I actually discovered "aceflux" on this subreddit in a meme. I dunno if it's just me, but it feels nice to have words to describe what I'm feeling. It means I'm not alone. June 22, 2021 at 12:05AM

Oooh you've gave me a lot to think about, thank you for your reply, its unfortunately not saved me from the "getting to the bottom of it" syndrome but its gave me a lot to think about :D I didn't entirely understand your first paragraph, sex negative cultures? Like ones that don't speak about it? As for the last sentence oh man.. June 22, 2021 at 12:05AM

All humanity romantic makes it sounds wholesome. I dont mind! June 22, 2021 at 12:03AM

Yep though I was bi or pan I liked people from across the spectrum equally and found both guys, girls and nb attractive little did I realize that no that is not sexual or romantic attraction but ascetic. To be fair I was also a really dumb aroace June 22, 2021 at 12:01AM

Its on the website!!! June 21, 2021 at 11:59PM

cakesexual spotted! June 21, 2021 at 11:59PM

Hey there! I had a very similar experience to the one you described, aside from me being a guy - I vaguely remember a 'crush' when I was like 5 or 6, and beyond that the most attraction I've felt to another person is along the lines of "When/if I get a girlfriend, it'll be someone like her". The criteria for that was basically be a girl and be enjoyable to hang out with, certainly no butterflies or "strong and strange urges" as I'd had them described to me. Celebrities were the same too; I could tell which ones were attractive, but it didn't and doesn't actually mean anything to me. It's more like I've just built up the mental image of what other people find attractive so I know what they're talking about. It's perfectly fine to ask questions if you're not sure about something (hell, you could even say that's the best time to be asking questions), so no need to worry about that. Unfortunately, I can't real...

All my yes, especially when I'm at supermarket and I see the same handsome man over and over again..😳 June 21, 2021 at 11:58PM

The only one of these I can kinda understand is the trauma thing. Like specifically, if you think that asexual essentially means what we would call a sex repulsed ace (which I imagine many/most people not familiar with the spectrum do), then it's not much of a leap to think that could be caused by sex related trauma (because it absolutely can be). If you're also someone with little life experience who hasn't really met or talked to asexual people, it's not hard to hit a mental block of "well everybody wants sex normally, so there must be something wrong". It's still based entirely in ignorance and a lack of imagination (and critical thinking for that matter), but it's at least somewhat understandable. June 21, 2021 at 11:57PM

As a non-ace someone dating an ace your comment made me feel like some things I would consider as needs are trivial or childish and I should just get over it. It’s incredibly hard sometimes feeling like this in a relationship with someone I care about so much already, it really hurts to see what I think are reasonable opinions being invalidated like that. I feel like in the context of a relationship most people would consider some sexual preferences, or lack thereof, as a need and that should be perfectly acceptable. I’m incredibly sorry you had to go through that, and I hope you find happiness if you haven’t already, but as someone on the other side I’m begging people to understand it’s hard for us too. June 21, 2021 at 11:57PM

thank you for exposing me to the term "aceflux"! June 21, 2021 at 11:56PM

I've studied good working conditions and intense light or light mode does not cause migraines on their own. Actually it's healthier to read black text on white backgrounds. The problem is when you have a light screen in a dark room and vice versa, as your pupils need to increase and decrease in size very often, which strains the muscles and causes migranes. June 21, 2021 at 11:56PM

Where do I pay?💳💳💳 June 21, 2021 at 11:55PM

Im not asexual, but im part of the lgbt community and really like aces! If i did turn ace, it would be due to trauma, and trauma is a valid reason to turn ace, but its not the only reason. Have some bread my aces 🍞 June 21, 2021 at 11:54PM

Yes! I discovered what bi was and figured that must be it. Then I discovered asexuality and was so sure that was me. When I started learning more about asexuality I realized that I'm actually panROMANTIC and aceflux lol. It was always confusing for me when I'd go through phase of just thinking sex was so gross and being told to "grow up" because I was going "to get married and have sex eventually". Funnily enough, being married doesn't stop the fact that I spend a good chunk of time being majority grossed out and not interested in sex even though I'm usually sex-favorable or sex-indifferent depending on the day. Go figure. Sex being gross might be a phase, but it's a phase I go through on a regular basis. 😂 June 21, 2021 at 11:54PM

I didn't know for so long what it meant so maybe it's an ace thing lmao June 21, 2021 at 11:53PM

Yaaaaaaaaaas! I’m also here for it. Purple is the best hair color, amiright? June 21, 2021 at 11:53PM

"pretty people are my weakness" is a fat mood June 21, 2021 at 11:51PM

Oh my, I just turned 22 in May, does it go for a-spec as well? Follow up question, am I now immortal? June 21, 2021 at 11:50PM

That's okay, my therapist said he needed therapy after meeting me. I only half think he was joking?!?! June 21, 2021 at 11:49PM

LITERALLY ME! All throughout middle and high school I thought I was pan, and when I tried sexual things with my significant other at the time, I thought it was natural to feel nothing/bored/waiting for it to end. It wasn't until quarantine that I really looked into the sexuality spectrum and realized I was ace! June 21, 2021 at 11:49PM

I was always told it was a sin to share a bed with a member of the opposite sex you aren’t married to and I never understood why. Sleeping isn’t sex. When I slept at my boyfriend’s in college we took turns with the couch because his brother would get mad. I never understood why we couldn’t share a bed. Nor why living together before marriage was bad so long as you weren’t having sex. June 21, 2021 at 11:49PM

I love me some sexy cake :))) June 21, 2021 at 11:49PM