I'm 24 (F) working out a realtionship with 22 (M) after being seperate for a few months.

As the title says, my boyfriend and I were seperate for a little over three months. Before this seperation we were in a relationship for three years, but I decided to pack my things and head back to my moms so I can finish up school. Our relationship was rocky and I thought that focusing on school was best for me even though going back to my mom's home was my last option. (Heads up it will be a sort of long story with many small stories I can't go into otherwise, it will be way too long.)

Our communication during the seperation was not too complicated even though we both would express how we felt (sad, conflicted, etc) , but we both would go back and forth about working it out. I wasn't sure and he wasn't sure as well. In all honesty, we would only come to each other when we were going through something at the time. For example, he got intoxicated with friends one night and got into a fight which resulted in him in the hospital with stitches on his neck and face. That night he called me at the hospital and I was unable to rush over because our daughter was sick so I called his sister about the situation because I was at my mom's house and our daughter was sick. The next day we decided to work it out and to make the long story short it didn't last.

To go into the background on our relationship, it started out good (we were friends prior to this) until one month into the relationship my son's (five years old at the time) father passed away from a car accident. It was very hard for me because my son's father and I were together for almost 6 years and I had finally moved on from him officially for the first time, so I was single for a year before I started dating again. It wasn't the best relationship because it involved verbal and physical abuse on his side and the reason behind my son's dad and I breaking up was finding out another female was pregnant for him which is another story to get into. Things were just complicated at the time which made the loss much more harder for me. I began drinking after all of that which didn't help my new relationship since I was constantly depressed.

Few months later, I offically just broke the new relationship up and moved back to my mom's again. I ended up getting pregnancy symptoms and found I was indeed pregnant, I wanted to have an abortion and he was totally against it. I blocked him on everything but he would messaged me constantly on his opinion to keep it (email, fake facebook profiles, etc.) and eventually I knew I wasn't able to go thorugh with it so now we have our awesome, smart little girl together.

After we got back together things were awkward, more money wise than anything. I haven't been able to go find work because first of all daycare is expensive and second he doesn't trust me. One of the reasons I quit working is because of the constant assumptions and arguing that it brought into our relationship. I mean I did some small white lies in the past but nothing to major like cheating. Neither one of us has cheated or messed around behind each other's back that I know of. I have been suspicious because of a separation we had that time he went to the hospital for stitches, I was taking care of him and cleaning his room when I found a lipstick beside the bed. He came around to telling me the truth of sleeping with another girl. I cried and of course wanted to leave. but soon calmed down since him and I weren't together at the time. I aprreciated his honesty and moved on. Since then I feel as though he takes advantage of me since he has the income, car and home. I can tell him I need help with my daughter after he gets off work and he will say he's going out with a friend/coworker and what I say doesn't matter because he's still going to go. He goes on his social media behind my back liking other girls pictures which I feel is disrespectful so I confronted him, he said he will stop but I know he still does it and I gave up on asking to stop.

I guess I feel like I lost some say in this relationship and I don't feel this will work, if it doesn't I will be back at my mom's with my kids going to school, with no job. He has a stable job, car in his name and apartment in his name and I have nothing. I just feel like allowed this all to happen so I don't know, I guess I just need advice or to clear my head.

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tl;dr: my boyfriend (22m) and I (24f) were separate for awhile and have been experiencing issues in our relationship. Throwaway because he is on reddit.

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Submitted April 20, 2019 at 06:31AM

As the title says, my boyfriend and I were seperate for a little over three months. Before this seperation we were in a relationship for three years, but I decided to pack my things and head back to my moms so I can finish up school. Our relationship was rocky and I thought that focusing on school was best for me even though going back to my mom's home was my last option. (Heads up it will be a sort of long story with many small stories I can't go into otherwise, it will be way too long.)Our communication during the seperation was not too complicated even though we both would express how we felt (sad, conflicted, etc) , but we both would go back and forth about working it out. I wasn't sure and he wasn't sure as well. In all honesty, we would only come to each other when we were going through something at the time. For example, he got intoxicated with friends one night and got into a fight which resulted in him in the hospital with stitches on his neck and face. That night he called me at the hospital and I was unable to rush over because our daughter was sick so I called his sister about the situation because I was at my mom's house and our daughter was sick. The next day we decided to work it out and to make the long story short it didn't last.To go into the background on our relationship, it started out good (we were friends prior to this) until one month into the relationship my son's (five years old at the time) father passed away from a car accident. It was very hard for me because my son's father and I were together for almost 6 years and I had finally moved on from him officially for the first time, so I was single for a year before I started dating again. It wasn't the best relationship because it involved verbal and physical abuse on his side and the reason behind my son's dad and I breaking up was finding out another female was pregnant for him which is another story to get into. Things were just complicated at the time which made the loss much more harder for me. I began drinking after all of that which didn't help my new relationship since I was constantly depressed.Few months later, I offically just broke the new relationship up and moved back to my mom's again. I ended up getting pregnancy symptoms and found I was indeed pregnant, I wanted to have an abortion and he was totally against it. I blocked him on everything but he would messaged me constantly on his opinion to keep it (email, fake facebook profiles, etc.) and eventually I knew I wasn't able to go thorugh with it so now we have our awesome, smart little girl together.After we got back together things were awkward, more money wise than anything. I haven't been able to go find work because first of all daycare is expensive and second he doesn't trust me. One of the reasons I quit working is because of the constant assumptions and arguing that it brought into our relationship. I mean I did some small white lies in the past but nothing to major like cheating. Neither one of us has cheated or messed around behind each other's back that I know of. I have been suspicious because of a separation we had that time he went to the hospital for stitches, I was taking care of him and cleaning his room when I found a lipstick beside the bed. He came around to telling me the truth of sleeping with another girl. I cried and of course wanted to leave. but soon calmed down since him and I weren't together at the time. I aprreciated his honesty and moved on. Since then I feel as though he takes advantage of me since he has the income, car and home. I can tell him I need help with my daughter after he gets off work and he will say he's going out with a friend/coworker and what I say doesn't matter because he's still going to go. He goes on his social media behind my back liking other girls pictures which I feel is disrespectful so I confronted him, he said he will stop but I know he still does it and I gave up on asking to stop.I guess I feel like I lost some say in this relationship and I don't feel this will work, if it doesn't I will be back at my mom's with my kids going to school, with no job. He has a stable job, car in his name and apartment in his name and I have nothing. I just feel like allowed this all to happen so I don't know, I guess I just need advice or to clear my head.​tl;dr: my boyfriend (22m) and I (24f) were separate for awhile and have been experiencing issues in our relationship. Throwaway because he is on reddit.edit: add words