It kind of works but not very well, I usually imagine being chased by polar bears in the arctic. November 09, 2021 at 11:40PM

It's different with kids. They're still trying to learn the nuances of interpersonal relationships through observation and comparison. Since the strongest example in their lives should [sic] be their parents, it makes sense that the predominant template would be a heteronormative romantic relationship. Adults are different. In their case, it's closer to voyeurism and may even count as sexual harassment depending on circumstances and actions. November 09, 2021 at 11:40PM

LOL WHO WOULD BE GULLIBLE ENOUGH TO CLICK ON THAT November 09, 2021 at 11:39PM

Yup! When I first joined the military, there were a few people in my shop that would ship me with random other people at our squadron. SUPER weird. And all because I was single and they felt it was their "obligation to fix it". After a few years though, I was just known as "she who shows up to do the job, collect a paycheck, and go TF home alone in peace" lol But yeah, I don't get why people do it to actual people. For example, I'm not a huge fan of One Direction, but I feel bad for some of the members because their friendships with each other were severely altered after preteens would ship them and write fanfiction and such.... November 09, 2021 at 11:39PM

No clue, I’ve never been to one myself. I only know of them from on Reddit November 09, 2021 at 11:38PM

We've been dating for about a year, and most other things in our relationship are good. Except sex. The sex we have is so awful I've literally been questioning if I'm asexual or something. I had seen pictures before our first time, so I knew his penis wasn't the biggest beforehand. I figured it wouldn't be a big deal. I have slept with guys who are on the smaller end in the past, and it was fine. In fact, my former FWB had a penis that was ~4.5 inches and I would consider him to be the best I've ever had. When I saw it in person, I still thought it would be fine. I would say it's 3-4 inches, maybe 4.5 after I give him a lengthy blowjob. He's decently thick, so I figured that would make up for the length. I was wrong. It's so small I can barely feel it inside of me. You might be thinking of the age-old saying, "It's not the size! It's what you do with it!" Well, what am I supposed to do if he has no idea what to with it AND it...

I made a bad decision and had unprotected sex with someone that I have been talking to. It’s day 3 and I have a burning sensation on the outer part of my vagina. I am scared that I contracted something. Please share your advice. Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:53AM I made a bad decision and had unprotected sex with someone that I have been talking to. It’s day 3 and I have a burning sensation on the outer part of my vagina. I am scared that I contracted something. Please share your advice.

The girl I like is 20. I’m 19. I had her over last night and I went down on her and she asked me to stop. And I wanted to make sure she was okay so I asked if everything was alright. She told me it was ok, but that she was in some pain. We kind of cuddled while she told me that she’s never been able to cum with a partner or by herself. I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has any experience with this? I want her to feel safe with me and I also want her to feel good. Is there anything I can do to help her? I wanna make it clear that cumming isn’t everything for me. I just usually take that as a sign that I’m truly doing a good job and they’re not just saying it’s good. Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:54AM The girl I like is 20. I’m 19. I had her over last night and I went down on her and she asked me to stop. And I wanted to make sure she was okay so I asked if everything was alright. She told me it was ok, but that she was in some pain. We kind of cuddled while she told me t...

If you are so into a woman sexually then it slowly declines, what is the reason? My guessing, the excitement. If you’re always available anytime I’m not going to crave as much. Or maybe.. So focused on a task,goal,job that it physically makes you tired.. sex can wait, my dreams can’t. Thoughts ? Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:55AM If you are so into a woman sexually then it slowly declines, what is the reason?My guessing, the excitement. If you’re always available anytime I’m not going to crave as much.Or maybe..So focused on a task,goal,job that it physically makes you tired.. sex can wait, my dreams can’t.Thoughts ?

Missionary is my favorite and we'll spoon sometimes. I'm not really adventurous and I stay with what I like so I want to try positions that give deeper penetration. But I don't like doggy. Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:57AM Missionary is my favorite and we'll spoon sometimes. I'm not really adventurous and I stay with what I like so I want to try positions that give deeper penetration. But I don't like doggy.

Is it too creepy or clingy to tell a girl I dated for three weeks that I am thinking of them? I wanted to send this because she is swamped with work, so I don't wanna text her, but I wanna let her know that I am thinking about her. Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:04AM Is it too creepy or clingy to tell a girl I dated for three weeks that I am thinking of them?I wanted to send this because she is swamped with work, so I don't wanna text her, but I wanna let her know that I am thinking about her.

