does too.Why am I posting this? Positive posts are good! I’m widowed with a 5 year old and she’s never married, no kids. We met in Match and I would have never run into her out in the wild so thanks OLD! She was actually going to delete her account that day but read my message first. We both decided to be exclusive after 2 dates and were both dating multiple people when we met. I’m not a lady killer and OLD mostly sucked so it was an amazing breath of fresh air.Looking back, some things stuck out to me. We communicated evenly and had great back and forth conversations. In general we communicate well even when we disagree. Both people made it clear that they were interested and the other person was a priority.In a lot of ways we are opposites. She is super social and has these large group of friends and sees them often. I have a small group of very close friends and we are usually too busy to meet up. She’s a life long sport person and does a lot of social sports. I’m more of a video game nerd and intellectual. The key here is we indulge each other. I joined her volleyball league during the summer and she helps me make D&D characters and totally gets that I can’t talk when I’m playing DOTA.It wasn’t all flowers and roses the whole time though. Again, communication was the key to victory here. I’m a secure attachment person and she is anxious. I learned to proactively reassure her on things often and began to be able to read when she was stuck in an insecurity loop. On her part, she had to adjust to her role when it came to stuff like coparenting and having to navigate things with my late wife’s family. We both attend counseling and it’s nothing but beneficial.I still lurk around here because I’m still learning every day about relationships and this is a great place to do that. Best of luck everyone!!Edit: Thank you to all for the very kind words! I didn’t have my phone on me all day and this blew up in the meantime. My fiancé and I are very touched ❤️