Hi r/dating , This question's been on my mind for a little awhile as I've been reflecting on my aloneness and lack of experience in this arena of life. I've noticed that some people date for (what seems to me) to be a prolonged period of time before getting engaged (say 5+ years) and I was curious what might account for that. I understand that it takes time to get to know each other. You may be young and/or your life is rapidly evolving, and certainly there may be levels of escalation in a relationship as you move from courtship to potentially living together. But I always assumed (perhaps very naively) that after a few years, you know the person fairly well. At that point, either you want to commit permanently or you don't. Why might a relationship take many years for a couple to agree to marry? Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:18AM Hi r/dating,This question's been on my mind for a little awhile as I've been reflecting on my aloneness and lack of exper...

I (22F) just got out of a 5-week, casual relationship. I wasn’t the one who ended it and the guy (25M) said it was because he was dealing with some personal issues and was gonna be busier in the upcoming weeks. Right off the bat, he told me he wasn’t looking for anything serious and I agreed because I’m going to be moving in about 2 months. The lines began to blur, we went on actual dates, cuddled for 3-4 hours, talked about our toxic past relationships, and he even talked about doing outdoor activities when the weather gets warmer. I was being treated like a girlfriend, therefore I caught feelings. All of the sudden things changed about a week ago, it was like a flip had switched, I could tell he was no longer into it. I ended up asking him if it was something I had done, but he replied no, that I was still great, he was just dealing with personal stuff, blah blah blah. Why am I so heartbroken and why do I get attached to any man who gives me the time of day? Submitted March 23, ...

I mean you obviously spend more time with your lover than close friends, but that doesn't mean you would spend more time with your lover, unless he/she wants to. The only reason you share stuff and live together is because you have such an emotional bond, understanding, trust and respect for each other, your differences, your similarities, your hardships, whatever you see in them....and so on, it can be anything basically. Love develops over time, you could love anyone who has a talent that makes them cool and knows how to manage their weaknesses. That's all one needs to posess, right? (Plus chemistry, but I rarely have that, so I personally don't care. We have imaginations for a reason.) Then if the relationship has gone stale, you don't need an other person, you need to invest in your existing relationship to bring the excitement back. So why are they different from your close friends? Do they have to be? Different? I mean you clearly don't want to bounce ar...

Few days ago it was my bday and honestly the times we are going through, I didn't expect much to happen. The morning of my bday when I woke up to my surprise my crush texted me Happy bday. I was super happy to see the text and it made my day really great. A bit back story is that since this year we both have been hot/cold at times. Also now she starts some text convos with me and i feel great talking to her. Do you think i should take it serious and continue talking to her? Is she interested? Submitted March 22, 2020 at 11:42PM Few days ago it was my bday and honestly the times we are going through, I didn't expect much to happen. The morning of my bday when I woke up to my surprise my crush texted me Happy bday. I was super happy to see the text and it made my day really great. A bit back story is that since this year we both have been hot/cold at times. Also now she starts some text convos with me and i feel great talking to her. Do you think i should take it serious a...

I'm starting to feel a bit insecure because I don't have much relationship experience, and my entire last relationship was based on illusion and naivety from the both of us. Does my naivety, inexperience and immaturity (childlike voice/gestures) make me less attractive? Submitted March 22, 2020 at 11:46PM I'm starting to feel a bit insecure because I don't have much relationship experience, and my entire last relationship was based on illusion and naivety from the both of us. Does my naivety, inexperience and immaturity (childlike voice/gestures) make me less attractive?

I see it 100 times a day people on this subreddit complaining, blaming, or even believing the cause of the break down of the relationship is due to what’s occurring. Guys it’s not.... break out the old school romance, and utilize some new age technology. Here are some examples Video chatting- this is a perfect way to see one another without being in person. To simulate as if you guys are eating dinner together, prop the person up on some books and eat while they are on video chat. Have small talk, looking up 21 questions, play games, etc. Also begin movies together turn on movies at the same time. This will also simulate in face dates or hanging out Text the person- when you like, just ask how they are doing, how’s is their family, and how are they feeling Call the person- pick up the phone and call Create a google doc Or shareable notes in phone with things you guys want to do. Write digital letters to the person Single- whispers there is something called dating ap...

Hi, I'm just wondering, when do you ask the girl you're seeing if it's an exclusive relationship/going towards being a couple ? I haven't dated anyone for the past 7 years because I was in a relationship and I'm sure at 25 it's different than when I was 17. Thanks ! Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:06AM Hi,I'm just wondering, when do you ask the girl you're seeing if it's an exclusive relationship/going towards being a couple ? I haven't dated anyone for the past 7 years because I was in a relationship and I'm sure at 25 it's different than when I was 17.Thanks !

Sorry in advance for the post, this probably trivial af but I don’t really have anybody else I can go to for advice on this. I recently ended things with my baby daddy (17m), with whom I had a daughter over six months ago now. It was an incredibly manipulative relationship, and became physically abusive at the end. I am wanting to get tf over him ASAP, and try and get with someone new, not something serious though. But is it too soon? Do I go and spread my wings? Has anybody got any tips for being more confident in myself about doing this? Thanks in advance guys ❤️ Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:06AM Sorry in advance for the post, this probably trivial af but I don’t really have anybody else I can go to for advice on this.I recently ended things with my baby daddy (17m), with whom I had a daughter over six months ago now. It was an incredibly manipulative relationship, and became physically abusive at the end. I am wanting to get tf over him ASAP, and try and get with someone ...

