Yesterday, my [23F] boyfriend [23M] of 6 months confessed that he cheated on me last Monday with his ex[20F]. Just a little backstory, he got his ex pregnant a few years ago and broke up last year because his ex cheated on him twice. The child’s currently with his ex and he comes every often at the ex’s place to visit him. They used to take turns in taking care of him but the kid just suddenly didn’t want to stay at his father / my boyfriend’s place. I already knew him back then and I’m well aware on what situation he’s in before I dated him. Now it happened last Monday when he went to visit his child. They had sex before he went home and confessed to me on Wednesday. He knew that I’d break up with him once he fools around with his ex and told me he confessed because he loves me and felt guilty and disgusted after doing it. He said he didn’t love his ex and never had feelings for her ever since their breakup and he was just caught in the moment. Ex has been dropping hints since las...

I had a friend who had been in my life for nineteen years. She has some mental health issues that have caused her to be unable to maintain relationships both romantic and plutonic. She has a victim complex and would constantly hijack conversations to make them about her. She lied constantly and would attack me out of nowhere and would get irrationally irate when I told her that her actions had hurt me. She was fully and completely unable to take any form of criticism and would become emotionally and mentally unhinged if anyone suggested that she had done something wrong. I tried so hard to keep our friendship going, but she hurt me so badly and so deeply on so many occasions. She took advantage of my compassion and eagerness to help her. She made belittling comments to my fiance and was jealous that I had started my career as a designer and was in a healthy and committed relationship with my man (she had failed to get a job after graduating from college as she turned her nose up at ev...

My brother is pretty popular not only in my school, but in our ‘community’. He has hundreds of friends and has over 1,000 followers on social media so if he did something stupid a lot of people would know. I have a lot of friends because of my brother, but it’s not really a good things sometimes. My brother graduated the 2019 school year, but he and one of our teachers (she’s in her mid 40s) were suspected to have an inapprorpiate relationship. It was horrible, but I was lucky that it happened towards the end of the school year and things kind of died down during summer. The things is, they were investigating the teacher since some students reported that she was too touchy and flirty with him in class and that supposably somebody saw her give him her personal phone number. At first I didn’t believe it until now that the teacher was fired after they investigated more. So apparently my brother either started or kept seeing her over summer and that they made a sex tape and after invest...

What the heck that's horrible. And it also shows sexism with focus on making her a mother. I'm disgusted. At homophobia and acephobia both October 10, 2019 at 12:03AM

Splat Zones? Woomy! October 10, 2019 at 12:00AM

Oh, that green flag looks very similar to the aromantic flag, but it is actually the grayromantic flag, since I know I do experience romantic attraction, but only every once in a while. Of course, all grayromantics experience romantic attraction in different ways and at varying amounts & number of instances. October 10, 2019 at 12:00AM

How can I be sure You could get your hormones checked. If it comes back normal, that's pretty good evidence that it's just how you are and not some sort of disease October 09, 2019 at 11:59PM

Holy shit, it's like the person is trolling on purpose. You handled it pretty well and I honestly would have reacted the same way. I recommend you report that user and maybe block them. Sidenote : Hope this didn't ruin your post, and that someone contacted you. You mentioned that you were depressed; I know how tough depression can be, having someone to share the pain with helps, but make sure you are emotionally ready for it. Trust me, a relationship is not a cure for all negative thoughts, its just a bandaid, and sometimes, if the wound hasnt healed, the blood will flow through it. October 09, 2019 at 11:59PM

Doubt he “misunderstood”. He probably got shat on(rightfully so) and tried to save face by saying he didn’t get it. October 09, 2019 at 11:51PM

What the title says. Third date with this girl. The first 2 have been my ideas, and I'd love to see what she wants to do. Probably a simple question but I'm totally stumped right now lol, how do I phrase this where I ask for a third date but invite her to plan it? Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:35PM What the title says. Third date with this girl. The first 2 have been my ideas, and I'd love to see what she wants to do. Probably a simple question but I'm totally stumped right now lol, how do I phrase this where I ask for a third date but invite her to plan it?

