This isn’t a post about me being down on myself or being critical. It’s more of a realization. So backstory: I’ve been single for 3 years, I’ve gone on dates here and there, and haven’t had anything that lasted more than 3 months. I’m in my second year of college now and haven’t had any luck in finding someone to spend time with. Now, I feel like I’ve figured that since all the dates I’ve been on, most of them have lead to the guy wanting hook ups or a FWB. I’ve had only one person show general interest in dating, but we didn’t vibe and he was too shy for my taste (and I mean painfully shy, I felt like I was forcing conversation with him). All the other dates that ended in conflicting intentions has made me timid and uncomfortable with meeting people and hanging out with them. I mean the only places you can hang out and get to know someone at school is going to get food, a study lounge, maybe a football or basketball game here and there, and most dreadfully: the dorm/apartment. Ge...

I'm a 22 year old male who's been out of dating for many years. I have the confidence and social skills to talk to random women and have them reciprocate back. I tried dating in my college last year, but it seemed that almost nobody wanted to reciprocate this time around. I had welcoming body language, a sense of humor and was very approachable in general. Problem was, it seemed like nobody either knew how to carry a conversation or just weren't interested. I didn't know what it was all about. It would be fine if it was 4-5 people, but it was almost everybody. Did I miss/am missing something? Was my timing bad? I don't want to sound like a stereotypical boomer, but are some people so saturated into dating app culture that they forget traditional methods of dating and freeze up? I can provide more information and stories if necessary. I just hope I can get some insight as to what's going on. I appreciate any kind of input you guys have. Thank you. Submitt...

A common complaint on various subs appears to be around having "bad luck" with Online Dating. Once you dig deeper, these complaints steam from people with poor social skills. People who are unable to make connections in the real world. These people run to online dating and use it as a buffer, or even use it as a safe haven. Then complain about the "bad luck" they're having. If you're having "bad luck" meeting people the "old fashioned way." Running to online dating, will not change your luck. No matter what tool you use (Online Dating is a tool)... it all begins with you... Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:59PM A common complaint on various subs appears to be around having "bad luck" with Online Dating.Once you dig deeper, these complaints steam from people with poor social skills. People who are unable to make connections in the real world. These people run to online dating and use it as a buffer, or even use it as a s...

Ok so I’m dating my best friend of 2 years. He is 18 and I am 23. Last year I had a bf. And we had a fight over where we were in the relationship. He wouldn’t call me his girlfriend. So I stormed out and a week later I slept with someone else. Eventually that bf and I made up. My current bf was my best friend at the time and saw all that happen. He always mentions this Another time my ex sent flowers. And my bf saw that. He flipped. I started to cry and he apologized. Anyways he still brings all of this up Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:15PM Ok so I’m dating my best friend of 2 years. He is 18 and I am 23.Last year I had a bf. And we had a fight over where we were in the relationship. He wouldn’t call me his girlfriend. So I stormed out and a week later I slept with someone else. Eventually that bf and I made up. My current bf was my best friend at the time and saw all that happen.He always mentions thisAnother time my ex sent flowers. And my bf saw that. He flipped. I star...

I (23F) went and grabbed drinks with a guy(28) twice and I thought it went well. Randomly stops responding in the middle of a convo. I texted him again two weeks later and he read the text (has read receipts on). I looked a few days later and it now says delivered. This guy thinks he’s slick turning off his read receipts. I just don’t understand why you ghost after continuing to text after second time hanging out?? Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:18PM I (23F) went and grabbed drinks with a guy(28) twice and I thought it went well. Randomly stops responding in the middle of a convo. I texted him again two weeks later and he read the text (has read receipts on). I looked a few days later and it now says delivered. This guy thinks he’s slick turning off his read receipts. I just don’t understand why you ghost after continuing to text after second time hanging out??

So I (22 y/o M) have this friend (22 y/o F), that I like very much as a person and find her attractive as heck, we text most days, we might not be texting all day but everyday text exchange is usual. We always talk about our dating life and all, she has even seen me kiss one of her friends while we were out one night, she knows about my ex and all I know about her's. The thing is, we are always jokingly talking about dating, cuddling while watching movies, etc. I say jokingly because we have been to the movies once before going out with other friends but that one was truly just a friendly movie. I wouldn't say I'm friendzoned because I see her as a friend as well, despite me finding her attractive (which I think is different). We have asked for nudes as a joke, we compliment each other, etc. It's just really play-around. ​ TL;DR: My female friend and I always joke around, I think it's just fooling around because she tells me about her dates and I tell her about m...

