I highly recommend reading the FAQs, they're really helpful for all the common questions people have about asexuality August 03, 2021 at 11:58PM

OK. August 03, 2021 at 11:56PM

Really? That's amazing! I've been really struggling lately - not gonna dump my emotions on ya, but it often feels like I don't belong in ace spaces and that I should just lie and pretend I'm allo. But if this book mentions aces like me, I'm gonna give it a read. It might help me find peace. Thanks 💜 August 03, 2021 at 11:53PM

It mentions pretty much every flavor of ace you can imagine and gives everyone quite a careful, sympathetic view August 03, 2021 at 11:48PM

I read it a near the start of the of the pandemic so I don’t fully remember, but think the author is favourable. August 03, 2021 at 11:45PM

Is there a third option? August 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

Would you look at that, you replied just as I was finishing a cookies n cream milkshake. August 03, 2021 at 11:44PM

I really thought the last word was going to be milkshake. Now I want cake and a shake. August 03, 2021 at 11:43PM

This is a toxic comment section August 03, 2021 at 11:42PM

Sometimes My spouse is ace, and I am allo. It use to bother them, when I would make a random joke about sex. Now half of the sex related jokes come from them. August 03, 2021 at 11:42PM

Ace_bat_king anyone else over 18 but around like 18-25 can add me too as long as you’re not going to be weird August 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

I wanna see a Venn diagram of people ace people and people with IBS August 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

I know a lot of allos and non of them ever talk about sex. Maybe it's just bad luck for you August 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

Honestly, this is different for everyone. Allos have their own spectrum in a way. I, for example, can't get going without an emotional connection. Their personality absolutely is a driving factor. Not to say I don't have shallow tendencies too. It definitely requires some level of physical attraction to be there too. I struggle with romance novels. I love romance, but when I don't like one of the characters personality, their tension makes me angry and disgusted rather than interested. Others? Maybe some can get going on looks alone. Some looks don't matter at all. Maybe a voice. A talent. I have a friend who only gets it up when his SOs talk about topics he is particularly fascinated by. 👀 Needs his brain juices flowing to get the rest going 😂 August 03, 2021 at 11:39PM

I personally don't get wet dreams. However, my aroace friend does. They usually see them as nightmares (jokingly) as they are sex repulsed. August 03, 2021 at 11:35PM

Yeah that’s more of a allo thing cause even sex favorable aces wouldn’t need/want/expect sex but don’t mind to do it and will like it. I’m pretty sure they lied to op so they could get close have a chance with them which is pretty scummy and super disrespectful to their boundaries. August 03, 2021 at 11:35PM

That sounds extremely offensive August 03, 2021 at 11:34PM

They have sex August 03, 2021 at 11:34PM

You're very right, context alone isn't warning enough. Edited the post. August 03, 2021 at 11:30PM

ooooh yesss August 03, 2021 at 11:26PM

Maybe?? Ive never really shown interest in dating and all that even though everyone around me does, so even if they don't think I'm queer or anything they def think I'm weird. August 03, 2021 at 11:23PM

I feel this way sometimes since, while I’m still learning about myself (I feel like to never stops), I don’t really care about sex. However, I also have to remember that MANY couples throughout time didn’t have sex with each other or only do it to have kids or some other reason. Sex is important to a lot of people…but as this sub shows it’s also not very important to many people as well. August 03, 2021 at 11:22PM

N'aw, it's really just because straight is the only one I've always know for sure I am not. And the idea of thinking of myself as having such a radically different life experience -- being attracted to masculine traits and *not* feminine traits -- is like . . . what? how would that work? what is there even to like? where would I be now? how would I become 'the guy' of the group so fast if I was straight? etc. etc. It's so strange and alien to me, so much more so than anything else I've thought about while reflecting about orientations, that the reaction is strong accordingly. I have heard of gynesexual! I resonate with it a lot more than either bi- or homo- alone but it's so unknown that I don't tend to think about it as much. It also feels somehow weird to specify gyneaesthetic even though it's absolutely correct for me. I find feminine traits attractive on everyone, and what sex their body happens to be feels irrelevant (outside of how a few