Literally so few guys talk to me (17f) that when a guy actually initiates conversation with me I consider liking him. In the past week I’ve like started “crushing” on two people. But like honestly it’s just cuz they talk to me in class. So I’m like wtf guys don’t talk to me and you talk to me that’s crazy. Even tho we’re just talking about stuff related to class. It’s not even like I want a boyfriend i mean that would be nice but I just want some nice guy friends who I can genuinely bond with. Like I enjoy talking to guys I just feel like they would rather talk to their guy friends than with me. Does that make any sense lol Edit: for clarity, I just want to get some really good guy friends at least. If I get a boyfriend that would be awesome too. But that’s not the main point. The title was just me trying to be succinct. Sorry for any confusion. Edit 2: I am in high school. Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:36PM Literally so few guys talk to me (17f) that when a guy actually in...

I [20F] was speaking to a guy I know, I’ve had lectures with him before. He [21M] was genuinely a nice person, and he asked me for my number and texted me and he was just so nice and kind. I honestly haven’t spoken to him too much in person but he’s the kind of person that is well-spoken and just sounds smart and ugh why do I like him so much. He’s attentive and attractive and when we tell texted he genuinely listened to what I had to say and he responded quickly and well and I must have been stupid to assume maybe he liked me back. Anyway it’s been a few weeks since he ghosted me and I know he mustn’t like me, which I’m fine with because sometimes I did have to ask myself did I really like him? Did I want to date him? but there’s no use asking myself this anyway because he doesn’t want to date me. Anyway. Now I’ve been back to swiping on tinder and I’ve matched with some fantastic guys. They’re so attractive and they’re actually flirting with me, and it’s nice conversations. But I ...

So I met this guy on an app he's 29 and I'm 26, honestly at first I wasn't super interested, but then we had an actual phone conversation and were up till 5am because it was just so good. Then I drove to meet him, about an hour away, we had a really good day together, and did end up getting it on (which was otherworldly I must say? I'm not usually impressed by sex with guys honestly). Then things slow down for a few days, and he gets back in touch, and is as talkative as before, begs me to come see him again, so I did. And this was in like a week and a half span. We went on a move date and I stayed the night with him before driving back home the next morning for work. It's been almost a week since I saw him last and we've talked once, where he asked me what was wrong cause I was being a little sad on snapchat. But that's been it. I dont know if I'm overthinking things and maybe he's just not a talk everyday type? Because when we do talk he is fully ...

I’m a senior in high school and recently started dating my dream girl about 2 weeks ago. I thought I would be happier than ever and at some points I am but for some reason I go through intense waves of insecurity and anxiety when I’m not with her. I’ll have three day periods where I can’t focus on anything because I’m so anxious thinking about how I can present myself better to my gf, but then i’ll have similarly long periods where I am having the best time of my life with her. I’ve told her about this anxiety problem I’ve been having and explain it as “i just want to make everything perfect” and she always replies with “it doesn’t have to be”. Can someone please explain what’s happening to me and how to avoid it. Thanks <3 Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:41PM I’m a senior in high school and recently started dating my dream girl about 2 weeks ago. I thought I would be happier than ever and at some points I am but for some reason I go through intense waves of insecurity and...

I want to preface this that we have been dating for a year and I have no issues with him having female friends; if anything I encourage it. He recently got a job so I don't see him often with me being at university, however on his time off he has taken to meeting with a girl. He stated once that he could see himself dating her if things were different and he discussed intamacies that I haven't really told anyone eles as I have issues regarding previous sexual encounters. I don't think he's cheating on me, he just seems to have moved on in a way? He keeps doing things then telling me later on like an afterthought, I don't want to lose him but he doesn't seem like he wants to stay? Do most guys have talks about sex with other women or am i just being paranoid. I'm sorry if this shouldn't be here I can remove it or if this is too vague I just don't want someone who knows me to find it. Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:44PM I want to preface this ...

I’m 16 and I’m a junior in high school. There’s a freshman I like, but I don’t know if I should go talk to her. Would it be weird or should I just stay away? Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:44PM I’m 16 and I’m a junior in high school. There’s a freshman I like, but I don’t know if I should go talk to her. Would it be weird or should I just stay away?