I wish I could have a professional dater with me at all times. I’m awful at it. I overthink everything and I guess I can be too forward. I seem to always want to rush into things. Could someone please give me advice on how to just take a chill pill and go with the flow. Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:23PM I wish I could have a professional dater with me at all times. I’m awful at it. I overthink everything and I guess I can be too forward. I seem to always want to rush into things. Could someone please give me advice on how to just take a chill pill and go with the flow.

So I've been debating on asking out one of my colleagues for a few months now, we work in different departments but when we do see each other around the office the connection is obvious. The flirting is clear and mutual. Her vibe is great and I know we would have a lot of fun together but there are a few reasons why I haven't made the move yet. (Aside from the obvious reasons not to date coworkers) She is about 5 years older than me and is a single mother. I don't see myself having a problem with her having a kid and obviously putting her child first, however I am still in my early 20's and have never dated anyone older or anyone with children. I have dated coworkers in the past and although it didn't work out, there was no real negative outcomes. We just decided to go back to being normal coworkers and there was no drama. I just feel this one is different. I'm hoping some of you guys have experience with a situation like this and could chime in with some ad...

Hi! I (F, 28) recently started dating after never really having done that, and found a guy (M, 28) who seemed great, he loves reading, has a lot of interesting knowledge, is musical etc. The problem here, I think, is me. We have met several times now and I like him, I want to keep seeing him and think it could turn into something great. We’re both a bit odd, we share the same values, we have a lot of peculiar discussions etc. But there are a few issues. One, a part of me I really don’t like is afraid of what my friends and family will think and whether they will find him weird and awkward, think he talks too loudly, that he is a geek. In short, part of me things I am cooler than him and I should have a “cool and outgoing” boyfriend - yes, I know, completely uncool - but I am getting over that by meeting one and one person at a time with him, and I know I will stop caring about it at some point. I think I’ll start to like those quirks. The other two issues are what I am really worri...

Hi, Im 16 years old guy. So recently I was at the party and there was 1 girl that was looking at me every 5 seconds. I thought she might be interested in me so I smiled when she looked at me. I was standing with my friends and she came and stood next to me. She was behaving like I am her boyfriend. I was confused because I had no experience with girls at all and after 10-20 minutes I approached her. I asked her If she has a lighter and she said "i have but I wont give it to you." I felt so disappointed and just wanted to go home. I dont know why but girls dont like me at all. I lost hope and motivation for girls. What should I do? Thanks! Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:28PM Hi, Im 16 years old guy. So recently I was at the party and there was 1 girl that was looking at me every 5 seconds.I thought she might be interested in me so I smiled when she looked at me. I was standing with my friends and she came and stood next to me. She was behaving like I am her boyfrien...

Like in terms of getting dates etc. Or do they just give you a number and flake anyone got experience with this? Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:29PM Like in terms of getting dates etc. Or do they just give you a number and flake anyone got experience with this?

I know this girl from school and I think she’s pretty cool but I don’t have classes with her. Would asking for her number be too blunt? Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:31PM I know this girl from school and I think she’s pretty cool but I don’t have classes with her. Would asking for her number be too blunt?

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Ok, so... I'm (F20) not sure whether I'm being paranoid and should trust this guy, or I'm an oblivious idiot. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks now, and we've both recently come out of relationships. He's mentioned to me about how he's still friends with his ex and talks to her. This initially didn't ring any alarm bells, I'm a pretty laid back girl, he's known her a long time so I didn't really mind. I knew he messaged her quite a lot, but... Then the other morning when he was in the bathroom, his phone rang twice from 'Emma "Baby" Woods ❤️❤️', his ex. Baby. With two heart emojis. That's when the alarm bells were ringing. I do want to trust this guy, he seems genuine and invested in me. He's introduced me to his family, mumbled 'I love you' a couple times during sex (which I think is far too soon, but), constantly offers to go out of his way to do things for me. He just seems like an all-round...

So first time posting so people give me the honest truth. ​ i've been with my fiance 2 years now. everything started great and i proposed 1 year into our relationship. i fucked up and slept with the mother of my child (shes 2) who i hadn't seen in aver a year. since we broke up, feelings emerged and I was weak and fucked up. my X then goes to send a picture of me to my current fiance about us and what happened. SHES PISSED and slaps the shit out of me. at this point i think shes out and that's it. she stays, she asks why i did it and if it meant anything. I tell her the truth and that it was a one time thing and never again (Truthfully it was). this happen in NOV 2018 btw! over the course of the following months she throws shade at me constantly. i take it like a man and i know i need to drag myself out of this hole i made for myself. over the period of 1 year we've been on 4 vacations and lots and lots of gift. we had been out and about and she mention this ...