I’m on tinder and matching with some cute girls but god damn I constantly have to carry the conversation. And eventually I run out of stuff but this whole quarantine thing is fucking me over cuz we can’t meet up anywhere. But it’s seems most girls never wanna ask about me. I have to ask about them constantly. Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:11AM I’m on tinder and matching with some cute girls but god damn I constantly have to carry the conversation. And eventually I run out of stuff but this whole quarantine thing is fucking me over cuz we can’t meet up anywhere. But it’s seems most girls never wanna ask about me. I have to ask about them constantly.

A few months in of dating and hanging out, I brought up the conversation of where we should take things and he said he wasn’t ready to get into a relationship. I told him I wanted it to lead to a relationship. I felt like waiting around until he was ready might not be the best idea so I moved on. He keeps on texting me though. We haven’t seen each other in almost a month. He’ll check in on me to see how I’m doing every now and then and he even asked me recently to go out some time. What should I do? Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:11AM A few months in of dating and hanging out, I brought up the conversation of where we should take things and he said he wasn’t ready to get into a relationship. I told him I wanted it to lead to a relationship. I felt like waiting around until he was ready might not be the best idea so I moved on. He keeps on texting me though. We haven’t seen each other in almost a month. He’ll check in on me to see how I’m doing every now and then and he even aske...

So I met a girl from Bumble and we've been talking for about 2 weeks now. We chatted everyday from when she wakes up until she went to sleep. At first first, she said she isn't interested in getting into a relationship. I asked on her a date and she said yes but sadly it was canceled because of the lockdown. I told her my intentions that I want to get into a relationship, she also told me that she is talking to other guys but also said that she always replies to me first. I'm starting to like and I asked so many personal questions about her. After I told her my intention, her reply is that 'let's talk things slow so that we don't break each others hearts'. I wonder what does that mean? Do I have a chance on her? I have a tendency to fuck things up. How do I not fuck this up? Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:13AM So I met a girl from Bumble and we've been talking for about 2 weeks now. We chatted everyday from when she wakes up until she went to slee...

I was in a four month relationship and then we broke up over text...the next day....tbh less than 12 hours..my ex's best friend is now my bf....is that okay?... Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:15AM I was in a four month relationship and then we broke up over text...the next day....tbh less than 12 hours..my ex's best friend is now my bf....is that okay?...

I met him at school. He was the only person who would say hi to me in the hallways. We started hanging out platonically summer of 2018, he had a girlfriend and ghosted me after I slept over once. I think that was when he realized what we could’ve been. A few months later, he came back. They had “broken up”. So we fool around for a couple weeks, then he ghosts me again. It’s her birthday and she’s on his story. He said “fuck off she’s my best friend.” I kept trying to get him back, which obviously didn’t work and just hurt me more. Last time we spoke was thanksgiving of 2018 and it ended with him blocking me. About a month later I end up in a mental hospital for two weeks. After that, I had my time in two more mental hospitals. When I was back at school, I’d go to little parties or hangouts and every time I knew he’d be there I would throw up multiple times. I struggle with a lot of anxiety but never have I vomited from it, with the exception of a few times from him. If anyone’s actual...

After years of people I fall in love with not feeling the same and especially after finding the one person I love more then anything saying the same thing then seeing him get together with my best friend making me have to watch form the sideline just to keep my freindships with my only friends. So I give up, I will make no more effort, I won’t ever admit my feelings again, and even if sombody says they love me (wich is unlikely that anyone ever will) I would think they are joking and even if they aren’t I’d be causes, I’ve open myself up and been burnt to many times. I’m just done, I’m tired of the pain. Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:10AM After years of people I fall in love with not feeling the same and especially after finding the one person I love more then anything saying the same thing then seeing him get together with my best friend making me have to watch form the sideline just to keep my freindships with my only friends.So I give up, I will make no more effort, I won’...

I never heard that bit about the doctor. Last time I went to the doctor I filled out a form that asked if I'm sexually active, I put no, and no one said anything about it. March 23, 2020 at 12:17AM

Do you have a qr code for it? March 23, 2020 at 12:12AM

Awesome! March 23, 2020 at 12:11AM

Side note, I’m terrified of ever being pregnant (low self-esteem over body image and it sounds terribly painful), and I scared of kids deep down (call me selfish, but I just want to focus on myself and kids sound partially like a nightmare), ​ I don’t even know if I’m ever going to get married or even be in a relationship because I’m so cynical in general. Relatable. And fears of pregnancy taking a toll on your body. It feels like in hetero relationships women always give too much as time goes by and are ultimately dependent on the guy's good will to not leave them when they aren't young or pretty anymore. Why bother? March 23, 2020 at 12:10AM

IDK please tell me. March 23, 2020 at 12:05AM

Once you’ve built the museum, nooks cranny, and the three villager homes. March 22, 2020 at 11:54PM

I personally wouldn’t remarry after divorce, and THAT is for religious reasons. March 22, 2020 at 11:53PM

What do you have to do to get it to turn into a building?? March 22, 2020 at 11:53PM

2 years ago I (F36) fell deeply in love with my now husband (M38). He was everything I dreamed of. He told me everything I wanted to hear. How much he loved me, how much he wanted to start a family with me. It was me and him against the world. We had so much fun that first year and we decided to get married. I was kind of hesitant because of his drug use, his anger issues, he would beat me up and then gaslight me and make it look like everything was my fault. But I married him anyway against my own families advice. Little did I know that the whole time he was cheating on me with another man. We got into an small argument in January and he left. And ghosted me for three months. I finally found him and he would only communicate through Reddit. So I don’t even know if it’s him that I am talking to. He knows some of the things that only he would know but to this day I have not spoken to him directly. There are many, many, many other women out there who describe the same person and the sam...