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So I (16m) recently got dumped by my girlfriend now ex (16f) and I’ve been in touch with my one really good friend who’s also a girl (15f) and has been there for me for awhile, and has always brought a smile to my face. I think I’m falling in live with her but I’m not sure what to do. If I tell her and the feeling isn’t mutual our friendship could be over but on the other hand if she does like me then it could be great. What should I do? Also how can I tell if she’s into me? TLDR: In love with my friend what do I do? How do I tell if she’s into me? Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:48PM So I (16m) recently got dumped by my girlfriend now ex (16f) and I’ve been in touch with my one really good friend who’s also a girl (15f) and has been there for me for awhile, and has always brought a smile to my face. I think I’m falling in live with her but I’m not sure what to do. If I tell her and the feeling isn’t mutual our friendship could be over but on the other hand if she does like me...

Allow me to elaborate. I am interested in this guy who happens to be in his early 30s while I, myself, am 10 years his junior. The only reason why I’m asking this is because individuals in their 30s are far more different (life wise) versus those in their 20s. I am very mature for my age, so it’s not exactly a maturity thing, but more of a life-level situation. I’m almost graduating with my bachelors while he’s established and owns his own home (I still live with my parents because I’m saving up). Would this cause issues? What are your thoughts? Thank you! Submitted October 09, 2019 at 11:53PM Allow me to elaborate. I am interested in this guy who happens to be in his early 30s while I, myself, am 10 years his junior. The only reason why I’m asking this is because individuals in their 30s are far more different (life wise) versus those in their 20s. I am very mature for my age, so it’s not exactly a maturity thing, but more of a life-level situation. I’m almost graduating with ...

Ok this is a long one, I'll start off with a short resume of how my dating life evolved and then I'll share I was never really interested in dating in high school, I had troubles at home and my interactions with classmates were very strained. At around 18-19 years old however I guess late puberty hit me real hard and my face and build changed drastically(and I got terrible stretch marks from it haha) One very good looking teacher noticed it and I got laid the first time. After high school I changed completely in looks and managed to make a career for myself and escape from my beginnings. I found that women show great interest in me, at least in terms of physical attractiveness and I could easily get dates and have sex, however I found out that dating isn't what I originally imagined - after we have sex I feel extremely lonely, I feel no connection, it's worse than being alone. What I really wanted was to have a normal relationship. I've met 4 girls in my lif...

Cuffing season refers to a specific time of year when people become extremely motivated to get "coupled up." It generally occurs from October to March. You know, the cooler months of the year. As the temperature drops, the number of couples rise.    Cuffing season falls smack dab in the middle of the holiday season. Is it because we are feeling more generous and giving during this time, and we need a partner to spoil? Not exactly. It is more likely that we tend to feel pressure to be in a relationship during this time of year due to the messaging we are getting from the entertainment industry, advertisers, social media, friends, and family. There are the questions you get at the holiday party or family function, like, “You dating anyone yet?” I got together with my fiancé at the beginning of December, so perhaps there’s merit to the Cuffing season.  If you notice you’re getting more activity on your apps, it might just be that time of the ...

So this all started 3 days ago when a couple of friends(F19,F20) of mine asked me(M20) if I was open to being set up to go on a date with a person they knew. The next day while i was sitting on the bench outside the student apartment my friends showed up and told me that it was set for that evening. Typically i go and get ready, we met at a sushi place and well everything went great and she seemed like a really nice girl however not the type i'd go for. One of the reasons being she was wearing way too much makeup for me to find her romantically attractive plus she's 2yrs my senior. I get back to the apartment and my friends start their usual interrogation of how it went, i expressed how it was good but that I'm not into girls who use massive amounts of makeup(i only know this because there was a huge crease of powder/foundation on my shirt after we hugged goodbye). They both got furious and told me that wasn't a good enough reason but i just got into my dorm and told t...

I'm 26F and the guy I'm dating 31M has mentioned having sex without a condom. We currently use condoms and he has lost his erection several times because he says he can't feel anything. I'm considering having sex without a condom because I want him to like having sex like I do. I'm on birth control (nuvaring) but using a condom makes me feel even better after having sex because I know for certain the chances of me being pregnant are so so low. Another thing holding me from using a condom is that we are not exclusive. I don't know if he's dating other women and if he is I don't know if he's using condoms with them. He says he isn't seeing anyone else but I have my doubts because he and I are both on the app that we met off of. He hasn't pressured me he just mentioned it a couple times and I told him I'd think about it. Do women use a condom or not when they are on birth control and non exclusively dating? Any advice would be appreciated. ...