I think imma stick with genitals are disgusting. But given as I don't really talk about that I can agree to a truce of silence July 07, 2021 at 11:56PM

So asexual is both a specific group and the broad spectrum term. So as a grey-ace or aego you can definitely use the term. Sort of how you could describe yourself as French or European and both would be accurate. One just gives more context about you specifically. If you feel like using the broad term when explaining it to someone so you don't have to get into the nuance of identity that is perfectly fine. I personally use Agender instead of Cassgender so I don't have to get into the differences with people. July 07, 2021 at 11:56PM

Sorry but I only see a real problem with "people who have sex are disgusting" because it implies sex is wrong. It very much isn't...but I've had allo friends who also say sex is gross and genitals are ugly. Not to mention thinking genitals are ugly has nothing to do with being ok with nudity or not; July 07, 2021 at 11:55PM

It is understandable that you feel anxious when you are put on the spot, or if you struggle with intrusive thoughts. If you feel you are panicking, you could try to practice using grounding exersizes ( https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/grounding-techniques.pdf has some examples). I found the 5-4-3-2-1 technique helpful, personally. I know that it can feel like queer people have to constantly be vigilant about their own identities, but there's nothing wrong with continuing to explore your own identity. It's not a bad thing if you enjoyed the kiss, it doesn't make you a worse asexual. It wouldn't even be a bad thing if you someday discovered that you experience attraction-- learning more about yourself is not a bad thing. It sounds like your friend is very important and close to you, and he might be a valuable source of support. Maybe try talking with him about how the kiss made you feel, if you feel comfortable with that. There's also nothing wrong with ask...

Thanks 👍 July 07, 2021 at 11:54PM

Or you’re never hungry for pasta. For some, they’re never hungry for it and it grosses them out. For others, they’re never hungry for it but their date really likes Italian and they decide it’s worthwhile. For others, they’re never hungry for most pasta until that one hits their nose and they’re starting to get the rumblies. The rumblies that only hands that pasta can satisfy. July 07, 2021 at 11:54PM

Especially in anime, hence why I don't watch much of it any more and im a sex positive ace. But one of my most recent animes I've liked (Overlord) has such a good concept and would easily get a 10/10 if it wasn't for the sexualization of every female character every episode. Like it just gets so mundane. July 07, 2021 at 11:49PM

Unfortunately there's no easy kit to buy. I just bought the tiny glass bottles online, and then got the three colours of kinetic sand (just mix the black and white to get the grey) at my local toyshop. July 07, 2021 at 11:45PM

All I've known is that ace of spades was originally aroace, and has broadened in meaning since then. The direction doesn't really matter, though I usually see it point side up July 07, 2021 at 11:44PM

vlogbrothers- https://youtu.be/qA2tUwrvP2g July 07, 2021 at 11:42PM

vlogbrothers- https://youtu.be/qA2tUwrvP2g July 07, 2021 at 11:42PM

Well, Asexuality is the lack of SEXUAL ATTRACTION or feeling little sexual attraction, not disliking sex. Basically, another analysis of it can be that, hey, maybe you like pasta! Maybe it doesn’t look appetizing to you, or you’re just indifferent to it’s appearance. Just because you don’t think it’s appearance looks delicious doesn’t mean you think it tastes horrible! Maybe you absolutely ADORE the flavour of pasta! :) In this metaphor, the pasta represents sex or sexual attraction, and it’s appearance represents how sex feels essentially! July 07, 2021 at 11:41PM

There's nothing wrong with just using asexual as your main label instead of a microlabel. It will not harm anyone, and if you find that useful, go ahead. Especially if you're ever in a situation where you're talking to someone who is not well informed about queer issues-- where something that's easy to explain might become much more useful than the most precise label for your sexuality. Also yes, you not experiencing sexual attraction does make you a strict asexual. July 07, 2021 at 11:41PM

Try r/antisex , I find this sub way too "sex positive" for actual aces. July 07, 2021 at 11:38PM

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r/antisex is a safe space for you. I'm so happy it exists. July 07, 2021 at 11:37PM

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Hey! What do you buy to make something like this? Is there a kit for it? July 07, 2021 at 11:31PM

All the kittens! Ivy isn't as young as she used to be, but she is still our kitten! Birb watching. https://imgur.com/gallery/A0XxIyb July 07, 2021 at 11:25PM

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Exactly. Sex-negative and sex-repulsed are two different things. You can be sex-repulsed and still sex-positive (freedom of expression and all that jazz, y’know?) July 07, 2021 at 11:16PM

Thank you :D July 07, 2021 at 11:12PM