edit: just realized you ARE the commenter that mentioned Asperger's, so please ignore any bits that make it sound like you aren't Autistic!!! My point being, had the person just straight out asked you, instead of expecting you to understand in the same unspoken way, life would have been much easier, imo. It takes a lot of mental energy for me to be engaged in a conversation the way Neurotypicals (in general) expect me to be. People think that ASD 1/Asperger's just means you have a social disorder, but I literally can't block out stimulus. My eyes see everything. Every movement, leaves, flowers, color, light. It can be great but also really overwhelming if I'm in a very decorated restaurant, and I'm cataloguing everything, looking for patterns, noticing every person, aware of the number of times servers went to other tables, that woman with the black hair and the plaid top just coughed...what did my friend just say? Then there's noise. The world is a con...

Hey I’ve never heard of it but I’m reading about it now. It seems to be that this conditions seems to affect people who used to find enjoyment/pleasure in activities and then for reason end up not being able to usually due to a mental illnesses or disorder? The thing is I’ve never enjoyed sex. I’m sure there are exceptions to the rule though as with most things in life. My partner doesn’t think I’m asexual but I thought posting here and asking would help give some form of clarification since the spectrum seems to be so wide and variable. As for a doctor no I haven’t. I’m worried I’m going to be met with ignorant responses of “oh you just haven’t explored your body right” “or try this method” yada yada you know? Plus I’m very anxious talking about this especially with a Dr it’s like kinda my worst fear but it is definitely something I should get done. June 14, 2019 at 12:34AM

This. That business about "not liking labels" just sounds like "oh, you're not interested in sex? I'm totally cool with that. But hey, why paint yourself into a corner? You may change your mind later. Who needs labels." He has no right to tell you how to label yourself and his behaviour is abusive. June 14, 2019 at 12:34AM

My husband cant get a boner unless its from a hard blow job usually only from going all the way down. Once he has a boner we have to move fast to do either piv with him on top (if i get on top it goes soft and alot of times piv can still make him soft) or anal or continuing a very rough blow job. Is there anything I could do to make this easier on me? Alot of times this hurts or i gag or throw up or get turned off (which is fine I only rarely want to be into it) Weve been trying to take it easier fof about a yeaf to no avail. Submitted June 13, 2019 at 11:54PM My husband cant get a boner unless its from a hard blow job usually only from going all the way down. Once he has a boner we have to move fast to do either piv with him on top (if i get on top it goes soft and alot of times piv can still make him soft) or anal or continuing a very rough blow job. Is there anything I could do to make this easier on me? Alot of times this hurts or i gag or throw up or get turned off (which ...

I kind of get hard when we are kissing but we went to have sex the other night and I couldn’t even feel my dick. It was literally like nothing was there. I have a small flaccid anyway and the girl thought I had a micro or some shit. I’ve never had sex before. Can never get hard. I do get random boners but I’ve been trying to visualize all day about this girl and there is no mind/penis connection at all. I can get hard watching porn but it takes me to really go at it with my hand. I haven’t watched porn for 7 days, this girls. Interest came out of nowhere, the sex incident was 3 nights ago. I’m 29. I’m super attracted to this girl, her body is exactly my type, nice and athletic an her face is gorgeous. Maybe I need to view her more sexually. B Submitted June 13, 2019 at 11:55PM I kind of get hard when we are kissing but we went to have sex the other night and I couldn’t even feel my dick. It was literally like nothing was there. I have a small flaccid anyway and the girl thought...

So I just got into a relationship with this girl and just to be clear this is the very first sexual relationship we’ve had. So a couple months we started dating I found that I had small, pimple like bumps around the tip of my penis but mostly ignored it because I knew that it couldn’t have been anything serious. So now fast forward to now, we haven’t had full on PIV sex, but we have had oral and we’ve been doing this for a few weeks. Apparently today she tells me that she’s been getting pimples around her mouth and I drew the connection to the pimples on my dick to her around her mouth. I’m really scared I might have herpes but more importantly given her the STD. Submitted June 13, 2019 at 11:57PM So I just got into a relationship with this girl and just to be clear this is the very first sexual relationship we’ve had. So a couple months we started dating I found that I had small, pimple like bumps around the tip of my penis but mostly ignored it because I knew that it couldn...

