How many failed first date attempts before I go back to the drawing board and think about what’s wrong with me as a person? I’ve tried asking out about 100 women now, and keep in mind this was always after making conversation and establishing some discourse, and gotten no every time. Should I reevaluate myself and what it is about me that might be causing this response? Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:39PM How many failed first date attempts before I go back to the drawing board and think about what’s wrong with me as a person? I’ve tried asking out about 100 women now, and keep in mind this was always after making conversation and establishing some discourse, and gotten no every time. Should I reevaluate myself and what it is about me that might be causing this response?

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Broke up with my boyfriend the weekend before Christmas . I'm not over it. I miss him. We've been doing the friends with benefits thing. Which I guess doesn't help me. I was hoping he'd stay the night with me today but he left to go to a friend's house for New Years. Which I'm pretty sure will have girls. I came to my mom's hoping to get distracted but she's just verbally putting me down. Going home to smoke and be sad and lonely on New Year's Eve. Just home alone with my dog and my 11 year old son. What is life? Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:43PM Broke up with my boyfriend the weekend before Christmas . I'm not over it. I miss him. We've been doing the friends with benefits thing. Which I guess doesn't help me. I was hoping he'd stay the night with me today but he left to go to a friend's house for New Years. Which I'm pretty sure will have girls. I came to my mom's hoping to get distracted but she's just v...

Asking because for all my trying no person has ever been willing to give me a chance and I’m not entirely sure why... Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:53PM Asking because for all my trying no person has ever been willing to give me a chance and I’m not entirely sure why...

I get it, the shit is annoying but let's be real If someone gives a "hey, I don't think we work out" text they're more than likely going to receive responses that either are insulting to them or probably going to get responses trying to convince them of giving the would-be ghostee another chance For those who have liked someone a lot and got ghosted, would you try to convince them otherwise to give you a chance? I know for sure I would've wasted even more time doing so in the past if I were to ever get a "respectful" text telling me why we don't have chemistry It's not a reflection of your worth because someone else doesn't appreciate you. Their minds are made up, move on. Submitted January 01, 2020 at 12:05AM I get it, the shit is annoying but let's be realIf someone gives a "hey, I don't think we work out" text they're more than likely going to receive responses that either are insulting to them or proba...

cleaning up my iphone photo albums today, came across some food photos i sent to a guy (25M) I matched with on an app almost 2 years ago now. Matched and started talking early 2018. I went back through all our conversations because why not, those food photos were bomb, and now I'm wondering if I should reach out to this guy. I'm terrible over text but he messaged me first, and often, and asked great questions, sometimes texted me multiple messages in a row, and always kept the conversation going. He made suggestions of dates like oh we should do this or this sometime, but never explicitly said hey wanna go do something with me this weekend. Despite that, I've never really connected with someone like this over text and we have the exact same sense of humor, interests, everything. BUT. we texted for almost 2 months and never met up so it kind of just ended up in a mutual ghosting or really just fizzled out. At the time, I was transitioning to a new job and I knew it would re...

I (33f) love this man (36m) to the moon and beyond, but something isn't right. Our emotional bond is unbelievable, but we have made out only thrice. We have decided to wait for sex until marriage. We got close twice earlier and I felt butterflies on both occasions. But I didn't feel much today. I took a propranolol medicine 3 hours before our date. Does it mess up our feelings? Is it normal to feel different degrees of attraction in a stable relationship? Submitted January 01, 2020 at 12:07AM I (33f) love this man (36m) to the moon and beyond, but something isn't right. Our emotional bond is unbelievable, but we have made out only thrice. We have decided to wait for sex until marriage. We got close twice earlier and I felt butterflies on both occasions. But I didn't feel much today. I took a propranolol medicine 3 hours before our date. Does it mess up our feelings? Is it normal to feel different degrees of attraction in a stable relationship?

My boyfriend mumbles in his sleep sometimes and it’s usually incoherent nonsense but I decided to talk to him to see if he’d respond. I said “do you love me?” And in the sleepiest CUTEST tone he said “just so much” Y’all when I say I CRIED, I just had to lay there and hold him for a while. I never thought I’d be able to love again after everything I’ve gone through but with him it’s just endless appreciation and validation. He’s my best friend and it’s like everything before was so disingenuous. I’m actually IN LOVE, safely, healthily, and deeply. I’m going to marry this man. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:34PM My boyfriend mumbles in his sleep sometimes and it’s usually incoherent nonsense but I decided to talk to him to see if he’d respond. I said “do you love me?” And in the sleepiest CUTEST tone he said “just so much” Y’all when I say I CRIED, I just had to lay there and hold him for a while. I never thought I’d be able to love again after everything I’ve gone through but...

