My [28F] MIL [60F] wants everything to be over the top exciting. Help an introvert?

Let me start by saying I love my MIL to bits. She is a very sweet woman, but I get the impression that she is always seeking the excitement equivalent to children at Christmas. She puts in 110%, and wants to get wide eyed reactions from us as well. My problem is that I am an introvert, and while I can keep up with this emotionally for a day or so, I am going to be on holiday with her and the family over the next two weeks. The first night has already been very tiring. We were jet lagged, but she wanted to give us grand tours of all the hotels features (and even our private rooms), complete with expectant pauses for us to “ooh” and “ahh” in response. In addition to being tired, I usually go through an emotional low on the first day of being away from my home. My husband [30M] commented today that MIL wants to know if she has offended me and he has asked me to stop being grumpy. We have gone on holiday to celebrate MIL’s birthday and she is bankrolling the whole thing. I really want her to have a great holiday, but it just feels like enormous pressure and is making me want to hide. Help?

Tldr: I am an introvert who will be cohabiting with my over-excited MIL on her birthday holiday and I want her to have a good time.



Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:01AM

Let me start by saying I love my MIL to bits. She is a very sweet woman, but I get the impression that she is always seeking the excitement equivalent to children at Christmas. She puts in 110%, and wants to get wide eyed reactions from us as well. My problem is that I am an introvert, and while I can keep up with this emotionally for a day or so, I am going to be on holiday with her and the family over the next two weeks. The first night has already been very tiring. We were jet lagged, but she wanted to give us grand tours of all the hotels features (and even our private rooms), complete with expectant pauses for us to “ooh” and “ahh” in response. In addition to being tired, I usually go through an emotional low on the first day of being away from my home. My husband [30M] commented today that MIL wants to know if she has offended me and he has asked me to stop being grumpy. We have gone on holiday to celebrate MIL’s birthday and she is bankrolling the whole thing. I really want her to have a great holiday, but it just feels like enormous pressure and is making me want to hide. Help?Tldr: I am an introvert who will be cohabiting with my over-excited MIL on her birthday holiday and I want her to have a good time.
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