So for some context, I live in a northern state that leans left but has some pretty conservative areas. I recently changed schools and found this girl who is awesome. She is African American and I am white, and according to my mother that’s a no no. I hate to admit this but just a few years ago my younger self would be disgusted about the idea of me dating an African American girl. But I grew up, my family hasn’t. I remember being taught from a young young age “you can be friends with black people, but you can’t date them” or “you are meant to be with your own kind and God didn’t mean for races to mix”. I talked to my mother about it and she straight up refused to even acknowledge that I liked her. She said I’d never be allowed to bring her home with me. In fact she called my grandfather, and he went on a rant about how the Democrats wants mixing to happened so white people disappear. He said I was falling for a very common trap and then proceeded to call her the n word like 6 times o...

This guy and her date in just 3 days while she was still not ready for a relationship after being in a horrible one with her ex so she told me to take it slow with her. I apologized to her in that moment but she didn't want to take it and also hated the fact that I called her fake, which her ex also said that. Till this day she hasn't even talked to me, she stares but I once heard that I stare at her and she finds it creepy so I stopped staring which she kinda also stopped staring as well, well she still stares but she kinda stopped. I want to be friends with her but she hasn't really made that move to talk with me. So should I apologize and show her that I really did mean it and not just did it to make her stay? Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:08AM This guy and her date in just 3 days while she was still not ready for a relationship after being in a horrible one with her ex so she told me to take it slow with her. I apologized to her in that moment but she didn...

I'm just not attractive, I don't feel like it all my other friends get all the girls and get all the numbers and everything. And I just don't get anything I even tried asking why and the answer I got was "Your just ugly". And now I don't know what to do. Submitted November 10, 2021 at 12:09AM I'm just not attractive, I don't feel like it all my other friends get all the girls and get all the numbers and everything. And I just don't get anything I even tried asking why and the answer I got was "Your just ugly". And now I don't know what to do.

Hello all. I met this girl online while playing valorant about 5 months ago. We hit it off and got along really well. We played and talked almost every day since meeting. I would open up to her a bunch. Showed her pictures, I would turn on my camera while we talk on discord, talked about school and life in general, and much more. However, although she’s very inviting, warm and friendly to me, she never has opened up to me as much. But this wasn’t really an issue for me since things were platonic at the time. Fast forward to about two months after meeting, she admitted that she’s really been enjoying our time together and she has feelings for me. As the title suggests, I’m not one to develop feelings for someone online. All my previous relationships have been in person and this was new for me. But a few days later, I realized that I may feel the same way. We’ve been talking more romantically for about 3 months since, and she’s a great girl. Funny, kind, really good at the game, and ...

My husband and I have a great relationship and found what works for us before we realized we are both ace. Now that we are both on the same page our relationship and emotional intimacy are so much better. We are able to relax and be even more ourselves with each other. Romance does not require intercourse. November 09, 2021 at 11:37PM

Is this a american thing? November 09, 2021 at 11:37PM

going down on women generally just has the taste of skin basically. I'll be honest, I was nervous about it at first, but if it really was bad, would it be so common? I don't think so. November 09, 2021 at 11:32PM

Hey OP glad you brought this up, in the past I've have often wondered if oral sex is a required taste but sexual attraction also playing a big part in wanting to do that or receive. I've never enjoyed oral sex apart from watching it from porn. (I'm a gray aroace aegosexual) I'm indifferent to giving but have had not so good smelling men when I had sexual encounters. Some men didn't smell like anything but LOTS did have a not so good smelling oder. I absolutely don't like recieving. Wowzer, that was just a very unique experience. It did nothing for me. I don't think I would taste pleasent either because I'll admit I don't eat the best foods and I will admit something that is not the best thing to admit but I don't shower regularly. I clean up and tidy up my private parts but I don't wash everyday. But I get you. It's definitely not something I HAVE to do in a relationship. For me platonic, non romantic/sexual relationships would be the...

And what if not every allo wants to be sexualized in the shower in front of strangers? (Or friends, coworkers, team members. Which I feel is worse.) November 09, 2021 at 11:28PM