I'm a 22 year old male who's been out of dating for many years. I have the confidence and social skills to talk to random women and have them reciprocate back. I tried dating in my college last year, but it seemed that almost nobody wanted to reciprocate this time around. I had welcoming body language, a sense of humor and was very approachable in general. Problem was, it seemed like nobody either knew how to carry a conversation or just weren't interested. I didn't know what it was all about. It would be fine if it was 4-5 people, but it was almost everybody. Did I miss/am missing something? Was my timing bad? I don't want to sound like a stereotypical boomer, but are some people so saturated into dating app culture that they forget traditional methods of dating and freeze up? I can provide more information and stories if necessary. I just hope I can get some insight as to what's going on. I appreciate any kind of input you guys have. Thank you. Submitt...

So I’ve been ‘seeing’ this guy for about a month. We’ve both been busy recently but we text almost constantly. I (21F) have been pretty happy with how things are going. But yesterday he (23M) started saying a lot about how he was very hurt about girls who had hurt him in the past and how he can’t be bothered to try with girls anymore (he had just come back from a festival and was feeling low). I was sympathetic towards him but saw it as a sign to move on, but now he’s still talking to me as usual? I like him, but I’m not willing to play games with anyone. Idk what to do. Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:49PM So I’ve been ‘seeing’ this guy for about a month. We’ve both been busy recently but we text almost constantly. I (21F) have been pretty happy with how things are going. But yesterday he (23M) started saying a lot about how he was very hurt about girls who had hurt him in the past and how he can’t be bothered to try with girls anymore (he had just come back from a festival and...

I don't know what to text. I have no problems texting my friends, im actually pretty good at texting. I've played video games before so I know how to go back on forth in chat. But I don't know how to do it with a girl that I'm trying to connect with. ​ I asked one of the girls I ghosted if she was still interested and she said as long as I don't ghost again. We went out for 3-4 weeks then 6 months off (before I ghosted her previously). After getting that response, I said 100%. She called me sweet, I said thanks and that she's too nice. What should be next? Do I message her more? Message her more today or tomorrow? What do I even ask about? I feel like before we even start talking, there is nothing to talk about and I should back out right now. I really did want to talk to her, now after getting the response, I still want to but idk what. Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:53PM I don't know what to text. I have no problems texting my friends, im actuall...

Looking for some things you should be doing, things to look out for, any things to keep in mind that make a quality relationship, serious or not. The more the better!! Submitted August 27, 2019 at 11:54PM Looking for some things you should be doing, things to look out for, any things to keep in mind that make a quality relationship, serious or not. The more the better!!

To start off, we're good friends. We started talking a month ago and I was forced to confess to him 2 weeks into talking. I was added into a discord server with some friends which is how I was able to talk to my crush. We have a similar sense of humor and some things in common. He's the very awkward type too. He has never received a confession or dated in his life. He is extremely smart and very logical and focuses in school. We get along fairly well and we tease each other here and there. When I confessed, I told him after not to feel pressured towards my feelings. He said "nah, it's alright. I just don't really know how to answer." I can't really tell if this was him rejecting me or not. But I am still waiting for his answer lol. I know it'll take some time and that's honestly okay with me. I want to get to know him before pursuing anything yet. I complimented his voice once and he said my voice was very nice. We are also married in the discord ...

I recently met a new girl in school and we started hanging out a lot during school and even texting each other a few times a night. I thought I was reading all the right signals that she was into me and everyone I talked to said the same that she was and I should go for it. Today she even mentioned wanting to go to the movies but didn’t have anyone to go with, but when I brought it up later today she said she couldn’t go but didn’t give any real reason why. Stuff like this happens to me all the time where it seems like I have the green light but end up getting rejected. I feel like I’m a fairly good looking guy and all my friends seem to have girls just thrown at them all the time, but I’ve never even so much as kissed a girl. The worst part is I feel like I may have botched up our friendship with this move. Submitted August 28, 2019 at 12:07AM I recently met a new girl in school and we started hanging out a lot during school and even texting each other a few times a night. I ...

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Yeah, sometimes I’m like guys can we stop talking about sex? And then they’re like “why do you not like sex” and in the back of my head I’m like omg yes August 28, 2019 at 12:00AM