I wish a happy new year to every lovely member of our community! I hope you all will spend your precious time with your family and your loves. I certainly do spending my new year's eve with the woman who is my true love and my family. 2020 will be ours! Happy New year everyone! Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:36PM I wish a happy new year to every lovely member of our community!I hope you all will spend your precious time with your family and your loves.I certainly do spending my new year's eve with the woman who is my true love and my family.2020 will be ours!Happy New year everyone!

I have been talking with someone that I considered special since she showed me a interest pretty “spicy” as you could say but, after that she just has been distant towards me and that really confuses me so, what should I do? Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:59PM I have been talking with someone that I considered special since she showed me a interest pretty “spicy” as you could say but, after that she just has been distant towards me and that really confuses me so, what should I do?

When my best friend called me up in the midnight last night, told me about her day while she allowed me to listen to her voice and sleep on the phone with her so I could feel safe in my dreams. Because most of the times, I don’t. Every now and then she said does this for me, then leaves me a long voice note in the morning before she leaves for work. She’s literally the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I’m so grateful for our friendship. I’m so blessed to be taking her with me to a different decade. She always makes me a better me. ♥️ Friends like that are so rare. Submitted January 01, 2020 at 12:14AM When my best friend called me up in the midnight last night, told me about her day while she allowed me to listen to her voice and sleep on the phone with her so I could feel safe in my dreams. Because most of the times, I don’t.Every now and then she said does this for me, then leaves me a long voice note in the morning before she leaves for work.She’s literally the b...

It seems I match and date only women that have their sh*t together with a great career and good income, while I'm stuck with my current accounting entry level job. I feel like the women I meet play in a different league. Sometimes I have such a low self-esteem, that I have to cancel a date, or not propose a date at all even if hitting it off on the dating app. I think I would feel much more comfortable dating someone who's on a similar financial level. Submitted December 31, 2019 at 11:50PM It seems I match and date only women that have their sh*t together with a great career and good income, while I'm stuck with my current accounting entry level job. I feel like the women I meet play in a different league. Sometimes I have such a low self-esteem, that I have to cancel a date, or not propose a date at all even if hitting it off on the dating app. I think I would feel much more comfortable dating someone who's on a similar financial level.

Okay so I need some advice, last year I went on 3 dates with this guy and I didn't think he was for me so I ended it. He asked if we could be friends because he doesn't have very many female friends. I was sure okay because he seems like a nice guy (always keeping in the back of my mind, that he most likely would put the moves on me at some point). Anyway, we continued hanging out and everything is normal and fine. He's hot, nice, very smart, loyal, and all these things, but throughout our friendship I could tell that he wasn't always honest with me because he was trying to impress me and feed me bullshit that he thought it's what I wanted to hear. For me, that's a turn off, because it feels like someone's lying to me and trying to manipulate the situation (also how dumb do you think I am). I never called him out on it, but I deinitely noted the manipulation and the sneakiness and the little lies (I think he just thinks he's smartest guy in the room). N...

I'm still stuck in the 2010's... :( January 01, 2020 at 12:11AM

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That’s kinda how I feel too. Something to figure out for myself for sure. January 01, 2020 at 12:04AM

Alright, thank you for the advice! ❤️ January 01, 2020 at 12:03AM

I'm a 19F as well. It's impossible for me to combine the idea of having sex with someone I'm romantically attracted to. Don't know if I truly am an ace but I know I don't want any sexual thing in my life. And for now I don't feel the need to tell anyone about my asexuality. I just feel like it's just a detail in my life people don't necessarily need to know about. December 31, 2019 at 11:59PM

Only you can decide who you are, don't let your friends influence you unless you believe its to better yourself as a person. In my experience, it's best to feel your way through this kind of thing rather than decide how you feel. We got all the time we need for this, no need to rush anything. You're young, don't freak yourself out by thinking you need to fit into any category. Be yourself 💜 December 31, 2019 at 11:51PM

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