My marriage was a sham

2 years ago I (F36) fell deeply in love with my now husband (M38). He was everything I dreamed of. He told me everything I wanted to hear. How much he loved me, how much he wanted to start a family with me. It was me and him against the world. We had so much fun that first year and we decided to get married. I was kind of hesitant because of his drug use, his anger issues, he would beat me up and then gaslight me and make it look like everything was my fault. But I married him anyway against my own families advice. Little did I know that the whole time he was cheating on me with another man. We got into an small argument in January and he left. And ghosted me for three months. I finally found him and he would only communicate through Reddit. So I don’t even know if it’s him that I am talking to. He knows some of the things that only he would know but to this day I have not spoken to him directly. There are many, many, many other women out there who describe the same person and the same things as my ex. I’m not 100% sure if we are speaking about the same man. But they need to know that my husband is not and will not EVER commit to a woman! He has a boyfriend that he keeps running back to. That is why he can’t have sex with you! He isn’t turned on by a woman! And all these women need to get it through their head to stay as far away from him as possible. I am not afraid to talk to them if they ever needed to. But for now, I cannot and will not speak to him unless he calls me on the phone. I’ve told him time and time again all he needs to do is call me. But he uses that as an excuse for me breaking up with him. As for me, right now, We vowed that we will never get divorced. And since he couldn’t stay true to his vows with me, this is the one and only vow I will keep. I will refuse to divorce him. Because he wanted this marriage and that is what he is getting. He goes by a few names if he gives you a name at all. He likes to stay anonymous but if you want to see my Facebook it is public Yolanda S



Submitted March 23, 2020 at 12:04AM

2 years ago I (F36) fell deeply in love with my now husband (M38). He was everything I dreamed of. He told me everything I wanted to hear. How much he loved me, how much he wanted to start a family with me. It was me and him against the world. We had so much fun that first year and we decided to get married. I was kind of hesitant because of his drug use, his anger issues, he would beat me up and then gaslight me and make it look like everything was my fault. But I married him anyway against my own families advice. Little did I know that the whole time he was cheating on me with another man. We got into an small argument in January and he left. And ghosted me for three months. I finally found him and he would only communicate through Reddit. So I don’t even know if it’s him that I am talking to. He knows some of the things that only he would know but to this day I have not spoken to him directly. There are many, many, many other women out there who describe the same person and the same things as my ex. I’m not 100% sure if we are speaking about the same man. But they need to know that my husband is not and will not EVER commit to a woman! He has a boyfriend that he keeps running back to. That is why he can’t have sex with you! He isn’t turned on by a woman! And all these women need to get it through their head to stay as far away from him as possible. I am not afraid to talk to them if they ever needed to. But for now, I cannot and will not speak to him unless he calls me on the phone. I’ve told him time and time again all he needs to do is call me. But he uses that as an excuse for me breaking up with him. As for me, right now, We vowed that we will never get divorced. And since he couldn’t stay true to his vows with me, this is the one and only vow I will keep. I will refuse to divorce him. Because he wanted this marriage and that is what he is getting. He goes by a few names if he gives you a name at all. He likes to stay anonymous but if you want to see my Facebook it is public Yolanda S
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