I [23/F] just found out that I am paying twice as much for rent as my housemate [21/F], and I thought we were splitting costs 50/50.

I moved into a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom home at the beginning of the semester with another college student that I had never met before. She was desperately looking for a roommate because she just ended an engagement, and I was desperately looking for a place to live because the lease at my former residence was ending. She lived here for a year with her former roommate and her fiancee before I moved in.

I just overheard her talking about the rent cost with her friends after they stumbled in after a night of drinking. One of them commented on how nice the house was and asked how much we pay monthly and she said $995. I have been giving her checks/money orders for $600 every month for my portion of the rent, plus whatever the cost of utilities is that month. Needless to say, I am a little shocked as I thought we were splitting the rent evenly.

I am not sure how I should go about this situation, as upon my moving in I never asked her what her portion of the rent would be. We agreed that utilities would be split evenly but that's it. I feel taken advantage of, but am also slightly worried that there is nothing I can do about the situation since I didn't ask these questions before I moved in. I don't know how I should bring this up to her while remaining calm because right now I am pretty livid. I have been going through significant financial struggles recently and have depleted all of my savings within my time of living in this house. If I signed a roommate rental agreement that flat out states what my monthly costs were going to be, is there anything I can even do to change the situation so that I am not being taken advantage of?

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TLDR: My college roommate likely deceived me by leaving out the details of our total rental cost. Is it my own fault for not asking more questions upon signing the rental agreement?



Submitted April 20, 2019 at 05:35AM

I moved into a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom home at the beginning of the semester with another college student that I had never met before. She was desperately looking for a roommate because she just ended an engagement, and I was desperately looking for a place to live because the lease at my former residence was ending. She lived here for a year with her former roommate and her fiancee before I moved in.I just overheard her talking about the rent cost with her friends after they stumbled in after a night of drinking. One of them commented on how nice the house was and asked how much we pay monthly and she said $995. I have been giving her checks/money orders for $600 every month for my portion of the rent, plus whatever the cost of utilities is that month. Needless to say, I am a little shocked as I thought we were splitting the rent evenly.I am not sure how I should go about this situation, as upon my moving in I never asked her what her portion of the rent would be. We agreed that utilities would be split evenly but that's it. I feel taken advantage of, but am also slightly worried that there is nothing I can do about the situation since I didn't ask these questions before I moved in. I don't know how I should bring this up to her while remaining calm because right now I am pretty livid. I have been going through significant financial struggles recently and have depleted all of my savings within my time of living in this house. If I signed a roommate rental agreement that flat out states what my monthly costs were going to be, is there anything I can even do to change the situation so that I am not being taken advantage of?​TLDR: My college roommate likely deceived me by leaving out the details of our total rental cost. Is it my own fault for not asking more questions upon signing the rental agreement?
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