So I (24f) have a major allergy to latex, like I can’t blow up balloons without an epipen nearby. So I have the option of using non-latex condoms, but I have an IUD and my boyfriend (26m) and I both enjoy sex more when he cums in my vagina. The only problem is that I consistently get yeast infections after we’ve had sex. We only have sex about once a week because we live about an hour away from each other, so it’s not like I’m infected 24-7, but it’s enough that I’m taking more anti-fungals than I’d like to be taking. I know you’re never supposed to douche your vagina, but y’all... what am I supposed to do to prevent these yeast infections? Is there some magic ingredient I can shove up my hoo-ha to make it a happy microbiome every time he drops his swimmers off at the pool? Avoidance isn’t really an option, we’ve tried pulling out and we both end up forgetting by the end of the sessions... Submitted June 13, 2019 at 11:59PM So I (24f) have a major allergy to latex, like I can...

Sorry if this is a stupid question or should I ask another reddit: My bf and I have been dating for a few months and the condom ALWAYS break. We’ve used trojans, Durex, Magnums, some fire and ice shit. Is it me or is it him lol Submitted June 14, 2019 at 12:07AM Sorry if this is a stupid question or should I ask another reddit: My bf and I have been dating for a few months and the condom ALWAYS break. We’ve used trojans, Durex, Magnums, some fire and ice shit. Is it me or is it him lol

A few hours ago I was hanging out with a friend. That friend introduced me to another friend and the newly-introduced friend proceeded to hit on me for about two hours straight. I didn't pick up on anything until our mutual friend just said yo would you like to go out on a date with him. June 14, 2019 at 12:26AM

I got e.g. and i.e. mixed up there and thought they were saying that Asexual was the only other sexuality but they still put it under "other". June 14, 2019 at 12:25AM

Wait, is that a thing? Aces not wanting pizza? June 14, 2019 at 12:24AM

Been there, done that. June 14, 2019 at 12:22AM

*she 🙃 June 14, 2019 at 12:18AM

I was chatting with a woman at a bar. She kept touching me, we talked about when I was leaving town (the next day) and she mentioned that she was not dying anything important at work, and that I could sleep on the plane. I hope she knows that it wasn't personal. June 14, 2019 at 12:15AM

This doesnt sound like asexuality. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction not sexual sensation. Have you spoken to a doctor about your loss of sensation? Off the top of my head, physical anhedonia might be a culprit? June 14, 2019 at 12:14AM

Nice June 14, 2019 at 12:13AM

I recently met this guy off bumble a week ago and our date went well, he paid for dinner and we had a decent conversation about our lives, careers, etc. We're booked in for another date this Sat, and he's been texting me every day since our initial meeting. I've been pretty busy and tired lately with work stuff so I don't feel particularly like responding all the time, and I also feel like meeting once is too soon to expect me to text him back daily responding to 'good morning how are you' type stuff. Once he even joked 'I hope the people at your internship are nice but you don't forget about me'. On the one hand it's nice to know that he's interested, and I totally understand the insecurity of him not knowing what's going on with me and making sure he's remembered. On the other hand it's really strange to expect me to be so invested after one date, I feel like he's already placed a lot of expectations on me. Submitted J...

Your last line hit a little close to home :) June 14, 2019 at 12:11AM

This sort of thing has seemingly happened to me a lot. One day I realised that an event from years earlier was an obvious flirt. Then I realised the same thing about a bunch of other moments. Conclusion: every single girl in the world has tried, or will try, to fly with me. But that's just silly. Maybe a few of these moments were flirts, but many probably won't. Maybe some people are interested in me but not everybody. Conclusion: I have no idea how the world works and human interaction is incredibly scary and confusing. It's not for me. I should just stay home and drink whisky whilst eating garlic bread. June 14, 2019 at 12:07AM

acephobia has always been really weird to me, just hating us for doing literally nothing June 14, 2019 at 12:06AM

lol, “nope” is a good way to describe most of my relationships June 14, 2019 at 12:03AM

No kids. Ever. Under any circumstances. Nothing about being a mother is even remotely appealing to me. I’m childfree by orientation. I’ve never wanted kids. June 14, 2019 at 12:02AM

oh very nice!!! June 13, 2019 at 11:57PM