Demisexual is when you function as an asexual until you form a particular connection with someone, and after that you function as an allosexual with them with full sexual attraction. You can be anywhere on the asexual or allosexual spectrums. Demiromantic is the same, except romantic attraction instead of sexual attraction. It sounds to me like you would be asexual and demiromantic. Asexuality is very specifically about not experiencing sexual attraction towards others. That's the entire deal. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards others, you're asexual. It's not all that complicated, really. It doesn't matter why. Could be trauma, hormones, or you were just always that way. Cause is irrelevant to the label. Asexuality has nothing to do with: romantic attraction, kissing, cuddling, gender preferences, masturbation, porn, kinks, or actually having sex. It's just about sexual attraction towards others. Some sex repulsed asexuals will use porn or ma

Wanting to post this myself and was checking whether it already had been! May 01, 2021 at 12:01AM

Also you owe him no pleasantries at all. April 30, 2021 at 11:56PM

delicious April 30, 2021 at 11:54PM

I'm not sure what advice you're looking for. Opening the marriage is a no go, sex is a no go - are you willing to give up sex for the rest of your life or not? Is there a third option I'm not seeing besides you committing to never having sex again and you guys getting divorced? Sorry if that's harsh, just I've experienced the resentment that can build in allo partners over time. Sometimes it's better for everyone involved to meet the hard realities head on instead of putting it off April 30, 2021 at 11:54PM

I tried to date a girl as an ace. Like her romantically, going well. She came out as aro ace. Now there’s two of us! In a small backwoods school. And I think I know a third. April 30, 2021 at 11:52PM

Yet April 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Fried chicken mmmmmmmmmmm April 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Okay, thank you. I'll do my best. April 30, 2021 at 11:49PM

I don't think you're going to hear "you're too young" on this sub. You are valid. Just because I didn't figure it out until I was 35 doesn't mean you can't figure it out earlier. I think you're very right to be annoyed about this kind of crap. April 30, 2021 at 11:49PM

Thanks! I'll definitely look that up. :) I actually really love the crunchy feeling, too. Used to prefer bare feet to shoes growing up; there's something comforting about feeling the ground with your feet (for me, anyway). :) April 30, 2021 at 11:49PM

This!! April 30, 2021 at 11:49PM

Oh god no don't talk to him about it. I would definitely talk to the therapist whenever you can do so privately. April 30, 2021 at 11:47PM

I think that feel good crunchy sound you’re describing is asmr! Not everyone gets it but when you do it usually is a feel good tingly feeling. Try looking it up on youtube, I usually like listening to unintentional asmr. April 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

It's not your fault. I just don't really know what to do. I want to talk to my therapist about this but I've been doing virtual appointments and live with other people so I don't really want to say it out loud. The idea of people finding out is kind of terrifying honestly. I don't want anything bad to happen to him. I've been running over different scenarios of me telling him what we did was rape and how he'd react and I just don't think I can do it. It doesn't help that my therapist has the same first name as his mom... April 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

Very unprofessional on her part. Your feelings and experiences are completely valid. April 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

thanks :) there are a lot of cool flags in the community, I bet yours is good too. April 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

Pay no mind to what they recommend, i only ever put my goals, my profession and time zone, sometimes age and have had luck. If you do decide to revive your discord account send me a dm and I'll add you to my friends list. April 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

If consent was not given then yes. I'm sorry. April 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

“A ring bearer” love that 😂 April 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

nom April 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

Thanks for the recommend! I had a quick look, not sure if giving out personal info like they recommend is my jam. I suppose I could revive my Discord account... I'm a beginner as well, so I might hit you up in a thoroughly non-creepy fashion. :) April 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

We did some stuff (I won't go into detail). I did not provide consent and if I were asked I would have said no I think. I don't know honestly, I know I didn't like what we did. April 30, 2021 at 11:39PM