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Let me say this; you are not the first to mistake a thong for something else. I mistook my aunt’s thong as a strange bracelet, and went to show her and my other relatives it and she freaked out in embarrassment September 07, 2020 at 11:47PM

I'm single. No. No I have not, in my 20 years, been with someone who knows how to communicate with me what's going on in my head. September 07, 2020 at 11:47PM

Aphobes man. It's ridiculous. They're wrong and we're awesome and awesomeness cannot be contained! September 07, 2020 at 11:47PM

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Thanks, I needed this talk. :) September 07, 2020 at 11:45PM

I love this one! I'm always like lmao do it coward. September 07, 2020 at 11:42PM

if it is like group texts you are talking about you should ask if they can have two different group chats one that can be as erotic as they want and one a bit more safe for work for you and general talking September 07, 2020 at 11:41PM

yay! I say adopt the label and if at some point it just doesn't work for you, then reassess -- but honestly all those things sound very aro-ace to me! The aesthetic attraction, the non-romantic/non-sexual admiration (Zoe Washburnnnnnnnnnnnnn) -- plus that fuzzy feeling you got reading the wiki is a big indicator that you're relating to something! Welcome to the a-spec, brother! : )) September 07, 2020 at 11:40PM

Same Larry, same. September 07, 2020 at 11:38PM

I mean, “Dog” is the opposite of “God” September 07, 2020 at 11:36PM

Just like looking at a beautiful painting, it can make you feel things, but you don't have the urge to date the painting or to have sex with it (I hope lol) I like women with red hair and I used to see a few over the years during my commute on the bus. I never had the inclination or drive to have sex with them or speak honeyed words to them. I did like to sneak glances at them until I got off at my stop. Is that rude? Now that I type it out it sounds rather stalker-y. D: I do have sort of a thing for fictional pretty ladies with guns and an independent attitude (who doesn't like Aeryn Sun or Zoe Washburne?), but never a sex or date thing. More of an admiration thing? (I'm a guy btw) I suppose it correlates to me rolling more female than male characters in RPG games. try seeing yourself as aro-ace to check if it gives you any sense of euphoria or peace. Reading the wiki and thinking I might've found whatever it is that I am did raise my heartrate and gave me a f

I’m currently desperately working on getting my shop up and running but things are dragging on insanely slowly 😅 But I will certainly let you know! I’m hoping to do a few pride things at some point too but I’m still closeted so who knows if I’ll ever get it together. September 07, 2020 at 11:34PM

I'm a, well, not conventionally attractive ace. I've had gray-romantic connections with other folks before, but I've always been curious at if I'd ever succeed in getting in a relationship involving sex if I had ever made any efforts to. September 07, 2020 at 11:34PM

Yeah not like being a biromantic asexual man already makes me go against typical society as much as I could. September 07, 2020 at 11:34PM

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I met a guy through OLD. Things were going well enough we agreed spur of the moment I should come up and see him (he lives 30 minutes away, nothing crazy) so I get out of work hop in my car and I’m there by 7:30pm. We talked till 11pm. I had to head back home since I worked today. There were plenty of chances to sneak away and do the dirty. But since I’m on my monthly I decided it wasn’t a good idea, and we planned to see eachother this coming weekend for an over night stay anyways. Well suddenly today he got pissed. Because I chose not to put out based solely on the fact I was on my period. Like why is it such a big deal he kept saying. I kept saying because if this is going to be something more I don’t want to look back at our first time and remember feeling embarrassed and worried because I was bleeding. He just could not wrap his mind around it. Needless to say I dodged a damn bullet. I guess this is sort of and aita moment? Was I wrong to want to wait? If I was by all means pleas

38f and this is a first for me; but after being single for over a year (a few short term things that went nowhere) and mostly giving up on dating (never had luck with OLD and COVID making it hard to meet people irl) - I feel like for once I don’t actually want to be with anyone long term/for the rest of my life anymore. Am I jaded? or is this just that self love thing finally coming to fruition? Anyone else feel like this? Submitted September 07, 2020 at 11:22PM 38f and this is a first for me; but after being single for over a year (a few short term things that went nowhere) and mostly giving up on dating (never had luck with OLD and COVID making it hard to meet people irl) - I feel like for once I don’t actually want to be with anyone long term/for the rest of my life anymore.Am I jaded? or is this just that self love thing finally coming to fruition? Anyone else feel like this?

I've (F,38) been dating someone (M,39) for 7 mo (3-4 times a week) and it's been a wonderful relationship (for me). We are both in late 30s with a history of ~2 long term relationships each. I valued and appreciated him and believe was able to convey that well. He was very kind, thoughtful and seemed genuinely happy with me as well. What started to bother me is lack of conversation about the intent of the relationships and some of the common considerations -e.g. telling parents about it (his parents live overseas but he was very close to them, yet i understood that they didn't know of me). As I recognized this increasing concern, i mentioned that i, myself am seeking someone with long-term potential and i need to know if we have alignment in terms of what we're seeking / and that it's important for me to know that someone i am dating sees a future with me and is stable / clear with that they generally want out of life. He mentioned that he is enjoying the relati

I met a guy online and we started chatting occasionally. After some time I suggested to go out, we went to a restaurant with a band. Had a good time and left with a hug. Was texting back and forth last week and he suggested going on l it this weekend. After some time, didn't hear from him so I suggested going to this beach bar. He didn't make a committal comment. I went with friends then when I got home I made the mistake of texting him and asking him why he didn't come out. I mentioned that I thought we were on the same page, I'd like to get to know him better and regrettably texted that he should let me know if he's not interested. I pushed. I pushed and pushed and apologized. Texted him this morning that I'm sorry I fucked up and didn't mean to pressure him and I'll respect his decision if he doesn't want to contact me anymore. I really let my anxiety get to me. In hindsight, I should have just stayed calm and kept it non committal. We had just m

So I've started hanging out with the friend of a friend, and - I think - he's into me at least sexually (he constantly talks to me about sex and has mentioned how important sex is to him multiple times and is always eager to come over and seeks out physical contact). BUT I always keep my guard up around him and keep my distance, because once I start having a regular physical relationship with someone, I start to get emotionally attached as well. And that wouldn't be a good idea probably, because he has a very strange relationship with his roommate. His (28m) roommate (22f) "basically lives on my bed", they have sex sometimes but he considers them "sexually incompatible" and complains about "having a terrible sex life", yet she constantly "requires" his attention and "love" (his words), even though they're "not in a relationship" and she apparently has had sex with somebody else recently. Like when he was over