I've recently started watching a channel called One Topic at a Time, which I would highly recommend, although I'm not sure if OT refers to One Topic in this case or not January 04, 2021 at 11:52PM

Ah. Well it looks delicious! January 04, 2021 at 11:47PM

Hi! I’m still questioning about my level of romantic attraction, so I understand a lot of the anxieties you must have rn. Whenever I’ve dated in the past, I’m always worrying in the back of my head that I’m somehow leading them on because I don’t know if I have romantic attraction or not. My advice is just be upfront with your potential partner, I think a lot of people would be okay with a more platonic life partner, but it might take a while to find them! Also, it’s easy to think you’re being selfish, but your feelings are normal and valid. It’s okay to take time to think about your experiences with attraction and even change labels if you need to. I’ve tried loads of different labels to describe my romantic attraction and nothing quite fits yet, and that’s okay. January 04, 2021 at 11:44PM

I've been in three separate productions of this show. As Hamlet and other roles. I can see it range from uncomfortably sexual to aggressively sexual. But I fundamentally disagree the he's kissing her to throw a fit. And Hamlet's not 30, I know in the gravedigger scene he says he's roughly 30, but all the context clues in the play make it seem like he's maybe 24 at the oldest. We're just gonna have fundamentally different readings on this play, and that's ok. January 04, 2021 at 11:44PM

That's good to hear :) January 04, 2021 at 11:44PM

I just used a devils food cake mix and made chocolate butter cream. The white is just pre made frosting. The texture is just chocolate i grated with a cheese grater January 04, 2021 at 11:44PM

And then a third time for the greengrocers' apostrophe please. Nice meme though. January 04, 2021 at 11:44PM

Yeah. When I had a romantic crush on Darth Vader I said I liked him from behind and people would say "Oh she's an ass women". My asexual spectrum ass: I just like how shiny the helmet is. January 04, 2021 at 11:43PM

Can.... can I have this recipe? Maraschino cherries are so good and with chocolate... January 04, 2021 at 11:42PM

It really can be. You know, if I'm feeling like I just can't find the motivation to scrub the bath or something, sometimes I'll put on my nicest, most figure hugging dress, slap on some make up and all of a sudden I feel like I can take on the world! And that includes that soap scum. Loving how you look, dressing to make yourself feel good and powerful can be great tools of self affirmation. January 04, 2021 at 11:41PM

Reading this helps me find some comfort in the fact that I can just partake in those things without it having to possess another meaning!! January 04, 2021 at 11:39PM

I mean, I won't lie, I loved lego well into my teens and still do. I just stopped because I can't find the time rn. January 04, 2021 at 11:37PM

Hahaha yess! For the vibes! January 04, 2021 at 11:36PM

That makes a lot of sense! I guess my idea of doing so was still wrongly tied with the idea that it cannot be done just for oneself and must be for some others gaze or something or other. But you are right! It can be an act of self-love January 04, 2021 at 11:36PM

I love seeing the waifu smile. For me waifu are the girls who make you smile not the 2D characters you want fun time with. It goes from person to person though at the end. Any other asexual spectrum person on r/waifuism ? We need to flood with asexual waifu memes. January 04, 2021 at 11:33PM

Well, yeah, it's definitely possible to be both asexual and aromantic. Many people are, and many people aren't. You can be ace and not aro, aro and not ace, neither, or both, it just depends on what you're experiencing. January 04, 2021 at 11:33PM

That's tricky. If one half of the partnership isn't actually being a partner, you can't force them. If you're serious about him, these conversations need to happen, there's no way around it. Six years is more than long enough to have put this on hold. When you talk to him, what kind of language is being used? Is it more ' Why are you..?' 'I wish you just..? ' or is it more ' When X happens, I feel Y. I need you to work with me on this '? January 04, 2021 at 11:33PM

You are completely right thank you! And I love your dress from the photo btw! That thread is really cool! Did not know it existed January 04, 2021 at 11:32PM

thanks, i'm doing alright January 04, 2021 at 11:30PM

May I ask who or what OT is, for those of us unaware? January 04, 2021 at 11:30PM

Oh! I didn't mention Douglas Adams! Very mild romance in his books, if there's any at all, they're far more concerned with surrealism and existential questions on the fabric of life, the universe and everything. Hitchhiker's Guide to The Galaxy is still a great read. January 04, 2021 at 11:29PM

Just a little bit of job paggro I see I see January 04, 2021 at 11:25PM

I think there's a distinction between what you're doing publicly and what you're doing privately. Privately, do whatever you like! It's hurting absolutely no one to privately explore tour attraction to a character. Publicly, I think when characters have a minority orientation, people should respect that. It's still completely fine to say you find them attractive! Finding someone attractive is about you, not about them. But when it comes to fanart or fanfic or headcanons or any other way you might participate in fandom, I would say you should only share things that respect the character's orientation. (I'm in a fandom where it was recently revealed that a character was aroace and people posting smut or shipping fic with them really upsets me, honestly. It feels like being asexual/aromantic is being treated as an inconvenience that just gets in the way of sex and romance, like it's not worth telling stories about people like me. And the world we live i...